Do you think men have less patience for children than women do?

  1. Hi,

    I am fuming. Tonight one of the kids has a sore throat and asked me if I would spray the chloraseptic throat spray. As I started, he started saying "wait" and being silly about it. This went on about 5 times and Dad says "Alright, that's enough. Either you want her to spray your throat or you don't."

    I said "Hey wait a minute, he doesn't feel good." And then I stormed out of the room pulling the boy out with me. Now we aren't speaking.

    It seems I am always talking to him about the way he talks to the children. Is it me? Am I just upset?

    Shygirl
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  3. by   SmilingBluEyes
    i think some are more patient than others. and it's not a gender thing.

    I am so sorry for what you are going thru. Hang in there.
  4. by   Rustyhammer
    There are times when these kids just GET ON MY NERVES!
    Basically though they can get away with more with me than they can with Robin.
    I'm the one who will let my 12 year old drive me home (when traffic is not bad) and will stop and buy cokes for the kids even though it's close to dinner time.
    Yet sometimes they know they should just leave me alone! It varies, sometimes it's Robin who can't handle them.
    -Russell
  5. by   fergus51
    I just think it depends on what you see as acceptable behaviour and how you deal with your kids. I would probably have told him the same thing his dad did, but that's just me. I was raised in a family that didn't really cater to illnesses (unless you could see bone or your eyeballs were bleeding, there was little room for coddling)
  6. by   dphrn
    My husband has WAY more patience than I do when it comes to our kids. I think everyone is different. I don't think it is a gender thing. He is so nuturing when they are ill. He is the one who mainly takes care of the kids when they are sick. I am a wreck when they are sick, especially when they were younger. I can care for everyone and anyone at work, but my kids are a different story.
    Last edit by dphrn on Feb 16, '04
  7. by   dphrn
    Quote from Rustyhammer
    I'm the one who will let my 12 year old drive me home (when traffic is not bad)
    -Russell
    My heart skipped a beat when I read this. Were you joking?
  8. by   LisaRN2B
    Quote from shygirl
    Hi,

    I am fuming. Tonight one of the kids has a sore throat and asked me if I would spray the chloraseptic throat spray. As I started, he started saying "wait" and being silly about it. This went on about 5 times and Dad says "Alright, that's enough. Either you want her to spray your throat or you don't."

    I said "Hey wait a minute, he doesn't feel good." And then I stormed out of the room pulling the boy out with me. Now we aren't speaking.

    It seems I am always talking to him about the way he talks to the children. Is it me? Am I just upset?

    Shygirl
    My DH is the same way. Infuriates me, too. Don't have any answers as to what makes things any better, but at least you did what you felt you needed to do for your child, and in the way you thought it should be done. I tend to be much more patient with the kids than my DH, and they get on my nerves sometimes (okay, a lot) too! Hope your son feels better soon. :kiss
  9. by   LisaRN2B
    Quote from dphrn
    My heart skipped a beat when I read this. Were you joking?
    I used to drive at twelve. We lived in the country, on a farm. I am supposing Rusty lives in a more remote location as well. Not unusual to me!
  10. by   dphrn
    Quote from LisaRN2B
    I used to drive at twelve. We lived in the country, on a farm. I am supposing Rusty lives in a more remote location as well. Not unusual to me!

    I live in the DC area, so my first reaction was surprise. Farm or city, two different stories I suppose. But, that's a whole new thread.
  11. by   Rustyhammer
    Quote from dphrn
    My heart skipped a beat when I read this. Were you joking?
    We all learn to drive at an early age out here. I start them out up on "the mesa" where there is nothing to hit except for maybe a tree. by the time they are 16 and old enough to get a license they are already experienced drivers. I guess it's all in where you grow up. I also teach them all to drive Totanka (my 3/4 ton truck). They must learn on a standard. You never know when there is some type of emergency where they have to drive for help or something. My 10 year old is already getting the hang of things though he's not ready for the road yet.
    -Russell
  12. by   jemommyRN
    I learned to drive at twelve too. But back to the subject at hand. Please don't be mad at your hubby for that one cuz I KNOW I would have told him the same thing that your hubby did. In my case, my patience are waaaaay shorter than his when dealing with my child.
  13. by   unknown99
    Quote from Rustyhammer
    There are times when these kids just GET ON MY NERVES!
    Basically though they can get away with more with me than they can with Robin.
    I'm the one who will let my 12 year old drive me home (when traffic is not bad) and will stop and buy cokes for the kids even though it's close to dinner time.
    Yet sometimes they know they should just leave me alone! It varies, sometimes it's Robin who can't handle them.
    -Russell
    Russell'
    That is exactly what my husband does with the kids. They can almost get by with anything with him!!!
  14. by   Tilleycs
    I agree, it's an individual thing, NOT a gender thing.

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