Does anyone feel stressed over Thanksgiving?

  1. I am feeling extremely stressed over Thanksgiving. I am not sure if it is cooking for so many people and the work it involves, serving them, doing a good job, overwhelmed when they all get here, or nervous about step family celebrating together for the first time. I just can't get my self to even get started with the shopping list and the menu no less the food shopping and the cooking. Anyone else having this feeling? Any suggestions? Am I afraid my step kids won't like my cooking or that it is so much work to cook for everyone?????????????????? Any sharing of the same feelings or advice may help relax me. I am so weird-not nervous at all about starting grad school but so nervous about this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think I have always felt more comfortable in the profession-what is wrong with me? I did watch Grey's Anatomy last night, and I did notice some of the docs feeling the same say. It is not that I want to work instead of being with my family. I am just nervous about everything involved.
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  2. 27 Comments

  3. by   Fun2, RN, BSN
    Hi Krisssy.

    I'm sure what you're feeling is normal. If your family is anything like mine, we are all pretty laid back on Thanksgiving. It's nothing formal, just a Cowboy watching, food stuffing Thanks-giving day.

    My mom definitely gets worked up over Thanksgiving and Christmas. I'm not sure why, it's the same people who has visited her house all year long. LOL

    I hope you're able to relax and enjoy the day.
  4. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I am not ever stressed over Thanksgiving. But Christmas makes me crazy, if I let it.
  5. by   babynurselsa
    Sometimes I think I get a little worked up trying to get everything done. Overall, I enjoy preparing the meal with all of the fixings. I like to cook.
    I know what everyone likes and I always go a little overboard and make waaayyy too much.
    Last year was pretty stressful for me. I had a 3 week old baby and all of my husbands family came in from out of state and they all stayed with us. I was trying to cook, clean and entertain. I got offers for help but none of them really sincere. Of course on top of it all I was exhausted(gee, wonder why?)
    I threaten each year to get one of those ready prepared meals from teh grocary store but never do it. It may not be too late, you might want to consider this. You could then just prepare some of the side dishes that you love. Ask some of the step kids what their favorites are. Look forward to starting some new traditions.
    take a deep breath and just enjoy the family time. Make them all help or contribute, this will also take soem of the strain off of you.
  6. by   prmenrs
    i'm not the least bit stressed--i'm working! just have to contribute to the potluck, so that will be fruits and veggies (that's what i need to eat a lot of, so, that's what i'll bring. with luck, the others will get some!)

    my suggestion: many hands make light work. assign tasks to all participants. it doesn't matter what they do or bring, everyone can and should contribute. write down all the things you need to go into the dinner, (you do the turkey, or buy it already cooked) including clean-up, prep, table setting. if someone(s) doesn't bring what you would have done, let it go!!! include the males! they can do the snacks to watch football if they're not "emeril"! children can do decorating. one or two of the moms can supervise that effort.

    these are just ideas, you can taylor it to your needs.

    do not get 'anal' about this!! whatever folks bring is ok!
  7. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from prmenrs
    i'm not the least bit stressed--i'm working! just have to contribute to the potluck, so that will be fruits and veggies (that's what i need to eat a lot of, so, that's what i'll bring. with luck, the others will get some!)

    my suggestion: many hands make light work. assign tasks to all participants. it doesn't matter what they do or bring, everyone can and should contribute. write down all the things you need to go into the dinner, (you do the turkey, or buy it already cooked) including clean-up, prep, table setting. if someone(s) doesn't bring what you would have done, let it go!!! include the males! they can do the snacks to watch football if they're not "emeril"! children can do decorating. one or two of the moms can supervise that effort.

    these are just ideas, you can taylor it to your needs.

    do not get 'anal' about this!! whatever folks bring is ok!
    woot! i'm working too. we never eat until after 3 p.m. anyway and that is when i get off work.

    my mother-in-law and sister-in-law do most of the cooking although i do make pies and bring a veggie or two. i always help clean up too.

    many hands do make light work. if everyone brings something, that means less stress.

    christmas is the same way. i do stress about the presents though - my husband always wants to buy too much. drives me crazy.

    steph
  8. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    I just can't get my self to even get started with the shopping list and the menu no less the food shopping and the cooking. Anyone else having this feeling? Any suggestions?
    Delegate tasks.

    Even though it's going to be the two of us that evening, we both went shopping, we're both going to cook, but he's doing the majority of it, and i'm going to clean up.
  9. by   Tweety
    I was all set to stress, but decided to let Publix grocery do a lot of my cooking. I bought a green bean cassarole, a sweet potato cassarole, sauteed spinach, cranberry-orange relish, pecan pie, sugarless apple pie (for mom) and gravy. All I'm going to do is cook the turkey, make mashed potatoes, dressing and heat up some dinner rolls. That way if the family doesn't like it, I can blame Publix. One year I even let them cook the turkey for me.

    That's the lazy way out, but I'm going for it. LOL

    I hope it goes well.
  10. by   UM Review RN
    OK. This year I could stress--I don't get paid till Thanksgiving, I have nothing for the dinner, and I have to work 11-7 the night before--but I won't.

    I'm going to make a list and let someone else shop while I go to work. Thanksgiving Day we will pre-make some dishes and make the whole dinner on Friday.

    Till then it's chicken and rice and frozen pizza.

    Not complaining here, just truly thankful that we are blessed with a home, paid bills, food, and family.

    Keep it in perspective and you'll be fine.
  11. by   UM Review RN
    PS Way to go, Tweety, Publix is wonderful!
  12. by   live4today
    I'm not doing Turkey day this year as I had originally planned to do. Two of my dds and their families will be together enjoying one another for a couple days without me. I am going someplace QUIET where no adult kids or tiny kids are so I can catch up on some much needed rest. If I'm lucky, I'll land me a "Jive Turkey", and he and I can get it on.:hatparty: And the turkey says........CLUCK! CLUCK! CLUCK!!!
  13. by   Jessy_RN
    I am usually not stressed out because there is only the 2 of us, but this year I am cooking for many friends as well and the pressure is on.
  14. by   NRSKarenRN
    STRESSED OVER THANKSGIVING???????????XXXXX!!!!!??????

    Not I as parents taking family out to dinner.

    STRESSED OVER DAY BEFORE THANKSGIVING

    YES!


    Computer program down at work this AM till 11:45 AM--had 21 referrals from yesterday still to enter and today third biggest homecare referral day of the year.

    Short one RN position. Insurnace clerk out on family leave as day died last week---been taking intermittent leave. just returned from 1 week sick leave myself, only to have torrent of insurance issues from Sept/Oct to clean up. Go to leave at 8Pm only to find 50 patients without insurance auths for last week as RN's miss filed them.

    :angryfire :angryfire :angryfire

    So will spend turkey day WORKING at home till afternoon dinner.

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