Calling all married nurses!

  1. This question has nothing to do with anything medical or what have you. But! I am curious, I am a nursing student right now at Western Michigan University and I am getting married next summer! My fiance and I are going ring shopping over christmas break and I was wondering what you working ladies suggest getting. My engagement ring is a solitare and I am trying to decide if I should just get a band to go with that so if I can't wear my diamond at work I can at least wear my band or I was thinking about getting a wrap and if I did that and couldn't wear my band then I would have nothing to wear. But I guess I am really wondering how often can you not wear your wedding rings?? Thanks for taking the time to read this :wink2:

  2. 15 Comments

  3. by   sugabuga
    I have a solitare and a small band. I'll just wear the band to work.
  4. by   nurse_clown
    [font="verdana"]congratulations on your engagment!! :wink2:

    i got married about five years ago. i wear my engagement ring and my wedding ring. my engagment ring isn't huge and my wedding ring is beautiful. sometimes i take both of them off and sometimes, i leave them both on. some people i know put their rings on a chain. the reason why i wear my rings is because i am still considered young and a lot of the male patients, physicians and others inquire about my marital status. wearing my rings makes my status clear and i don't have to talk about it without appearing rude because i've had it up to here with the proposals and flowers.

    to me, it's important. at first, i didn't wear my rings and there were some misunderstandings. i guess, a patient took me the wrong way and became obsessed with me. a few months after he was discharged from the hospital, he stalked me and raped me and i'm still being stalked to this day. some hospitals have policies about jewellery but as far as i'm concerned i don't follow them. we also have a "no scent" policy but most of the managers wear such stunning perfume, i want to puke in the elevator.

    i suggest to you to use your best judgement. i don't mean to scare you but sometimes, we have to be clear about things without having to say it. my marital status really shouldn't be anyone's business but i am clear and straight about certain things. i don't want that happening to me again. it's hard to say whether or not i would've been attacked if i was married or not. who knows. but i think the rings keeps the men at bay!
  5. by   sirI
    Moved to the Break Room.
  6. by   fluffwad
    You could also get a "channel-set" ring.....the stones are set into the band, so they can't snag on anything or anyone......more durable too, the prongs that hold the stones for solitaires sometimes break off!
  7. by   P_RN
    Has anyone ever stripped off their gloves and their rings went with the glove? It only took once before I stopped wearing the good stuff to work. I have a plain gold band that Mama had bought when her hands became too swollen. I'd wear that sometimes, or sometimes I'd wear my Claddagh I got for our 30th anniversary.

    Most of the time no rings seemed best for me. I know I'm married. I act married and the only guy who ever hit on me regretted it so soon he's still walking bowlegged

    As far as the stalking, you need to get the cops involved before something else dreadful happens.
  8. by   KrisRNwannabe
    i have a 2 ct diamond engagement ring that is bezel set so it set lower and i have a anniversery band for my wedding band. i wear them everyday. and i will take them off over my dead body!! I have never had an issue with them. i see all kinds of different rings everyday. i say get what you like!
  9. by   live4today
    When I was still a student nurse (many moons ago), I lost a diamond out of my wedding ring during a handscrubbing in OR as a student nurse. I just wore the band after that incident occurred. Never did recover the diamond either, so my husband (at the time) bought me a brand new wedding set. The longer I was in nursing, the less I wore my rings to work due to too many handwashings during any given shift. I'm NOT married anymore, so I don't have to worry about wedding rings. I'm not much into wearing jewelry anyway....just my expandable watch when I'm working because of my allergy to most jewelry.....expensive or cheap.
  10. by   suebird3
    p_rn.....i nearly lost both my engagement ring and wedding band while on my one home health case de-gloving. never again.... i wear a band that is just as nice. i do also wear my maternal grandma's ring set for sentimentality. i will eventually get my "original" set fixed/sized.....
    [color=#483d8b]i have worn rings for so long, i just can't "not" wear one.

    [color=#483d8b]just make sure the band is snug enough not to get pulled off. don't suffer my near-mishap.

    Last edit by suebird3 on Nov 29, '05
  11. by   CardioTrans
    I have a solitaire with a wrap and a plain band. When Im not working I wear them all together. When I do work, I wear only my band. I have worn my solitaire and wrap to work, but I work in ICU and see some nasty bugs. I dont want anything getting in the setting. Not to mention that I dont want to chance knocking my prongs and losing my diamond.

    I got my band about 13 yrs ago, and never take it off. When I was in nursing school a plain band was the only ring we could wear.

    Congrats on your engagement!
  12. by   Fun2, RN, BSN
    I guess I should stop wearing my regular rings. I have permanent indentions.

    As for my wedding set, I guess I need to buy a pretty band because I'm not going without one, and I sure don't want to loose mine...(or have it rip my gloves).
  13. by   NRSKarenRN
    Most embarrising moment came one month after getting engaged: received call from nursing home laundry that they found my engagement ring!
    Working nights, must have lost it changing an adult cloth diaper as it would snag on them (no disposable in those days). So tired didn't miss it upon going home. Stopped wearing it to work that day, and in choosing wedding ring, chose thicker band with design, no stones. Thirty years later, I still wear that band and have never lost it at work.
  14. by   Gompers
    Depends on where you want to work. Most floor and units, you should be fine wearing your rings but just be prepared that they might get lost someday. Now, for a unit where you "scrub in" like OR, OB, or NICU - many of these units do not allow anything but a plain band, no diamonds or anything like that because the small spaces between the band and the stone are bacteria-traps! I'm in the NICU, and I chose a solid white gold band that I wear when I scrub at the beginning of each shift. My engagement ring is going to stay at home now (only been married 2 weeks!) because it's got three diamonds and lots of places for germs to hide.

    If you do choose to wear a ring that has stones set in it - get insurance on it, definitely. Also take it in every few months to have it examined for loose prongs and things like that, and to have it really deep cleaned by the store. I also have my ring sized about 1/4 size too small. It was a little tight at first, but now it looks fine, and even when my hand is wet, it's hard to get that ring past my knuckle.