I've worked nights (11-7, and now 7p-7a) since my youngest was 3 months old. I actually did this BECAUSE of the kids.... My husband is self-employed, and I chose to work these hours so that one of us would always be home for the kids. While working 11-7, I would nap in the am while the little one napped, then I was good until hubby got home late afternoon. I'd put supper on, then sleep till work time. After starting nursing school
, we were blessed to have a close friend able to watch the kids when my husband couldn't. Now, they're all in school, and I'm working 7p-7a. I've arranged it so that my work days are clumped together... so I essentially have every other week off to be a 'normal mom'. God Bless my husband, he plays "MR. Mom" during my work stretch. It's not a 'normal' life, but it works for us
With both of you working evenings, you may have to get creative. Is it possible for either of you to change shifts? That would simplify a lot. What kind of family support system do you have? Having family who can watch your children can eliminate a lot of headaches... not the least of which is what to do when the little one's not feeling well. or needs potty-trained.
I hope you take your time with your decision... you are still new in your life together... When the time is right, you'll have the answers you need.
God bless you both!!!!