Bummin........

  1. Within the past year, 6 people from my high school, have died. 2 of them committed suicide, 4 of them died as a result of an accident or health issues. This is really bothering me. It really makes me stop and tell myself to take one day at a time, slow down, don't rush. There's so much I can do in a day, but if I take things one at a time I can do more.

    The last person to pass away was a big guy, we called him big Ben. He had a health issue and he had a lot of weight on his body. He had a bad heart and he died in his sleep last Friday night. He was a wicked nice person and had a good heart, he was always making people laugh, I'm just so sad to see such wonderful people die.

    It's scary to think that this could happen to me. I try to drive as carefully as I can, and think before I do something. But, I guess I can't be too careful, I'm going to go sometime and only God knows when. I wish these people were Christians, or just saved. Just so that I would know that I will see them again in Heaven someday....

    I don't want to lose anyone else. I don't want to lose my life, and I don't want to lose someone I love. I hate death.........
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  2. 7 Comments

  3. by   CATHYW
    Kristi,
    I can understand your feeling of loss. We are working on my class reunion, and have discovered the same thing, plus the fact that one of our classmates was murdered!
    It seems that there is never a good time to die, but it is especially painful when the person is young, and hasn't yet really begun their life-who knows what they could have been, and done, and how they might have affected the lives of others?
    The Bible says that it is "appointed unto man once to die..."-
    we just are never for prepared for the "when" of it. I agree with your thoughts about hoping that they have been saved. Try to live your life as a good witness, and speak when you can.
    As far as yourself, live your life to the fullest, and be careful, but don't be fearful. God bless, and I hope this might have helped a little-
    Cathy
  4. by   Q.
    Kristi-
    How awful! Death can be a somewhat scary thing, especially if it's a peer. My whole life I spent attending funerals of my family, so I was accustomed to losing people, both unexpectedly and as a result of a long illness. My "comfort" with death changed dramatically when, at the age of 20, I heard on the news that a high school classmate who was in a trench working construction in our home town, was buried to death as the trench collapsed. Soon after that, one year out of college, a very close friend of mine committed suicide. The whole "death" concept changed when it was someone who I felt could easily be me.

    At times, I am not afraid of death; and other times I am. But in either case I feel comfort in knowing that these types of things pull life into perspective for me, and I try to live knowing that I may not see someone again. I do believe, however, that "death" is not a bad thing, but rather a passage to something more rewarding.

    Until then Kristi, just try to live your life, and yes, be careful, but not fearful, as Cathy stated. There is a difference.
  5. by   tattooednursie
    I know how you feel. I recently had a good friend of mine killed in a wreck down the road from my house, and to top it off, I responded with the medical team of the vollunteer fire department as I always do for wrecks in our district , and my efforts to save her were worthless. I felt so bad, and I hadnt seen her in months. I regret not getting to se her more often.

    Don't take a single day for granted Kristi. We will all die sooner or later, some just may be younger than others, and the younger they are, the more sad the situation.
  6. by   CashewLPN
    'We all come from the goddess, and to her we shall return, Like a drop of rain, flowing to the ocean....
    We all come from the god, and to him we shall return, like a spark of flame, shining to the stars above...'
    Traditional Wiccan Chant...

    see-- one does not need to be 'saved'.... they already are...
    Kristi-- if you want a nice story of reclaiming.... let me know... it kind of makes sense with me...
    --Barbara
  7. by   LilgirlRN
    No man knoweth the time or the date. Death is part of life. Etc, etc. None of this will make you feel any better, you are young and young people aren't supposed to die. Accidents are teh leading cause of death of teenagers and young adults, so encourage those you know to wear seatbelts, don't drink and drive etc. Seems as if there isnothing you can do, I am sure you feel quite helpless. I've been a nurse for 15 years, I've seen people who should have died survive and those that you would have thought to live die for seemingly no reason. If your number is up, it's up and no one other than the Almighty himself can save you. I wish you comfort in your loss, I hope you can find peace in the knowledge that those who are gone have gone somewhere better.
  8. by   Aussienurse2
    Honey I wish I had some words of comfort, but it sounds like you are experiancing life. The older we get , the more people we loose. There is no way around this, it sucks bigtime but it is the way of things. We develop ways to cope but the best way is just to live, you can't live a life being afraid death. Love the ones that deserve your love, help the ones that need your help and try to live with the rest. :kiss
  9. by   duckie
    You have received some wonderful words of advice here but there were just a couple of things I wanted to add. I try to follow one simple rule, live each day as though it could be your last, so that you will not leave this earth with regrets. Tell others what you think of them while they are here, for standing at a coffin does them no good to hear your cries of love. I am a very loving and affectionate person, both verbally and physically. If I didn't give my staff at least one hug a day, they'd think I was sick and they have all grown to expect these gesters of love from me. The funny part is, they are starting to get to the point where they hug each other, so you see, love is catching! My other thoughts were that you said you wish you knew they were saved so that you would see them again soemday in Heaven. How do you know that they weren't? It only takes 3 little words meant from the heart to receive forgiveness, "Jesus forgive me". It's oh so simple yet so many make it complicated. The Bible says in John 3:16, "For God so loved the world that who so ever believeth in him shall not perish but have ever lasting life." We do not have to do great works to get Heaven for none of us are worthy of the love and mercy we have from our Father, but he loves us as He does because Jesus paid the price for our sins to give us a chance to live with him forever. We all go through stages where our thougths on death vary but one thing will never change, forgiveness is ours only for the asking. I know dealing with this subject can rattle your heart but it is by faith that we must live our lives and daily commit ourselves to God. I wish you luck and if there is anything I can assist you with, please fell free to PM me anytime. May the good Lord bless and keep you tucked safely in His loving hands. Duckie

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