Cursing: Where do you draw the line?

  1. Hi all,

    I have been seeing a lot more "curse" words on the bb of late.

    I know that this bothers some people a lot.

    For my own self, I grew up in a very turbulant household where no one ever held back, and a curse word was just another adjective. I do swear in the course of conversation with people I feel comfortable with, but not at work, at least until I get to know you.

    So, I am wondering, and this is a serious question. Where do you draw the line personally??

    Does it bother you to see intials or euphamisms in print? Ex WTF NFW, Shyte or any variation of that, or schl*ng (for some reason, that one bothered me, sorry.)

    I am not sure where I would even draw the line myself, but I think I would draw it at any word, esp the c-words used as they would be if heard in a porno movie. The word that rhymes w wussy just made me cringe when I read it here. It's just not a word in my "acceptable" curse-word vocabulary. (Talk about an oxymoron!!)

    I can't explain it, just how it affects me.

    Obviously, this is a very subjective thing.

    So, do you think we can discuss it, w/o finger-pointing, or attacks, as to what you personally have a problem with? Do you frequent any other bb's where there is a no cursing environment? Does that bother you or do you feel limited in some way?

    Please let's keep it civilized, I would feel like shyt if this thread had to be moved.
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  2. 81 Comments

  3. by   Q.
    A lot of people consider me to have a potty-mouth. And nothing I've read on this BB with regards to expletives have offended me. But, when I went to cybermoms.com once, the swearing there was offensive to me (even though it was the same words used) I think because it was every other word and there was otherwise no substance to the post. It was pure trailer trash talk.

    I think a highly intelligent, articulate person can throw curse words in an otherwise sound sentence/paragraph and not offend. It just depends on it's use/context. I guess I can't explain it, but I know it when I see it.
  4. by   delirium
    I grew up in a lower middle class Italian catholic family with A LOT of cursing. Hence, it does not bother me at all, and I even think I'm slightly creative with it. In fact, I have a .wav that documents all the different uses of the f word in the english language. Its quite interesting... it can be used as an adjective, a verb, etc.

    I'm not easily offended, and nothing on this board has offended me.

    People in my life (i.e. people not of my family or of similar backgrounds) are often surprised and amused at my colorful vocabulary, but I have the ability to construct complete and grammatically correct sentences without the use of profanity.

    Its funny, I feel limited here. There's another board that I go to that is truly anything goes, and sometimes I laugh out loud at the posts... its almost as if there's an ongoing contest to see who can be the most profane.
  5. by   researchrabbit
    I rarely use curse words, as did my family growing up. I still say "darn it" and "heck". However, my two best friends in all the world would make a sailor blush...so what the heck.

    I am more offended by crudeness or disrespect.
  6. by   BadBird
    I have not been offended by anyone on this board, I just love WTF, it is one of my favorite abbreviations, it definately gets your point across when no other words will do, but then again that is just my opinion. I view it as a form of humor but then again working so many years of night shift has me a little twisted , LOL.
  7. by   duckie
    I absolutely draw the line at using the Lord's name in vain, but when I'm ticked I do have a tendancy to be potty mouthed. I figure, we're all adults here and if you're offended, go to the next post, plain and simple.
  8. by   anitame
    I'm offended much more easily by peole being stupid or making blanket generalizations than I am by a few curse words. I'm still *irritated* (note curse word of choice not used) by the dog thread. PMSing I think.
  9. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    :uhoh21:

    I guess I'm bizarre in that aspect. I do have a potty mouth, but I'm good a controlling it (at work, at son's school, etc.) The first time I let go with a good and hearty 4 letter word in front of someone, I usually get a startled look.

    I guess to me, they're just words, and there are much more offensive things to me. "Sticks and stones......" and all.

    I do visit 2 other boards, a cake decorating board, which is very "proper." Do I feel limited there? No. I am capable of holding a conversation without using 4 letter words. Do I feel 100% comfortable there, does it feel like "home?" No.

    The other board I visit, but don't really participate in, is one of my hubby's. I lurk there occasionally, just because it rocks. Anything goes, but it's a little over the top (hence the reason I don't actually participate)

    I think that it's possible to use those words to an extreme. And I think it's possible to go to the other extreme, to demand an impossible amount of purity and perfection. (WHAT? nurse don't talk like that!) And I think there's a middle ground. I thought we had that here. But I guess even middle ground offends some people.

    Heather
  10. by   hapeewendy
    I have been known to use a curse word here and there ...
    and it doenst offend me when others do so
    In my opinion,and this is just my opinion , you have a choice, if I see someone posting something that I find offensive then I will not pay attention to it. That is why I dont usually respond to the threads that I find offensive, and I dont use the ignore feature either, unless I have had a personal disagreement with someone , which I have had on this board sadly....
    for example, I am offended when people make comments and then try to convert me to their religion - I do however respect their right to believe in what they want to believe, I just make the concious choice not to pay attention or worry myself about it. In public forums and on the internet you cannot escape material that has the potential to offend.
    my motto in life is not to react to things or comments that are set out to offend, in my case with the language I sometimes use it is never the intent to offend people , although I am aware that I have offended some ppl with the expletives I've used on this board. I think it starts to be a dangerous thing when we try to censor everything on the internet and on a public forum, I would prefer that everyone is able to say their piece and if i dont like what they have to say then I just dont pay any attention whatsoever to it ...idealistic,perhaps...
  11. by   Beach_RN
    I sometime use profanity when expressing myself... I tend to resort to that when I am with my H or good friends...otherwise, I always make a concious effort to not use certain words...

    I have to say that only one word make me cringe and that is the "C" word...

    Other than that... I really don't offend easily.. and if for some reason while reading a thread.. I find something that does...then... I just close it out and move on!
  12. by   rebelwaclause
    Originally posted by hoolahan
    Hi all,

    I have been seeing a lot more "curse" words on the bb of late.

    I know that this bothers some people a lot.

    For my own self, I grew up in a very turbulant household where no one ever held back, and a curse word was just another adjective. I do swear in the course of conversation with people I feel comfortable with, but not at work, at least until I get to know you.

    So, I am wondering, and this is a serious question. Where do you draw the line personally??

    Does it bother you to see initials or euphemisms in print? Ex WTF NFW, Shyte or any variation of that, or schl*ng (for some reason, that one bothered me, sorry.)

    I am not sure where I would even draw the line myself, but I think I would draw it at any word, esp the c-words used as they would be if heard in a porno movie. The word that rhymes w wussy just made me cringe when I read it here. It's just not a word in my "acceptable" curse-word vocabulary. (Talk about an oxymoron!!)

    I can't explain it, just how it affects me.

    Obviously, this is a very subjective thing.

    So, do you think we can discuss it, w/o finger-pointing, or attacks, as to what you personally have a problem with? Do you frequent any other bb's where there is a no cursing environment? Does that bother you or do you feel limited in some way?

    Please let's keep it civilized, I would feel like shyt if this thread had to be moved.
    I hope this isn't too off topic...But a new Assistant Manager was talking to me about the changes they were going to implement throughout the department....When they swiftly stated without a batting eye "This shyt looks really bad in here...We've gotta clean this **** up"

    Of course I curse (trying to stop!)...But I admit, I felt raped. Why? I'm old school. Management isn't suppose to be that common around subordinates - UNLESS you are friendly with them and it is a one-on-one conversation.
  13. by   nurs4kids
    Excellent thread, Hool!!

    I've seen no curse words here that offend me or that I don't hear in the course of a day. I, like duckie, do not care for hearing the Lord's name used in vain, but even that would not "offend" me.

    I love WTF and shyt..those are MY personal faves. As other's so eloquently stated, it's not the curse words here that hurt or offend, it's the content of the message. I think we (the members) do a wonderful job at allowing self expression while at the same time, keeping this bb respectable.
  14. by   eltrip
    Originally posted by hoolahan
    Hi all,

    I have been seeing a lot more "curse" words on the bb of late.

    I know that this bothers some people a lot.

    For my own self, I grew up in a very turbulant household where no one ever held back, and a curse word was just another adjective. I do swear in the course of conversation with people I feel comfortable with, but not at work, at least until I get to know you.

    So, I am wondering, and this is a serious question. Where do you draw the line personally??

    Does it bother you to see intials or euphamisms in print? Ex WTF NFW, Shyte or any variation of that, or schl*ng (for some reason, that one bothered me, sorry.)

    I am not sure where I would even draw the line myself, but I think I would draw it at any word, esp the c-words used as they would be if heard in a porno movie. The word that rhymes w wussy just made me cringe when I read it here. It's just not a word in my "acceptable" curse-word vocabulary. (Talk about an oxymoron!!)

    I can't explain it, just how it affects me.

    Obviously, this is a very subjective thing.

    So, do you think we can discuss it, w/o finger-pointing, or attacks, as to what you personally have a problem with? Do you frequent any other bb's where there is a no cursing environment? Does that bother you or do you feel limited in some way?

    Please let's keep it civilized, I would feel like shyt if this thread had to be moved.
    No, hoolahan, you're not the only one. I grew up hearing it as a "second language" myself, but have chosen to not use this form of expression in everyday usage. It loses its impact when used frequently, IMHO.

    I can usually ignore most uses of profanity both in my daily life as well as here on the BB. After all, it's nothing new to me. What I find disturbing though, is the increased frequency of usage on the BB...and in the media, for that matter. I heard the "f" word used on the radio a week ago & found myself shocked.

    Is there some reason why we (as a society) are allowing ourselves to be limited to these few words in expressing ourselves (other than fatigue, frustration, the usual )?

    I'm not even 40 yet, & this has me feeling old

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