dilemma about an xmas gift for mom

  1. okay heres the deal ,I'm torn about whether or not to give my mom a gift that I worked on for her for awhile now....
    I bought a set of really nice picture frames, you know the collage kinds where you put all kinds of different pictures, ah whatever thats not really the point, we all know I'm not crafty like martha stewart or anything but I decided to gather a ton of pictures ranging from old black and white ones of her parents, her sisters , our family , and the rare pics of her and I where both of us look at least decent..

    anyhow, long story short, as I was making this collage, I was getting sad, emotional...what have you, I know pictures will do that to you but my mom lost all of her family, as we often say to eachother, we're all we have left... I mean technically I have a father but you get the gist
    so this collage has pictures of all the loved ones we've lost because in general we were a small family to begin with before they all passed away...
    I dont want her to be upset at christmas, but I think she suspected that I was going to do something like this for her and seemed really excited by it..
    I dont know, just looking at pictures of my grand parents when they were younger and so much in love, and then of my 2 aunts who died within one year of eachother can be emotionally overwhelming , on the other hand, those pictures document some wonderful amazing memories........
    and I worked so hard searching high and low for pictures of me as a kid that were not totally embarrassing - believe me that was no easy task
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  3. by   Stargazer
    Wendy, I think that sounds like a lovely, very thoughtful and personal gift; I don't see how your mom could help but be touched by it.

    Even if she does get a bit emotional at first looking at it, I wouldn't take it to mean that she was upset or unhappy, but more likely--as you said--just a bit overwhelmed with all the amazing memories.

    Personally, I think she'll appreciate both the gift itself and all the thought, planning, work and love that went into it.
  4. by   CountrifiedRN
    I think that is an awesome gift. The fact that you put your heart in it will mean so much.

    My neighbor, who lost her son and her sister within a year of each other recently, has said that the hardest part of the loss is that no one ever wants to bring it up for fear of bringing the emotional pain out again. But whether anyone talks about it or not, the feelings are still there. So I think that even though it may be emotional, it will be a good kind of emotional, if that makes any sense.

    The best gifts come from the heart, so I think she will really appreciate what you have done.
  5. by   nakitamoon
    wendee,,,, i think that is a wonderful gift,,,, if it brings tears,,, they will be both happy and sad ones,,,, but beautiful memories,,, give it to her,,,, and enjoy reminising over each picture,,,,

    happy holidays ~kitamoon,,,,
  6. by   emily_mom
    I think it is a lovely gift, and your mother will undoubtedly be pleased with it. I second what everyone else has said. Maybe you and Mom can share some wonderful memories...

  7. by   lindalee
    Wendy, I am probably old enough to be your mom. Most of my family has passed on--I would love a gift like that. Give it to her with a big hug. You will make her Christmas wonderful.
  8. by   New CCU RN
    I also agree on giving the gift!!! I did something similiar for my mom a few years back.... and she adored it. She did cry when she first got it...but she really really treasured it!!!!

    It will mean alot more than some thing you picked up at the store!!!!
  9. by   susanmary
    You've created the most wonderful, perfect gift -- a gift from your heart -- which involves yourself and your family. What a wonderful treasure -- what a thoughtful, great idea. Give it with the love that comes with the picture -- you will never regret it. Gifts from the heart are what should matter at this time -- not who gives the best/most expensive/most time-consuming-to-find-gift. You have inspired me .... and I'm guessing everyone who reads your post. Amazing idea for a treasured, heirloom gift. God bless. Sue
  10. by   sunnygirl272
    What a wonderful gift,....wendy..she will love it...tears will be shed by both of you as you both reminisce...but it is a truly heartfelt gift....will be a great mother-daughter bonding thing!!!!
  11. by   cbs3143

    I agree with the previous posters. Your mother may cry when she opens her gift, but they will be sweet tears, not sad or bitter tears. She will definitely appreciate your thoughtful gesture at remembering those family members who have passed on. It will become a treasured and hallowed possession to her, and I suspect you may find her looking at the photos from time to time, in fond remembrance.

    Happy Holidays to you and your mother my dear friend :kiss

  12. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Wendy,what a kind, thoughtful and caring gift. Don't hold back.....this gift means a lot to you both. She may cry and get emotional, but she will always remember with love your thoughts that went into giving this gift. Good luck and Merry Christmas.
  13. by   ptnurse
    I actually did that very thing for my parents several years ago for Christmas. My dad is generally a man of few words, but that was one gift that really impressed him. Just because family has passed away does not mean that you don't want to have reminders around. Give her the gift.
  14. by   JedsMom
    That is a wonderful gift that she will treasure forever. Hope you both have a very merry Christmas and enjoy the trip down memory lane.