Ever moved someplace you've never been by choice?

  1. Anyone ever moved someplace by choice they've never even visited? I am thinking of relocating within the next year and the place I am thinking of moving to I've never even been. I just sent off for information from their local chamber of commerce and did some research on the area and have been reading their local paper daily for the past few months to get an idea of the place. I'm just not happy with where I'm currently at. I didn't move here from NYC by choice and just don't feel like this is the place for me to settle down. Don't get me wrong, this is a beautiful state (NC) with a lot of nice places to visit but it's just not what feels like home to me. I would love to go back to NYC but the cost of living since I left is so outrageous now. I'm really thinking of going to the midwest. I have an area picked out but I'll keep that part to myself for right now. I don't know anyone in this place and never visited (something I WOULD do if I decided I really am going to go there). If you've taken this "risk", as my family calls it, what were your experiences and how did it work out for you?
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  3. by   ayndim
    Quote from szccdw
    Anyone ever moved someplace by choice they've never even visited? I am thinking of relocating within the next year and the place I am thinking of moving to I've never even been. I just sent off for information from their local chamber of commerce and did some research on the area and have been reading their local paper daily for the past few months to get an idea of the place. I'm just not happy with where I'm currently at. I didn't move here from NYC by choice and just don't feel like this is the place for me to settle down. Don't get me wrong, this is a beautiful state (NC) with a lot of nice places to visit but it's just not what feels like home to me. I would love to go back to NYC but the cost of living since I left is so outrageous now. I'm really thinking of going to the midwest. I have an area picked out but I'll keep that part to myself for right now. I don't know anyone in this place and never visited (something I WOULD do if I decided I really am going to go there). If you've taken this "risk", as my family calls it, what were your experiences and how did it work out for you?
    Three times I have moved first, looked later. The first was to Washington, DC. I loved it and had a great time. Then it was time to move on so I got a work permit and heading off to England. I was there for 3 years and I loved it. Many of my beliefs were formed during that time, such as using a midwife, not circing. It was wonderful. I am still close with the friends I made while I was there. And I am trying to convince my hubby to move back with me. I would love to raise my kids there. After my work permit expired I decided I was not ready to come back to the US and went to Spain (Alaro, in Mallorca) as an Au Pair. I liked it but the small village mentality got to me. Very different from the US. Very restrictive. I would have been happier had I went to Madrid, but I still look back at my time there with happiness.

    Lastly, it might not count but I was in the military so I had the chance to be moved (although not entirely my choice) and also enjoyed that.

    Go for it. You never know when you might have the chance to do it again.
  4. by   CHATSDALE
    I often did just that before the kids started to school....go for it you will always find something good ..just stick a pin in a map and go for it
  5. by   SmilingBluEyes
    yes i have many times, being a military wife. and we made it work each time!
    Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Jun 28, '04
  6. by   klone
    Yep, we did it over a year ago. We lived in Minneapolis and were totally sick of the weather and the city life. We knew we wanted to live in the Southwest, so we asked my BIL, who works for AZ Game and Fish and travels all over the state, where he would live if he could live anywhere in the state, and he said Prescott. So after some research on the internet, we sold our house and here we are. We love it here!
  7. by   !nurse!
    undefinedundefinedundefinedno, but i would love to if the oportunity arose. i have lived in the same area for my entire life. if you have the chance, jump on it!
  8. by   mattsmom81
    We picked up and moved from Minnesota to Texas...sometimes I have some regrets. but that gets us nowhere wondering in 20-20 hindsite...LOL! We had our reasons...bad economy in Mn at the time, no work for my hubby...it was a change but we weathered it and raised our kid here. Hubby has found work plentiful here. Nursing is not the same here (nonunion atmosphere, employment at will state) but I keep pluggin'.

    If it appeals to you to move, by all means look into it is my advice! From here on out we will move for my hubby's job OR for retirement reasons..looking forward to a milder climate with a low cost of living in the next 20 yrs.
  9. by   shel_wny
    We picked up and moved 1500 miles away on a whim. It took us exactly 24 hours straight to drive here.
    It was the best thing we ever did. One day I just looked on the map and said "Let's move to Buffalo." My husband said "Ok" and so we did.
    We had no apartment, no jobs, nothing at all except for the U-haul we drove here and about $1000. It was exciting, scary, nerve-wracking and thrilling all at once!
    We found work and an apt within a week and just before our hotel money was gone.
    I waited tables and stocked overnight while my husband stocked overnight and looked for another part-time job by day.
    Here we are 2 years later with different, better jobs of course but still in the same area.
    We love western New York. It's beautiful here and close to Canada.

    In short - GO FOR IT!

    In the Spirit of Adventure,
    Shel
    Last edit by shel_wny on Jun 30, '04
  10. by   jnette
    Do it all the time ! I have what's known as "itchy feet".

    I love to see what's out there... as far as making it work? It's what YOU make OF it ! Get out there and see what's on the other side of that mountain !!!

    ( *musical notes* "ohhhhhhhhhh...the bear went over the mtn., the bear went over the mtn., YES! the bear went over the mounTAIN..................... to see what he could see.) :chuckle

    Perhaps it was this song I used to sing as a kid all the time that gave me these itchy feet.
  11. by   Energizer Bunny
    Yep, one other girl and I moved to AZ without ever having been there. I regret it only becuause when we got there, our jobs were not as solid as we thought and thing quickly went downhill from there........
  12. by   DG5
    Anyone ever move with five kids in tow from a massive city to a small small town in the middle of nowhere without any job offers at the age of 40+?
    I think AGE is a definite factor- you definitely are less flexible as time goes by
    KIDS/FAMILY are a huge consideration- how is it going to affect them...forever?
    My husband had never ever moved anywhere in his entire life, and I had done lots and lots of moves all over, so for me it was way way easier. He had a terrible time trying to get used to the idea that he had to get rid of stuff that he had accumulated in one place for so long.
    What is the motivating factor to move? I think you have to know what "HOME" means to you. Is it quietness and privacy or is it excitement and busyness? What are you wanting in a new place that you don't have now? Is it friendship? And the ability to change these factors - do they lie within you or is the new place going to change it? These are a lot of questions I had to ask myself...
  13. by   mercyteapot
    Quote from szccdw
    Anyone ever moved someplace by choice they've never even visited? I am thinking of relocating within the next year and the place I am thinking of moving to I've never even been. I just sent off for information from their local chamber of commerce and did some research on the area and have been reading their local paper daily for the past few months to get an idea of the place. I'm just not happy with where I'm currently at. I didn't move here from NYC by choice and just don't feel like this is the place for me to settle down. Don't get me wrong, this is a beautiful state (NC) with a lot of nice places to visit but it's just not what feels like home to me. I would love to go back to NYC but the cost of living since I left is so outrageous now. I'm really thinking of going to the midwest. I have an area picked out but I'll keep that part to myself for right now. I don't know anyone in this place and never visited (something I WOULD do if I decided I really am going to go there). If you've taken this "risk", as my family calls it, what were your experiences and how did it work out for you?
    I moved to San Diego site unseen in 1986. I had a summer job at the Grand Canyon, and when it ended, some friends were moving to San Diego. I knew I was ready for a change from Pittsburgh winters and that I could find another nursing job in San Diego just as easily as in Pgh (I had to quit the one I had to take the summer job) I had a grand total of $400 to my name when I made the move. We rented a $600 apt with the rent split 4 ways. By September, I was the only one still in San Diego! Two went back to their hometowns and one went back to the Grand Canyon. She had started dating a man who was in a career position there right before we left, but after a couple weeks here, he called her and invited her back "to talk". She came home from that weekend and said she was moving back to be with him. I've lost touch with her, but as of about the mid 90s, they were still together, and still at the Grand Canyon. And I'm still here in San Diego!
  14. by   HisTreasure
    I moved to Atlanta, GA from NY by choice. My husband has family there and he didn't want to live in NY anymore. This was before we were married, I was still in college. He was willing to stay and wait for me, but he was really miserable and missing his family...so I encouraged him to go. I said if we were meant to be together, then we would be. I finally convinced him. We were engaged, and after a six month seperation/long distance relationship I decided I would leave school and follow him. Because I am not a huge fan of co-habitation, he flew back up to New York and we had a small church wedding instead of the wedding we were planning. Two days after the wedding he and I drove back to GA. I had only been there once before, about a month before my wedding, so my parents could see were I would be living, and what the city was like. That visit was only for the weekend. :uhoh21:

    A year later my husband's job offered him a position in Fort Myers, FL. With my advice he accepted, and three days after he formally accepted we were on the road again, on our way to stange and uncharted territories.

    Both experiences were challenging, but wonderful. Once I have my RN we are planning on moving to Arizona. Never even visited there before! That has been my dream for a while, and I think I would like to buy my home there and establish roots for my kids. This city (unfortunately) has no economic future.
    Last edit by HisTreasure on Jun 30, '04

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