Well.......come to think of it......my Charley and I were playing a game of cribbage one morning this week before I left for work and he pipes up with, "Lois, I want you to know that you are the best thing that ever happened to me." I said, "I know". He has been working the afternoon shift and I have come home every day this week to a really clean house! Even the toilet! That's a change.
I dropped off some blood samples yesterday to our hospital lab and ran into a doctor of Middle Eastern decent who never acknowledges anyone with a word let alone a smile. He gave me both yesterday. I asked him how he was doing and he said that he was "concerned for his family back home". I did not ask him where exactly 'home' is, but I offered him my sincerest wish for his families best.
I have changed, too. I used to be a 'rager' on the highways. Now I find myself patiently putzing along behind some old guy with Florida plates on his car without cursing the gods above for his existance on the road and/or formulating in my mind yet another law to get them off the road; I am more patient while waiting in a long line at Wal-Marts for the fool check out girl to finish chatting with the check out girl behind her about the sizing of bras and the price of tea in China. I am not so persnickity lately when patients forget their appointments even tho I phoned them the night before to remind them; I am not so bothered about getting here or there, or anywhere for that matter;
My daughter, the venerable peace-nik, is so appalled by the events of 9/ll that she calls most every night to give me more insights about how we must destroy terriorism and those that spread it; my son, the venerable warrior, has told us that, "No, I won't re-up for this one...the Gulf and Bosnia were enough for me. I've seen enough death to last two lifetimes". (He reactiviated his active Army status for the Gulf war and spent two years in Bosnia). "Really, Mom", he says, "I just want to get my doctorate". We were almost certain that he would re-up.
There have been a lot of 'changes' around my neck of the woods. Mostly, I notice that my senior citizens are fairly silent. Most of them say, "I just don't know anymore".