Cremation? Burial? Viewing? Prepaid? Yikes!!!!!

  1. Ok so I was a little morbid this am while getting ready for work, but I was thinking what if me or my husband died tomorrow, what kind of funeral arrangements would I want- and would I be able to deal with dh's family's wishes verses mine ( which would be no viewing, cremation el cheapo). How can I pick a funeral home, are there alternatives? I mean those guys give me the creeps. And the money! But worst of all is the viewing-no, no and no.
    Does anyone else feel this way or did that guy in Georgia who kept all the bodies on his property make you all go for burial?
    Happy Halloween and Blessings,
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  3. by   CATHYW
    Never want to be ashes to ashes; I want to be dust to dust. The prepaid thing is pretty good if you know that you will be staying in an area, or coming back to an area. Most funeral homes belong to chains, so sometimes the prepaid things are transferrable.

    Death is just another stage in the journey we are on, and the beginning of a different, better life. It isn't at allmorbid to want to discuss it, and do what you think is best.

    As far as your hubby's family goes, that is what a will, and/or a Living Will, is for (in addition to Advanced Medical Directive). He can specify exactly what he would like to have done when he leaves this life. That way, the family isn't left to wonder if they did the right thing.
  4. by   JonRN
    I have joined a Cremation Society here in Indiana, no viewing for me either, maybe a short memorial service if they want to. I want to leave all my money for my dear wife, not some funeral director.

    Pappy
  5. by   LasVegasRN
    I think I'd like my family, or I'll just say Emma, to do with my remains whatever would bring her solace. I should write a letter (and do it now while I'm thinking about it) to tell her that if my eyes can be used to help someone with sight, to let them have them. If my heart can be used to give someone life, let them take it. After I've given in death what I couldn't give in life, she can have me buried, burned, spread, or dunked - whatever gives her comfort is fine with me.
  6. by   Mattigan
    cremation.... scattered to the winds. I don't want a grave site for people to feel bad about not fresh flowers on... they all know I think artificial plastic ones are tacky.
  7. by   Mattigan
    Originally posted by Mattigan
    cremation.... scattered to the winds. I don't want a grave site for people to feel bad about not keeping fresh flowers on... they all know I think artificial plastic ones are tacky. But I have a friend who wants a park bench on her grave so people can come back and chat with her for awhile.
  8. by   Mattigan
    what happened? i seem to have quoted myself.:imbar
  9. by   studentOH
    Me: hefty bag and into the dumpster. Or if he can't handle doing that cremation will be fine.

    The mourners: PARTY!!

    Brian

    No viewing, or I'll haunt people!
  10. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    I want to be cremated. No viewing. Who are we kidding, it's gross. What solace will it bring anyone to see me all pale and bloated? Besides, no one will be able to do my hair the way I want it. So just burn me....

    I'm kinda torn about the party idea. Yeah I know, celebrate my life, yadda, yadda, yadda. But I want people to celebrate me while I'm alive, not after I die. So I guess if you have nice things to say about me or flowers to give me, don't save it for a funeral. DO IT NOW!

    Heather
  11. by   SmilingBluEyes
    way we have always done it our family is cremation, memorial, NO VIEWING. my belief is I don't want to remember them that way. NO purpose served as far as I am concerned to view a dead body. What is done w/the ashes is up to my dh, but I would not mind them sent out to the breezes on the ocean. It's the place I am most at peace. Whatever is CHEAPEST and MOST expedient, so as not to trouble my loved ones more than they already are.

    Burial plots are hard to come in some areas; and some cemetaries have been found guilty of burying one on top of the other. Another two reasons I am against burial. That and CO$T!
  12. by   cargal
    I must get it in writing- yeah right! Probably not in this lifetime, lol. If my husband went tomorrow there would be a mess with his family. I could not take a three day viewing and putting all that money into a casket- pine box I mean.
    Jon, what is a Cremation Society? I can't see paying those funeral directors-- blechhhhhhhhhhh.
    Is there such a thing as Drive Thru Cremation?
    Is it really legal to dispose of Ashes in the Wind? If so I want mine dispersed at Falling Waters- it's the only way I'll ever spend some quality time there!

    Blessings,
  13. by   sunnygirl272
    well, i want all organs possible donated before the plug is pulled...then cremate me....
    my dad was cremated, his ashes are on our land in the Southern Tier...the disposal of the ashes was a family thing...but we had a wake at the house, as per my dad's request....lots of noise, friends and booze....of which i did not partake as i was only 10.
  14. by   Mattigan
    Originally posted by OBNURSEHEATHER
    . But I want people to celebrate me while I'm alive, not after I die. So I guess if you have nice things to say about me or flowers to give me, don't save it for a funeral. DO IT NOW!

    Heather
    :chuckle Heather- you never disappoint me.

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