children and silence


  1. Been moody lately and when I get moody.......I get on soapbox topics.........

    here is a big one of mine.........

    just my thoughts.......in minimum, as I could go on and on about it.........

    thank goodness that I am not judge and jury and executioner when it comes to the subject of violence to children.............

    children suffer and suffer so much in silence and in their own fears and nightmares........as they are alone in their little world.........

    evil and violence is visited upon children in so many forms;
    not that they have to be listed, but murder, sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, neglect, abandonment........and the list goes on and on.............

    what kind of human can perpetrate such violence against a child.........and the damage it leaves on that child.........
    -----the immediate damage.....both physical and emotional
    -----and the residual damage.........we were all kids once...........

    the poor child that suffers in silence.............and holds it inside............never knowing that what happened to them is wrong and is not their fault.......and never knowing that it has skewed their perspective of the world...........and life.........and their own psyche.........

    and then we wonder what is wrong with our nation and our world.............

    As you all can tell I hold some very deep seated opinions here, and the above stated is just from my heart and mind.....no research in the above......however there is much, much out there..............................

    when I get moody and soapbox.........I need to vent and verbalize it.............usually something positive comes out of it.................

    micro just rememberin the children
    the children that are children now
    and the kid that is still in all of us.........:kiss
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  3. by   micro
    just wanted to simply say thx all for reading my attempt of writing my thoughts out on this sad subject...........

    i understand the no replies............it is a very hard subject..........also i know i carry some very hard opinions.............

    I simply ask just from the being human aspect.........remember the children.............................and take care of yourself.........

    micro;-/
  4. by   live4today
    Micro, you have such a big heart! Your above thoughts are true and very heartfelt from my perspective. We must protect the children. They often have no voice, but us. Thanks for sharing from your heart here. :kiss and (((HUGS)))
  5. by   micro
    :stone :stone :stone

    thanks renee,

    I have seen your posts and threads........have even agreed to disagree with a couple of them......and you are great with this.........

    I see by how you write.....how you are.....very caring, giving and loving.............and have also saw how your heart reaches out to people in pain.............

    thx for the compliment...........towards my writing........but i humbly decline any complement.........as I am just another grown up child...........

    get my drift...........

    renee thx again and keep on reachin out to care a love others.....

    hey all,

    micro

    remember the children
  6. by   pkmom
    What inspired this? Andrea Yates perhaps?
  7. by   micro
    Originally posted by pkmom
    What inspired this? Andrea Yates perhaps?

    for me, yes, thinking about the whole situation initiated the thought process.............

    but as I was the author of this thread.............it went way way way past that.....................

    I am not patting myself anyhere, but reread my initial post.........there is much there.............and in many directions.............

    and it went for many days with no replies.............and still not many replies..............

    of which I understand the minimum of replies with the lots of views.........
    it is a very hard issue for many reasons

    micro

    remember the children

    lol all
  8. by   eltrip
    Hey Micro,

    I don't get it either. I don't understand how adults make the choice to do the things they do to children. I've been trying to come to terms with this question for years. I still don't have any answers. What makes someone do these things? Somefolks will say, "Well, the perpetrator had this happen to him/her as a child..." or some other rot such as that. It denies our ability to choose.

    Andrea Yates' behavior has been hitting me hard, both as a mom, & as a human. I don't understand it...I just wish that she'd gotten more treatment, & that her docs had better communicated with her husband

    Just my 2 cents worth.
    Peace, ya'll

    Joy
  9. by   micro
    thx eltrip,

    no, i don't know if i will ever get the answer..........

    yes, i think some of it is we were all kids once.............and sometimes things happen to children that should never happen to a child and to a child psyche...........

    Andrea Yates?????????Definite mental instability there.........there were a lot of people in her world that could have helped pull her out before and/or got the children out of the environment until mom felt better.........

    more later and just may PM to you if that is all right.....

    lol,
    micro
  10. by   eltrip
    Micro,
    a PM will be fine.

    Joy
  11. by   Lausana
    wow micro....i could ramble on about this topic for hours...i'll try not to!!

    there have been a couple of cases in my area recently, that left me shocked that people could harm children that way-let alone their own children.

    a little 6 yr old w/ cerebral palsy was literally thrown away with the garbage in the dumpster, her mother confessed after she'd been missing for a month. mom didn't want people to think she'd killed her...only god knows what happened to this little girl (the dump was searched for weeks with no luck) but at least she is in a wonderful place where she won't be abused or unloved ever again.

    what do we do to stop these things from happening, don't know, i guess never turning a blind eye and using our gut instincts if we feel something isn't right. i think people don't want to get involved in things that "aren't their business" but children's lives are our business!!

    a man was interviewed after the andrea yates verdict, since he had been in rusty yates position (wife killed their 4 kids) but unlike rusty, he didn't stand behind his wife on what she'd done. anyway, i checked out his website, named after his son, is dedicated to children killed by their own parents. http://www.brandonshouse.org/ i was absolutely stunned--i'm obviously aware of abuse, but you usually fear "strangers" harming children not their own parents!! on the page it list these statistics:


    statistics show that children under age 5 are in the greatest peril at the hands of their own parents, with mothers killing nearly as often as fathers.

    who killed children under age 5

    in 1999, the latest statistics available:

    parent: 56.6%
    unknown: 10.8%
    stranger: 2%
    friend/acquaintance: 22.9%
    other family: 7.8%

    (source: fbi, supplementary homicide reports, 1976-1999 chronicle graphic
    ©2002 san francisco chronicle page a - 1)
  12. by   Lausana
    wow, sorry-almost need another page for my post, lol!! some topics just get to you though!
  13. by   CATHYW
    micro, i was just with my grandkids (son is 5, daughter is 9 mos) this weekend, because of a funeral (we live in different states). it was such a joy to see them, but it nearly broke my and my husband's hearts to see the face of our granddaughter. she had healing chickenpox-an extensive case of them. we felt for the pain she must have had, even though her mom is great, and takes good care of her.

    it is beyond anything i can understand why a parent would kill a child. it absolutely does not compute, in my brain! when your heart goes out to a child with the chicken pox, it absolutely breaks for the children drowned, thrown out with the garbage, locked in a closet, cage, or etc., by their parents.

    a large part of our society, and probably some members of this board, will probably think i am an animal, but i think that an eye-for-an-eye is appropriate in these cases. put these parents through the same torment that they found convenient to inflict on their children. why not? do we value the lives of adults more than children?

    last week, in atlanta, a grandmother said that she left a 10 mo. old little girl in a bathtub with her 3 year old sibling to watch her for ten minutes! she came back, and found the baby with 3rd degree burns to 90% of her body. of course, she blamed the 3 year old. i believe her story, don't you? not!!! you know that baby was screaming at the top of her lungs! to be burned on 90% of her body, somebody had to be holding her down, i think! the baby was first at a burn center in augusta, but was transferred to a shriner's burn hospital (cincinnatti, i think). i haven't heard any more about her case.

    i never have agreed with much that hillary clinton has said or done, but the title of the book she wrote, "it takes a village (to raise a child)" is correct. we, as nurses, and citizens, need to be vocal about child abuse. as friends and neighbors, we need to watch out for the children of others as if they were our own.
  14. by   micro
    you are all such great people with good hearts..........
    no I don't know answers either.......
    and short reply tonight.....
    as late night at work........but more from me soon.........
    this is such a sad, evil subject..........that it carries a personal weight to even discuss it, as you know.........

    is nice to have replies......as this subject needs to be talked about in all realms for the children..........

    but let me restate, i understand the nonreplies......

    lol to all,
    remember the children


    micro

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