First, I want to thank you all for your replies, and second, I want to apologize for my not responding before now. My computer monitor died and I have been "puterless" for 2 LONG WEEKS!!!
Anyway, let me update you on the situation. My daughter was dumped by the "jock", reason being "things were getting weird." Then two days later, she hears from a friend that the jock is telling his friends she was giving him "h**d" regularly, WHICH she assures me is NOT true (and I believe her). So she is not speaking to him at the present time, and (thank goodness) her friends are sticking up for her and also not speaking to Mr. Jock. In fact, he called her last night to apologize but she is still mad at him.
AND THEN after swearing off of boys, she stated she was going boyfriendless for a while. Well, "a while" lasted about 3 days because -- you have probably guessed by now -- she has gone back to "Joe."
The only good things about this relationship are they are both only 15 so cannot drive, there are two high schools in this town and she goes to one and Joe goes to the other so they don't see each other during school, and since I refuse to pick him up from his dad's and he is there every other weekend, she can only see him every other weekend when he's at his mom's which I also have total control over since I am the only parent picking up and dropping off.
I feel like I am in a no-win situation here. If I talk bad about Joe, she defends him and he looks that much better to her, BUT if I don't talk about their relationship, my silence -- to her thinking -- is my approval of their relationship. I have talked to her school G.C. and he also tells me to wait it out, these things don't last. HOWEVER, I started dating my husband at age 14 and we have now being married for 19 years. So sometimes, these things DO last! I feel she truly has feelings for him, but mostly he is like a wounded animal that she wants to nurture and make better. But I just feel like he is going to take her down with him. She is so sweet, she believes everything he tells her. I probably should mention he has been seeing a psycologist since he was 13 because he was having suicidal thoughts. My daughter knows this, and he has told her in the past that he would kill himself if she ever broke up with him. OF COURSE I pointed out to her that he managed to stay alive when she broke up with him a few weeks ago!
There is a formal dance coming up in December and she told me she is going without Joe (he thinks dances are "uncool") SO. . . I am hoping she dances with other guys, has tons of fun, and he gets jealous and HE DUMPS HER! I think that is the only way this relationship will ever end is if HE does the dumping.
To all of you who have gone through this (or will go through this) I thank you for your thoughts and advice. I'll try to keep you updated.
p.s. Kaycee -- You're right, I am lucky that I have such a good relationship with my daughter. She tells me more than I want to hear sometimes! LOL! Bye!