Chemistry between people, what is it? is it real?

  1. I've been married for 30 years and I love my husband and my life and would never cheat on my spouse. With that said.......and don't take this too seriously......I just want to know your opinions on feeling tingly when around a certain person? This doctor makes a point to speak to me and usually grabs my hand while doing so. I have not seen him do this to anyone else. We literally ran into each other around a corner a few weeks ago and he said "wow what a nice surprise to see you". He's only ever been very professional around me. I just enjoy this tingly feeling when he's around. Any opinions? Is there a natural chemistry sometimes between two people? Any ideas of what it is or what causes it?
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  3. by   SharonH, RN
    Oh yes, there is a natural chemistry that happens between people. Not just of the opposite but of the same sex also. Haven't you ever met people and you just seemed to click right away? I don't know what causes it, I'm not that deep but it's so wonderful when it happens. Enjoy!
  4. by   DutchgirlRN
    Quote from SharonH, RN
    Oh yes, there is a natural chemistry that happens between people. Not just of the opposite but of the same sex also. Haven't you ever met people and you just seemed to click right away? I don't know what causes it, I'm not that deep but it's so wonderful when it happens. Enjoy!
    Yes I know what you mean. Some people you are naturally very comfortable around and others it takes a while to get to know them and then others you never seem to jive with. Then there are those who make you tingly! Woo Hoo !
  5. by   SouthernLPN2RN
    Those moments are few and far between, lol!! Enjoy them!
  6. by   Jessy_RN
    I think it is normal. As long as certain boundaries are not crossed there is nothing wrong with that. I get like that with a male classmate. He is just an awesome lab partner and enjoy his teamwork.
  7. by   nurse4theplanet
    I understand completely with what you are saying. Just because you are married doesn't mean that you are not attracted to others in any sense (and I don't mean exclusively physical here, but emotional, spiritual, etc.) That tingly feeling that you describe for me is excitement. Excitement with the anticipation of another's presence, compliments, approval, and reciprocated feelings. It most often occurs with new budding relationships albeit plutonic or otherwise...and that is what people sometimes confuse with their current relationship. "Oh well the spark is gone!" Be careful with those tingly feelings because they don't last long...haha. Seriously, as long as nothing progresses above and beyond a friendship then enjoy the excitement. I love to get flirted with. It boosts my ego and gives me a warm and fuzzy in my belly as long as it is coming from somebody desireable...like the cute waiter at pizza hut, not the dirty ol' man at the waffle house Then I go home with a smile on my face to hubby and give him a great big kiss and hug and he is just clueless
  8. by   ZASHAGALKA
    There is a natural chemistry between certain people.

    A fate.

    binds.


    This is a physical world, but we are spiritual creatures. And, to quote the good book, we see darkly into that spiritual realm. But never, never underestimate its power.

    We ARE spiritual creatures. We connect on spiritual levels. And some of those levels lie beyond our current comprehension. . .

    We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.

    ~faith,
    Timothy.
  9. by   DutchgirlRN
    Thank you SolierWife & Tim, You really have explained it well. I think it is somewhat spiritual and does have to do with the attention. Totally plutonic. But yes nice.
  10. by   grimmy
    [font="book antiqua"]i really wish i understood this. i have asked myself this questions many times, and perhaps its why i've never been married. i've never experienced this so-called "chemistry" in a mutual way. i've had plenty of friends - great friends - male and female, and i've been in love, too. but whenever i've been rejected its because the other person says (perhaps lying to make me feel better) "there was no chemistry." i don't know anymore. maybe it will happen someday, and i'll feel like a part of the club.
  11. by   DutchgirlRN
    Quote from grimmy
    [font=book antiqua]i really wish i understood this. i have asked myself this questions many times, and perhaps its why i've never been married. i've never experienced this so-called "chemistry" in a mutual way.
    there is somebody out there for you. you're smart to pay attention, being in love is not enough to make a marriage last a long time. my husband and i are first of all best friends. we've had some rough spots over the past 30 years but above all we are like one. now being grandparents adds a whole new demension. it sometimes seems like just yesterday that we were dating now here we have a grandchild.
  12. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    I think there's chemistry.

    I remember the first time i'd met my ex-fiancé. It was in a group of friends, but, man, we'd just hit it off. By the end of the night, we were dancing like we had been dancing for years.

    Not to mention the smell of his laundry soap, cologne, and deodorant.

    I want that kind of chemistry again. I've had that chemistry with other people before. But that date i had last Friday, there wasn't any there at all.
  13. by   nurse4theplanet
    yes...when the chemistry is lacking it is as obvious as a big ogar sitting in between you
  14. by   fluffwad
    I believe there is some kind of 'chemistry' or something on a more spiritual level , but that only goes so far...............it isn't enough when one person has unrealistic expectations, when there are big moral or cultural differences, when one is only about his/ her own needs, when one is just not willing or able to live up to his / her end of things, when the novelty / romance wears off.

    My husband and I clicked immediately and have been married 24 years, but we are best friends and have worked out various issues as they happened.

    I clicked with one of my bosses, but that becomes pretty meaningless when that boss keeps making things difficult for me by making bad decisions.
    Last edit by fluffwad on Dec 4, '05

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