D.i.v.o.r.c.e.

  1. Long story short. The rest is in my blog.

    I took off my "committment ring" (which is a wedding band with a diamond in the middle) that my partner gave 9 years ago on our first anniversary. It's been on my "wedding finger" ever since. Never in 10 years did I not think this wasn't going to last forever, that we weren't soulmates.

    But something more powerful than my love is tearing us apart and I instigated an end to our 10 year relationship.

    Looks like I might be getting the house we bought together. I've never mowed the grass, I'm not handy, and I'm scared I can't handle being a single homeowner. There's a lot of work and responsibility here.

    Anyway I won't ramble. I am getting support through real life friends and family, but would always appreciate your prayers, support and positive thoughts as I walk through some troubled times with a heavy heart.

    Thanks so much.
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  2. 63 Comments

  3. by   NursesRmofun
    Ahh, Tweety. I know it hurts. I think you can do it with the house. Maybe you can hire some teens from the neighborhood for yard work?? Glad you are getting support from family and real time friends....but we are here for ya too! {{{{Hugs}}}}
  4. by   nursemary9
    Oh Tweety,

    You know you have all my support, thoughts and Loads of Prayers!!
    I'm glad you have lots of support from family & friends!!However, if you find that you need someone else, feel free to PM me!!

    I am so sorry for you!! It makes me so sad--you are one of the first people I "met" on this board and consider you a friend.

    So, friend, just know that we are all here for you.
    (((((((((((((((((((((((((((TWEETY))))))))))))))))) )))))))))))))

    Mary Ann
  5. by   suzy253
    Oh Tweety my friend, I'm so sorry. You know how I feel about you. I wish I could help you in some way but we are always here for you. Hugzzzz.
  6. by   Halinja
    Tweety, I'm so sorry. Of course no one knows exactly how you feel, but I can empathise. I'm divorced and for the first time handling a house on my own. The divorce part...I was told it took about three years to work through the pain/anger/hurt/grieving. They were right. But it is nicer here on the other side of the gulf, you do get to a place where you can say "I could have missed the pain but I'd of had to miss the dance"

    The house part? I was terrified of having to deal with the house stuff. But that didn't turn out to be so big a deal either. After trying to mess with the lawn myself, I ended up hiring someone to mow it. (stupid lawn anyway. grin) And each time something comes up, I've been able to repair it myself. I think being nurse minded helps. You have critical thinking skills...so you analyze what's wrong and what it would take to fix it...and by then you'll realize that you don't want to pay someone 100.00 to fix something that will take a wrench and a 5.00 part. You can handle it, I've seen your good sense demonstrated here on allnurses time and time again.

    best wishes! (I hope you don't mind me butting in. After reading so many of your posts, I feel as if I know you, though I'm a semi-newbie at posting) Good luck in the coming months.
  7. by   Katnip
    Oh Tweety, I'm sorry to hear it. (((((HUGS)))))
  8. by   traumaRUs
    Tweety - so very sorry for this! Of course you have my prayers.
  9. by   cardiacRN2006
    I'm so sorry to hear this. I have been following your blogs for sometime. At least you are not all alone. You are able to journal about it, and have many friends online (and I'm sure in real life). Take care...
  10. by   JentheRN05
    You know how many people care about you on this board? I would say alot. Just because we don't know you physically, doesn't mean we don't KNOW you (unless of course your one of those online predators we're always hearing about and not the loving caring soul that your portray yourself as ) Really now - you have all of our support. Keeping you in my thoughts for as long as needed. :icon_hug:
  11. by   NRSKarenRN
    Wishing you better days ahead and a shoulder for support. We'll leave the lights on if you need to take a break.
  12. by   DolphinRN84
    I'm really really sorry Tweety. Wishing you all the best. :icon_hug: :kiss
  13. by   dianah
    Oh, I'm SOOOOOOOO sorry!! I, too, have been following your blogs, and hoping and praying for whatever is best for you.

    I agree with the others, I have faith in you, that you have the smarts and the courage and the critical thinking skills to keep the house up. The heart, however, as others have posted, will take time to heal. Your area and cyber-friends are available, you know this.

    Bless you, big hugs from me.
  14. by   DutchgirlRN
    (((((((HUGS)))))) and prayers to you as you deal with this difficult time in your life. Your online family is always here for you. God Bless, Joanna

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