Do you get snippy remarks when you try to talk about your feelings about 9/11?

  1. I mentioned to one person that I felt abandoned because it took so long for the President to show his face on 9/11. They went into a fit because they took that as a political statement. I mentioned to another person that I was in shock for a long time after 9/11 and am only starting to feel really angry now. They got very snotty about the remark and seemed to think it was unpatriotic. Sorry folks, these are feeling that well up spontaneously from deep inside and they have no relationship to what others think I should be feeling. You have to be so careful about what you say around people who have strong beliefs. I think people need to realize that controlling other peoples emotions is not possible. It is better to acknowledge feeling and allow discussion. Inability to expression honest feeling results in a lot of inappropriate behaviors.
  2. 5 Comments

  3. by   kewlnurse
    Do you really care what other people think of you or our feelings, i personally don't give a **** what anybody thinks of me, but i guess thats what makes me, me.
  4. by   mopsi
    [font=courier new] i can't speak for anyone else, but i am still experiencing heightened anxiety since the attacks. it seems to coexist with a impending doom/dread type thing..are ther going to be biological attacks here? will i be able to keep my children and pets safe? i realize how unprepared i am skills wise for a mass attack and wonder how i would be of service to my community.i am not blindly believing any government related press releases and worry about what's really going on...i have a sense of a "hidden agenda" and some good old smoke and mirrors going on...the continued downward spiral of the economy is another great stressor in cleveland thousands of people are losing their jobs and healthcare benefits...the crap jobs are begining to be hard to come buy...stores closing up left and right...i have a sneaking feeling this is going on nationally...we just hear it in soundbites and the impact isn't there..just like we got blaise ove anthrax....i basically have to internalize these thoughts and feelings as most people in my circles are unable or unwilling to discuss them...maybe they feel if you don't put words to the feelings they'll go away...i wish i had more outlets though...even for more facts and new ideas.....blessings to all
  5. by   oramar
    Just reading what you said made me feel better. That is exactly the kind of thoughts that have been dogging me. I think a lot of people around me want to just get on with it and my verbalization of my anxiety stress them. It is a load to carry however. I was not alive in WWII but I get a feeling it was considered bad form not to keep a stiff upper lip back then also. This is a sign of how very real the threat is on a personal level. My mommy tells me that in WWII they had formalized ways of expressing anxiety. At one time my granny had 5 stars in the window for 3 sons and 2 daughters in the military.
  6. by   prmenrs
    I wonder if their reactions are reflective of their own internal distress?
  7. by   3651bht
    Whatever are you talking about... No one has evvvveeeerrrrr been snippy with me.. They've been down right hostile.... Hmmmmmm... I don't know, maybe it is I that should change ...NOT.....


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    It was never between you and them anyway.

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