First let me offer you a BIG (((HUG)))......second let me tell you that everyone goes though these periods in their marraige (you already heard that one, right??
)....in 18 years I have found it much easier to talk to my husband when the kids are sleeping and there is no distraction (never try to talk when sports or NASCAR is on...you already lost and never had a chance)....and the talking always works best when you are kind of snuggled up along side him......less threatening that way and although I do not agree with all that passingthru said, passing is right in saying make your husband feel threatened andhe will tune you right out.
When I went to nursing school
, hubby thought it was great....and then I got into school and needed time to study and had clinicals and other obligations that went with school.....and then he dug his heels in (so it seemed)...no support with the kids when it was study time or clinical day......no help around the house....no nothing......study groups got all but impossible as i would have to take my kids with me and the others started making the group kid free ( guess i never tried to make them understand), clinicals had to be very close to home (I had a n ursing instructor try to encourage me to drop out, said I did not have the commitment to the profession)....but I kept plugging along......he would never admit it and to this day won't but I know that when I went to school he felt threatened...when I graduated he felt even more threatened, because he knew that it was the begining of independance.....that i would be able and can stand on my own 2 feet and take care of myself and the kids and him too if necessary....and that is an assault to the male ego (a fragile flower that male ego).....now he is looking for work, I gave him the boost and support to go back to school and he has and graduated and is looking for work now...and his morale is beter but I have learned that in 18 years....somethings just aren't worth getting steamed over....my house has a permenant lived in look.....clean but cluttered...lol(it wan't worth nagging and fighting to get him to help clean)and there are a thousand other little habits from channel surfing to avoid commercials to not rinsing the sink out when he rinses with mouth wash to picking up his socks to having to eat bread and butter with every meal rather than veggies.....he sometimes still needs to be reminded that I need to hear I love you or some of the other little romantic things he used to do.....and I still have to badger him to dress up now and again (with age comes the desire to dress up.....lol lol) but when I look deep inside, I still see the same caring, devoted man that i married...and i would encourage you to talk to a professional, as others have said.
Keep your chin up and feel free to pm or email me if you want a willing shoulder to cry on or vent. I empathize and support you, Future!