Quote from mercyteapot
I'm sorry, but it doesn't sound as if your husband is actually in a position to be making demands of you. If arriving at a mutual decision isn't possible, why does he want take precedence over what you want?
This question is very important; you really want to consider it. Why should YOU make all the concessions here?
And remember this, not all at-home moms are so wonderful and/or flawless! (read: better than working or fulltime student moms). For example, My mom never worked one day out of the home, but I know for a fact, was miserable being there. She was hateful, abusive, bitter and depressed throughout much of my childhood, and into my adulthood, even now. Along with the scratch-baked cookies, homemade dinners and ultra-clean house I got to enjoy cause Mom was always home, I have many unpleasant memories of my childhood as well. I often used to wonder, if she had even just worked part-time or gone back to college, doing something JUST for herself, she would have been happier and therefore, less likely to take out her apparent unhappiness out on us, her hapless and innocent kids?
Listen, you probably are doing your very best. Guilt is a real common thing in motherhood, no matter if we work or stay at home. Don't let it rule your life. Just doing our best is all any of us can do......really. If you feel you are not, (doing your best), make the improvements that are within your control and let go of what is not. Just do what you can and love your kids the best you know how. That is what counts, believe me.