Difficult co-worker

  1. How have you dealt with co-workers that you can't stand being around? I share my office with a woman who is so annoying that I have started arranging my schedule to be wherever she isn't whenver possible. My colleague in another office suite my agency has in the same building has suggested that I subtly start moving things into a spare work space in that suite until one day, I casually mentionto our director that it would make more sense to work from that space than from my own. I think I'm going to do that. The final straw with this woman was that the other day, I opened up my folder on our shared computer and three quarters of my saved documents were missing! After a panicked plea to the IT guy, he came down and ran a search and found them stashed in my co-worker's files! He says that she isn't techno savvy enough to have done this on purpose, and I'm sure that's true because among her other faults, she's rather dimwitted, but it isn't the first time she's created problems. Over the past several months my disdain for this woman has grown till now I can barely stand the thought of having to look at her tomorrow. Anyone else have a co-worker that they just plain old don't like?
  2. 6 Comments

  3. by   nurseygrrl
    Yes, I have worked with a lot of people that I dislike. Unfortunately, that's life. I usually just try to ignore them and be 'all business' when I am around them. I try to ignore the behavior and I let a lot of things slide because I can't afford the stress.

    However, if their behavior directly affects your work, makes you uncomfortable, or causes you undue stress and aggravation, the only solution is to sit down and talk to the person about it. Be tactful and honest and tell the person exactly what behaviors that you would like them to change. It would be helpful to think about what you're going to say for a few days so you don't leave anything out. Ask your coworker if there's anything that you can change to make her job easier so she doiesn't feel your picking on her. Good luck!
  4. by   warrior woman
    If she does anything like insult you directly, just turn in her direction smile sweetly and say; Sticks and stones may break my bones, but whips and chains excite me!! THAT should shut her up. {I'm joking of course.}
  5. by   Nurse Ratched
    There are many issues here, obviously - the one I'm choosing to fixate on is the computer thing. Can your IT guy set it up so you have different sign-ins with a password so she can't mess with your files even accidentally? It would be even more helpful if everything was on a network server. That way you can access stuff from any computer on the network. I love our IT guys - they protect us from our own stupidity .

    You may not be able to fix your co-worker, but you can minimize the damage she does .
  6. by   Energizer Bunny
    I have had difficult co-workers at every job I have ever had. The easiest way to deal with them was to avoid them/ignore them. You don't have that option here, unfortunately. I actually like your idea of moving away from her. It makes sense for you to have your own space anyways, if it's available......
  7. by   mercyteapot
    Everyone has good suggestions, especially the one about putting the computers on a server, which the IT guy is working on. And whoever said that it sounded like there were lots of issues going on was right too. The file thing just really brought it all to a boil, I think. I know she didn't do this intentionally, but it wouldn't have happened if she had followed our established computer protocols and it isn't the only time we've all dealt with the consequences of her failure to follow simple rules. Once, she was on vacation, but for some reason stopped by the office with her 2 year old daughter and stayed for an hour. Her daughter managed to go in someone else's office and lock the door and no one knew where the key was. The fire dept had to come. What an uproar! The same day her daughter spilled my coffee, which was sitting on my desk, all over my papers. Its just one thing after the other, nothing terrible by itself, but annoying taken as a whole. I have worked with people who have done worse things, certainly. For some reason, this one really gets on my nerves, though. Maybe because I'm older and crankier, I don't know.
  8. by   dianah
    Seems the computer file problem is a security issue, and one I would think management would be VERY concerned about. It would be hard to ignore someone, Kim, if s/he were rearranging computer files you needed in order to do your job competently! I'm in the "find a separate space to work" camp on this one. Limit access and involvement.
    It might be insightful to make a list of things she does that annoy you, to see if there's a pattern. Sometimes identifying one or two things (i.e., not the WHOLE person) that are the true annoying triggers, helps circumventing the anger and irritation that occur when those triggers are "fired up." Just MHO. Good luck.