Mar 6, '07
I worked on the Queen Mary while in college back in the 80's and most of the people working in the hotel were gay. I had lots of gay friends, one especially good friend named Jim who was also in college studying to be a teacher. This was at the beginning of the HIV crisis. I had never heard the term "F" - hag . . .I cannot even type that word. But he called me that. I went to gay bars with him along with movies, plays, musicals, dinners out, etc. I was younger and liberal then . . so I guess the term didn't bother me. I've changed . . .life changes you. You fall in love with people and they die of a horrible disease and you see them treated badly and called horrible names and those names forever are ugly.
I don't agree that context matter with these two words - I think they are wrong, regardless of who says them.
Many black folks also think using the "N" word is wrong - especially among black people.
Last edit by Spidey's mom on Mar 6, '07
Mar 6, '07
Steph. thanks for the link, it only confrims in my mind she's an idiot, but also might confirm the presumption she wants back in the news. I wonder if there's new book coming out.
Steph, I don't necessarily like the word "*** hag", it's been around since I came out over 30 years ago. It's still around and I hate to admit it I've said it recently about a friends best friend "are you going shopping with your *** hag today? I'm so jealous because every gay man needs a good *** hag to shop with." I cringe as I'm typing this, because not everyone understands it's a term of endearment.
Other than a post like this or a conversation with another gay person, you'll never hear me say ****** in mixed company. And never with the malice Ms. Coulter intended. (I don't mind writing the word, because for some reason it isn't filtered.)
We'll have to agree to disagree that it's wrong 100% of the time. But I will agree it's wrong in her case and that's what this thread is about.
Last edit by Tweety on Mar 6, '07