Comfort With NOT Being All Things To Those You Love

  1. I think, I am finally learning how to be peaceful with NOT being all things to those I love. I have struggled with coulds, woulds, and shoulds for so many years.

    I pray a great deal and have regular conversations with myself and my maker about the path I am on. I attempt to regularly assess what I have done, my motivating force, and where in the world do I want to be next month and next year.

    I like the path I am on. Do you? How did you get there? And what have you learned that you are willing to share?

    B. (getting philosophical now that I am turning 50...)

    Last edit by nightingale on Aug 22, '02
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  3. by   LasVegasRN
    Ahhhh, the everlasting struggle with the "shoulda, coulda, woulda's". I know it well.

    I often worry if I am enough for my daughter. I made the decision to divorce her father and knew he would skip town right after. That was in 1999 and I have to say our lives have been MUCH better since. Why? Because after years of compromising myself to appease someone else, I re-learned who I was. Once I got in touch back with my "me", everything in the universe seemed to fall into place.

    So, I think the challenge is knowing your "me". That person that makes you, you. That person who made you, you. That person who loves you, as you. Your "me" is the most important person "you" are.

    Hope that makes sense! :chuckle
  4. by   Mkue
    nightengale, that is such a nice post, really gets one thinking philosophically (sp).

    the feeling i describe is a "peaceful heart".. when you feel you are at peace with the world around you.

    i really think we all have a mission here on earth whether we realize it or not.

    great thread !
  5. by   kittyw
    Every time I start to progress on my "mission" (what I believe God wants me to do here on earth) - I have "good luck". Things fall into place & I'm at peace. But if I start to waver from my path ... things go to he11!
  6. by   nightingale
    So, I think the challenge is knowing your "me". That person that makes you, you. That person who made you, you. That person who loves you, as you. Your "me" is the most important person "you" are.

    Oh Yes Las Vegas I know exactly what you mean...The feeling I describe is a "Peaceful heart".. when you feel you are at peace with the world around you. Every time I start to progress on my "mission" (what I believe God wants me to do here on earth) - I have "good luck". Things fall into place & I'm at peace. But if I start to waver from my path ... things go to he11!

    Oh yeah...

    Thanks guys for affirming where I am at....

    B.
  7. by   adrienurse
    Wow, I need some of that peace.

    I can be a damn hard person to live with. I am fantastically stubborn, don't like being wrong, and lets face it sometimes I'm a psychotic ******! I truly treasure those who know this about me and choose to put up with me anyway. A true mark of a friend/life partner.
  8. by   nightingale
    adrie:

    So... your secret to success is a tolerant surrounding?

    If it works.. good for you.

    B.
  9. by   nursejws
    Originally posted by adrienurse
    Wow, I need some of that peace.

    I can be a damn hard person to live with. I am fantastically stubborn, don't like being wrong, and lets face it sometimes I'm a psychotic ******! I truly treasure those who know this about me and choose to put up with me anyway. A true mark of a friend/life partner.
    OMG, Adrienurse! We must have been separated at birth.
    Are you an aries?
  10. by   adrienurse
    No sorry, Libra here!
  11. by   aimeee
    Hmmmmm. This bears thinking about for a while.
    Last edit by aimeee on Aug 22, '02
  12. by   nightingale
    "perkin up those ears" to listen to what Amy has to say!

    B.
  13. by   Sleepyeyes
    I used to want to be in control. Of everything. Everyone. All the time. It was a gesture of self-protection, and a symptom of fear.
    It was also isolating; it took all the risk, adventure, and fun out of life. I couldn't give fully to living my life "just in case."
    I leave control to God much more often now....
    and I enjoy my life more.
    It's like being on a tire swing==you finally get to a place where you enjoy the lows and the highs without being afraid the rope will break. :kiss
  14. by   micro
    On the road that I have taken
    one day, walking, I awaken,
    amazed to see where I have come,
    where I'm going, where I'm from.

    This is not the path I thought.
    This is not the place I sought.
    This is not the dream I bought.
    Just a fever of fate that I've caught.

    I'll change highways in a while,
    at the crossroads, one more mile.
    My path is lit by my own fire.
    I'm going only where I desire.

    On the road that I have taken,
    one day, walking, I awaken.
    One day, walking, I awaken
    on the road that I have taken.
    -------------from "The Book of Counted Sorrows"


    .................................................. ...........
    I have much and much more..............and it is truly okay.........
    And for me, truly okay=true peace.........and that is all i truly need. I may WANT much more.............................
    Life is a journey.........till it is done......and I am still young........even though i am old...........
    ..........micro's own rambling words.........

    nightengale......cool thread
    Last edit by micro on Aug 23, '02

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