Christmas gifts

  1. I started a similar thread last year but it still seems appropriate. Do you give your co-workers gifts out of a sense of obligation? We had agreed amongst our management team that we'd each contribute a certain amount of $ and buy everyone we supervise the same thing, just so there wouldn't be any bad feelings amongst staff. The other day, one of the other managers proceeded to tell me what she was giving the management team for gifts, though. Arrgghh. That means at least 2 of the people on the management team will be distributing gifts (we have another woman on our team who distributes gifts for any and all occasions). I don't like this! If I don't buy something, I feel cheap and if I do, I feel resentful because I have no time to shop and don't like spending $ on people of whom I'm not especially fond. Yes, I know my holiday spirit could use a bit of work, but gad... don't you ever just want to call out ''enough already!''???
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  2. 12 Comments

  3. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I give only those I am close to gifts. I feel obligated to do so for others, other than to give a card and bring home made goodies. but that is just me.
  4. by   BSNtobe2009
    I have always got my co-workers a card, and would get some candy (just a small handful), and wrap it up in tissue with a hand-tie ribbon and call it a day. I usually save a hodge-podge of Christmas cards from years past so I have a variety to give to co-workers.
  5. by   traumaRUs
    I work in a large practice but it is just the four NP's that give gifts to each other. However, the doctors treated us to a wonderful lunch and $$$ bonus check which I really appreciated.
  6. by   RNin2007
    Why don't you coordinate a secret santa event instead? Have everyone who wants to participate put there name in an envelope, then let them draw names a few days later. I wouldn't even expect anything from my supervisor (our company gives us a $25 giftcard every year..that's plenty). I don't think gifts should be mandatory or even expected whatsover. Make a nice sign up with directions and hang it in the break room/report room.

    ~J
  7. by   live4today
    Gift-giving should never be mandatory otherwise it's not really fair to call it "gift giving". Give from the heart, or don't give at all (my mom always taught that to us).
  8. by   truern
    We circulated a sign-up sheet for Secret Santas...those that chose to participate signed up and those that didn't didn't. No hard feelings.

    It should be fun I've already ordered a perfect pair of earrings for the person I drew.

    :icon_question:
  9. by   traumaRUs
    The Secret Santa thing is wonderful and fully allows those that want to participate to do so and those that don't (for whatever reason) don't feel obligated too either.
  10. by   mercyteapot
    I agree that Secret Santa is a good idea and we do some variation of it every year agency wide. What happened in this case, though, is that 2 members of a smaller team, decided to buy gifts. Now, people certainly have every right to give gifts to whomever they please. However, one of the team members was of the impression "we're exchanging with each other". We never agreed on that, or even discussed it! And yet, I'll feel bad if I don't participate. I do understand that how I chose to react is my own decision, but I have difficulty believing that I'm the only one who feels this way.

    On the plus side, we decided that next year we are going to sponsor a family. I like doing that much more. Earlier this week, an insurance company called looking for a family of a child with a disability that they could sponsor. The mother of the family I suggested called to thank me yesterday and she was nearly in tears. Just having that small part in making a special Christmas for someone who needs the help felt much more like the spirit of Christmas than endless gift exchanges do.
  11. by   weetziebat
    Quote from mercyteapot
    On the plus side, we decided that next year we are going to sponsor a family. I like doing that much more. Earlier this week, an insurance company called looking for a family of a child with a disability that they could sponsor. The mother of the family I suggested called to thank me yesterday and she was nearly in tears. Just having that small part in making a special Christmas for someone who needs the help felt much more like the spirit of Christmas than endless gift exchanges do.
    This is such a wonderful idea. In the real spirit of Christmas - rather than feeling obligated to give gifts and always receiving at least one from someone you didn't give to. The last thing I want or need is another Christmas ornament or trinket. The idea of sponsoring a deserving person is something that needs to spread, as I imagine most of us would feel lots better about doing this.
  12. by   Back2School@40
    Quote from mercyteapot
    i agree that secret santa is a good idea and we do some variation of it every year agency wide. what happened in this case, though, is that 2 members of a smaller team, decided to buy gifts. now, people certainly have every right to give gifts to whomever they please. however, one of the team members was of the impression "we're exchanging with each other". we never agreed on that, or even discussed it! and yet, i'll feel bad if i don't participate. i do understand that how i chose to react is my own decision, but i have difficulty believing that i'm the only one who feels this way.

    on the plus side, we decided that next year we are going to sponsor a family. i like doing that much more. earlier this week, an insurance company called looking for a family of a child with a disability that they could sponsor. the mother of the family i suggested called to thank me yesterday and she was nearly in tears. just having that small part in making a special christmas for someone who needs the help felt much more like the spirit of christmas than endless gift exchanges do.
    [font="century gothic"]this is what we do in the er where i work. this year we adopted a family with 4 kids. the dad has been unable to find steady work for several months. the youngest child has had severe health problems since birth. as a unit, we provide everything from a christmas tree and christmas dinner to clothing, toys, and other necessities they may not be able to afford. it is wonderful and richly rewarding. it is what the true spirit of christmas is all about.
  13. by   Spidey's mom
    I love the idea of adopting a family.

    We exchanged names at work - only those who wanted to participate did. BUT, as Mercy mentioned some of the folks are bringing in gifts to everyone anyway! That drives me crazy. It makes me feel awful to get a gift from someone when we've all decided not to do that.

    Even if we adopted a family, I'll bet the ones who give to everyone still do it.

    steph
  14. by   Mimi2RN
    :Present2: :Present1:
    We do "Secret Santa", with little gifts given for about 3 weeks, from the begining of December. Total cost about $25. We find out who are "Santa" is at the Christmas potluck, the week before Christmas. :icon_surprised: Some people are better at this than others, and it's nice if you know the co-worker that was drawn for you as you have a better idea of what they like.

    I also buy some generic gifts such as socks or candy for some of the staff that I work with most often. My friends at work usually get something a little more personalized.

    :Holly2: :Santa1: :Santa1: :Santa1: :Holly2:

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