Burial or cremation?

  1. A friend of mine recently started a job at a cremation society which prompted a lengthy discussion this evening about different societal and cultural beliefs and attitudes toward "resting in peace." Just curious to see what others here would choose (burial, cremation, or other) and why.
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  2. Poll: Which funeral arrangement would you choose?

    • Burial

      20.00% 6
    • Cremation

      60.00% 18
    • Other

      13.33% 4
    • Undecided

      6.67% 2
    30 Votes
  3. 31 Comments

  4. by   Angelica
    I want to be cremated, but whatever my family wants to do with my body is O.K. with me (you know, I'll be dead). Death rituals are for the living, anyway.
    This is a good topic. Not something I think about a lot.
  5. by   colleen10
    I chose cremation. I don't know what it is but ever since I was little I have always known that I didn't want to be buried. I think partly because I have had this discussion with my mum and she has always said she wants to be cremated too.

    Now that I'm an adult I rationalize my decision in a number of different ways. For one, although I'm a practicing Catholic I don't buy into a lot of the "church rules" like you have to be buried so that you can be resurrected again, have to be married in a church to be recognized as truly married, that homosexuality is wrong, divorce is wrong, etc. etc. I am pretty liberal and have never followed or believed in church doctrine regarding these kinds of things.

    The major reason for me is that while I understand that having a viewing at a funeral home can provide a great amount of closure for those left behind, the idea that someone is going to take my naked body and drain it of all my natural fluids and pump me back up again with some very unnatural stuff creeps me out. I live a relatively healthy life aside from drinking beer and the thought of keeping my body relatively free of toxins for a whole life time to just have it filled with embalming fluid doesn't appeal to me.

    Yeah, I know at that point I won't care what happens to it but still, it's my body, I have been very connected to it my whole life!

    I completely understand why people want to be laid out and buried and I am probably the only person, aside from my mum, in my family that wants to be cremated, but to me being embalmed just seems very unnatural.

    Plus, I think I would be pretty happy sitting in the Balik vase I received from my father as a wedding present, on the mantle of my house. I also want my cat to be cremated and put in there with me.
  6. by   jadednurse
    I used to think burial would be it, but the more I think about it cremation could be an option for me too. I should have added an "undecided" option to the poll, as that's where I'd be right now.

    I suppose I'd have to really talk about it w/ my loved one's too. If I died right now, I know it would be important to my mom especially to have a gravesight to visit. If she weren't around, I might feel differently.
  7. by   Nurse Ratched
    I am an ardent non-clutterer in life, and I would hate to be ground clutter in death. Have a bonfire, roast some dogs and marshmallows, and toast me with a decent brand of beer .

    Hubby is well aware of my wishes to be cremated, as are my parents and siblings, all of whom feel the same way for themselves. He knows that if he disobeys, I *will* find a way to haunt him .
  8. by   moonshadeau
    Creamation, then I can be a diamond!


    Among other reasons like I don't want people being sad and coming to see me in the same spot year after year. I want my family to be able to move on.
  9. by   jadednurse
    And move...literally. The thought of leaving my loved ones behind should I ever choose to move is kinda sad to me.
  10. by   H ynnoD
    I'm going to be cremated.Don't know everywhere that has The Neptune Society,but for 1,274.06 you can be cremated.You can pay all at once or make payments.Once all is paid you never again pay anymore.Much cheaper then a regular funeral.They take care of all the legal stuff,like making sure your dead and notifying the proper authorities.They usually pick up your body within the hour of recieving a call.I plan on blowing all my life insurance money when I turn 65.At that age I won't need it anymore, everything will already be taken care of.:chuckle
  11. by   moonshadeau
    Originally posted by Donny H
    ...They take care of all the legal stuff,like making sure your dead and notifying the proper authorities.
    I nearly choked on my Froot Loops. Making sure you are dead
  12. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Originally posted by Nurse Ratched
    I am an ardent non-clutterer in life, and I would hate to be ground clutter in death. Have a bonfire, roast some dogs and marshmallows, and toast me with a decent brand of beer .

    Hubby is well aware of my wishes to be cremated, as are my parents and siblings, all of whom feel the same way for themselves. He knows that if he disobeys, I *will* find a way to haunt him .
    I agree on the principle of NON-clutter the earth. It works for me. I like the way ya think!
  13. by   jadednurse
    The Neptune Society

    That's where my friend works! Donny, I'll have to let her know that "making sure you are dead" should be part of their sales pitch!:chuckle
  14. by   Tilleycs
    I could care less, honestly. Whatever's cheapest! I don't want my family to go broke after sticking me in the ground in some high-dollar casket. Stick me in a pine box, I'm dead! I won't know the difference!
  15. by   colleen10
    , I'll have to let her know that "making sure you are dead" should be part of their sales pitch!
    -Jaded

    Too Funny!!!!!!!!

    I'm interested to know what the option "Other" is.

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