My mother, who was a nurse and was raising six kids, went into a depression over the fact that my father left her for someone else, and she committed suicide 20 years ago this past Feb. 27th. She jumped off a bridge. 5 years ago this past Feb. 27th, my uncle/ my mom's only brother had a heart attack and died. When they were in their teens their mom died on a Feb. 27th. Me and my cousin call it D-day. "How did your D-day go?"
So I was in my second year of nsg school ( I went to a large state university, something like ten thousand undergrads ), and I'm sitting there waiting on the first day of Spring semester for my 8 am lecture to start (pathophysiology, I was taking it w/ the group who were a semester ahead of me), and in walks this girl who I fell for then and there. Short, petite, kind of shy looking. I just had to get to know her, no ifs ands or buts. She sat right behind me that day and for the remainder of the semester, so it was easy for a shy guy like myself to get to know her.
The semester is going along and I'm not making much progress (I was a little screwed up w/ drinking and drugs @ this point in my life). Then a couple weeks til Easter she starts flirting w/ me one day, I had an extra ticket to the Red Sox for Easter day so I asked if she wanted to go (w/ myself, my cousin and his gf) and she said yes. I was thrilled!
Now before I go any further I'm going to tell you that I would later find out that this young lady is the neice of the woman my dad left my mom for. You following?
So she's going to the game w/ me, I'm thrilled, we went out to dinner the week before the game, I was thrilled.
Now we had been talking and I was aware of a situation she was having w/ her Ivy League, track star boyfriend. He had cheated on her, and she was conflicted over what to do about it.
So I pick her up, gave her a little Easter basket, pick up the others, head up to Fenway, beautiful spring day. All day long she seems like she's got something on her mind, but I just keep trying to charm her. We had an exam the next day so we were doing a little studying, I was drinking a few too many watered down beers. Game ends, we head back home, I drop the others off, and then she tells me that her boyfriend (she went back and forth bet. calling him her ex and her bf) had sliced his wrists two nights earlier b/c she was going to this game w/ me. He was fine. An ambulance came for him but he only did superficial damage. He took the semester off and they got back together, and last I knew are still together.
To make a long story short I fell for the neice of the woman who my dad left my mom for, and thus who was indirectly responsible for my moms suicide, and this young lady's boyfriend makes an attempt on his life, indirectly b/c of me. Is your head spinning b/c mine sure was?
It wasn't until Mother's day when I was @ a cook-out @ mt aunt's that I found out that this girl was -----'s neice. My aunt had just moved into the neighborhood where this girl lived and I was telling her about going to the game and she recognized the last name of the girl(different from her aunt's so I didn't know). And we were both floored. It's totally a cosmic kind of thing. Kind of Shakespearean.
I don't get to tell this story to hardly anyone- family and only a couple of close friends, so this feels great to post this kind of anonimously.