Do I need to take a date or what?!

  1. I have a wedding to go to in less than a month and my friend (the bride) keeps hounding me about who I am bringing to her wedding. I told her almost a hundred times that because I am not seeing anyone at the moment I am going by myself. Actually, I'm going with my mom since she's invited too. That's fine with me, but I am getting sick of answering this question. So I haven't found Mr. Right yet, but I refuse to even bother with Mr. You'll Do For Now.

    I just got off the phone with her a little while ago and she asked me if I was bringing a male friend of mine, who BTW, I am not speaking to and she knows this! I am irked. Is there some written bylaw that states that you have to bring a date to a wedding?!! Someone please inform me if there is because I must have missed that one. I don't want to be committing some major social faux pas!

    Tonya
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  2. 14 Comments

  3. by   LasVegasRN
    Grrrrrrrrrrrr. No, you do NOT have to bring a male friend to the wedding. For one thing, it makes things extremely awkward because they think you think you want the same thing eventually....NOT!!! I'd just tell her, "nope just coming with Mom, see you there!" and leave it at that.

    Or, if you want, I'd be glad to come with you and bring my relatives that still drink ripple.
  4. by   moonchild20002000
    Vegas,
    I have been looking and looking for ripple.........send your relatives with some please!HEHE
  5. by   CashewLPN
    hehe.... well.. its a good thing not to be dating someone on the wedding party... b/c then its a giant PITA...they have to schmooze, and then its usually not your family.... and all that jazz
    hehe

    anyhoodles...
    no... you do not have to bring a dude....
    --Barbara
  6. by   nursegoodguy
    Tell'em if it's going to be a problem then you'll just not go...
    I didn't go to my brothers wedding like 20 years ago cause I didn't have a gf... I do regret it cause I love my brother and my sister in law too... just couldn't bare the idea of the questions... where's your girfriend blah blah blah Just wasn't ready to tell them, "Ask me about my boyfriend instead!"
    Still wish I'd made it to his wedding...
  7. by   live4today
    Hi TCW

    No, you do not need to take a date....male or female...to anyone's wedding if you wish not to do so. Either your friend (the bride) wants you (her friend) at the wedding, or she doesn't. Ask her why it seems so important to her that you come with a date? Maybe there's something else bothering her that she's not clarified with you yet.

    Guiseppe.....(((((((((HUGS Brutha man)))))))))) :kiss
  8. by   LasVegasRN
    Originally posted by moonchild20002000
    Vegas,
    I have been looking and looking for ripple.........send your relatives with some please!HEHE
    Trust me, you don't want the ripple relatives. Somehow the police always get involved. :chuckle
  9. by   Stargazer
    Personally, I think weddings are the best place to MEET new people!

    I confess I'm not really clear on why, at $__/head, the bride is so anxious for you to drag along someone who will be a total stranger to her.
  10. by   nursejws
    Tell her you were hoping to meet someone exciting and new at her wedding and to sit all eligible bachelors at YOUR table.
  11. by   Nurse Ratched
    Perfect advice, nursejws - I love it. Actually, I was thinking that TCW is probably such a hottie that the bride is worried her solo appearance might detract from attention from her!

    No - you don't have to bring a date. There is something warped about married or about-to-be married people that they want everyone else fixed up, too! Suddenly the world comes in pairs like there's a freakin' ark waiting somewhere lol.

    Don't settle - only a serious man is worth taking to a family function. Just know that for the next many reunions you'll have to either hear "Whatever happened to that nice young ___" or listening to your future spouse be called by the wrong name .

    Enjoy the wedding .
  12. by   Sleepyeyes
    Originally posted by moonchild20002000
    Vegas,
    I have been looking and looking for ripple.........send your relatives with some please!HEHE
    Two Questions:
    Whoa, Vegas, they still make ripple???

    What, Vegas, they still drink it???? :roll

    what, no ScupperNong??====love that paint thinner aftertaste!:roll
  13. by   JailRN
    Must not be an expensive wedding??? Most of the time, unless you're seriously dating(Engaged) to someone, you don't take them to a wedding--Tacky, and expensive, not a place to date.
    I have to wonder what king of a "friend" this person is. That she would want you to bring someone that she knows you're not speaking to-of course, she could just be in her "bride-space" where nothing else matters except her and her plans. If so, forgive her, for she knows not what she does. She should be happy that YOU'RE coming.
  14. by   TCW
    Such great advice! I knew I could count on my Allnurses sibs.

    Lasvegasrn, you are too funny! The groom's family will probably have enough ripple of their own. lol.

    Tonya

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