down in the dumps.....

  1. Hi, everyone. I am a nursing student who will soon be graduating. This has been the worst semester of the nursing program. My nursing instructor is terrible. She often comments on the fact that there are students who aren't very good at certain skills, like inserting foley catheters, etc. In the beginning, she said she understood if we didn't know how to do certain things. But now, her story has changed. She is ALWAYS making comments about how students didn't learn anything in the basic nursing course. Classmates have tried to tell her that there weren't always opportunities to do certain skills in the clinical setting, but she's not buying that. What is beginning to get frustrating are her comments when people aren't familiar with some skills. I dread the clinical day, and now I'm beginning to get nervous when it's time for her clinical. Any advice on how to deal with her? Some people are able to let her comments roll off, but I am starting to get very frustrated.
  2. 8 Comments

  3. by   gwenith
    Tell yourself - it is HER problem not yours - you know what you can and cannot do and if she is so critical of skills why is she not acting to improve the quality of education you are recieving - after all she is the instructor and you are just the student.
  4. by   Pab_Meister
    Hi Mykayla,

    Do your best at your clinical skills. You must be doing things right or you wouldn't have made it this far in your program. Also remember that in a couple of months you're out the door anyways, and whether your instructor is nice or a total b----, she won't be your problem for much longer - and you'll be having the last laugh!

    Keep smiling!!!
  5. by   Tweety
    Know your stuff. Be confident. Don't let her bring you down if you don't know something or can't do something. It's her job to teach.
  6. by   mikayla
    Thanks, guys for your support. Alexander, you said that I must be doing something right or else I wouldn't have made it this far in the program. Well, that's what I initially thought, until one of my classmates told me that our instructor asked him how he got this far without having done a particular skill, and it wasn't something like passing meds, which would be unbelievable if he had never done that! She just makes you feel like you should just quit: trash your stethoscope, and rapidly push Potassium into your veins, but don't whince while doing so, because that would definitely be a sign of weakness! Then, when you make comments about how you feel silly for making a mistake, she says, "Oh, you're doing fine." So, you're left thinking, "Really, I never would have guessed that, based on the fact that you almost slaughtered me for making a mistake!" You never really know where you stand with her. We have all had our turn in the ring with her, what's the worst is once she was in a patient's room with me and she was telling me how to do something, but I wasn't understanding her, so she snatched (literally) the instruments from me, and started doing it herself. That was nice. Also, if has demonstrated something once, you better get it (maybe take a recorder!) because if she has to go over it again, forget about it....she's going OFF! It doesn't matter if it's something that you have never done! Man, I can't wait to get away from her. Thanks again guys. Sorry for such a long post, obviously, I waste a lot of energy thinking about this person, but it just worries me because she determines whether you pass or fail clinical.
  7. by   WalkingInTheRain
    Take your time, relax, and stay calm. Try to find out what she's looking for when you do clinicals. Know what objectives you have to meet. Practice and Practice and if you want when you feel prepared enough let her watch you practice. Ask her to critique you. It might help you better when you start to do clinicals. She might come down hard on you but, you will know more what to expect than getting caught off guard, when you enter clinicals. Good luck and hang in there
  8. by   kc ccurn
    You're almost done, hang in there!! You can do it. I'm sorry that she isn't that supportive. Instructors have such a huge influence on whether or not you have a successful semester. I was suprised one time when I was working with a senior student who was due to graduate in a few months who had never put a foley in before. We discussed it and it wasn't because she never wanted to, it's because the opportunity never presented itself....not everything that you will have to know when you are an RN is practiced in school. The most important thing is that you know who your resources are and you use them appropriately.

    Remeber there are no mistakes, only learning opportunities....some are just bigger than others
  9. by   Loving Life
    I had an instructor like that who happened to be going through a divorce and taking it out on students. She would target a certain person and ride them. After two semesters like that she got written up and placed on probation. Hang in there. Always ask the nurses if there is anything new happening and see if you could do it.
  10. by   dianah
    Some ppl don't know how to teach without ripping down in the process; they think it makes the student tougher. Personally I wilt under such "teaching." But, that said, I have discovered I am strong, and in the same way as "I yam what I yam" (thank you Popeye!), I "know what I know,"
    We had one VERY intimidating instructor in clinicals that, as it turned out, was tough because she wanted us to do a good job, and felt very responsible that we do the right thing for the patients. She didn't exactly rip people apart, though, and question their very existence in the program. I learned to take a deep breath, calm down and focus on what needed to be done, heeding her instruction.