1. I was reading Adrienne's Twentysomething post and sitting here thinking of how I'll be turning 40 soon. Somehow, I always thought I would have accomplished more at age 37 but I feel soooo stagnant. Is it the "Thirtysomething" blues?

    Nevermind being single again after a crappy marriage I had to end 4 years ago and living wayyyy out in Vegas by myself away from family and closest friends, I just feel like I'm rusting away lately.

    Mom is leaving to go back to Toledo after having been out here with me since July. I am going to miss her something awful. She has been so wonderful!! (Emma and I have been spoiled ROTTEN).

    Then I have to deal with my best friend coming out here in 2 weeks with her new boyfriend RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK, did I same his name is RICK? Did I happen to mention RICK? You know, RICK? Can't form a sentence without RICK. (insert vomiting smilie HERE). Ugh!!

    For my 40th birthday, I'm going on a cruise. By myself, hopefully to Alaska. I want to be away from people I know and wallow in self-pity for a good 7 days whilst being pampered.

    I know. Boo frickin' hoo. I'm done.

    So, how are you doing? :stone
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  3. by   Mattigan
    Vegas- hugs ((( Vegas))) to you.

    I am doing pretty much the same as you(Thanks for asking) with the exception of I'll be fifty in 2 years. Now, THAT should make you feel a little better.
  4. by   nightingale
    Well Vegas... I am turning 50 9-4 so let's not dwell on the age thingy.. okay?

    I know what you mean... I am not where I thought I would be either.. so back to the drawing board and working on my plan B (or is it C)...

    You know.. I know.. if you wanted a RICK you could have one... you have made better choices in being a great Mom and choosing a career helping others...

    (((((((LVG RN))))))))) I raise my cup to you... now to work on your plan B (or is it C?)

  5. by   live4today
    I was your age when divorced from hubby number one. From age 35 to 38, I learned more about men that I had in my entire life since hubby number one WAS the very first man in my life...EVER. The things I learned about men were NOT good. One of those things that I learned was that it was easy for me as a woman to snag a date....but very very difficult to snag a LIFETIME mate you.......I did NOT want to deal with any more drama in my life when it came to being in a committed relationship. Getting laid was never a problem.....getting remarried to a great all around guy was.

    I mention those things because at that time I was in my 30's thinking was I going to enter my 40's and 50's like my own mother had....ALONE?

    When my second husband came along, I did not believe one word that came out of his mouth because I had learned so much about men and their drama in getting over on women...especially divorced women. I experienced a VERY RUDE AWAKENING about relationships between ages 35 and 38. Scary, too, I might add.

    Hubby # 2 is always under the looking glass with me because he hasn't always been a model hubby either, but we understand one another. He knows that when I said "until death do us part".....I meant it.

    I don't blame you for holding out until that "right man" comes along. You have a small child to be concerned about as well as your own welfare. I had three daughters to be concerned about, so had no time for games with men when it came to being sincere where commitment and honesty was concerned.

    What's a woman to do when she reaches her mid-thirties, and still finds herself alone? Does she "settle"? No.....she keeps on living the life she is comfortable living, and any man who comes along and can relate to her in that life she is living MAY be the right one for the a husband to you, and as a stepfather for Emma. :kiss :kiss :kiss
    Last edit by live4today on Sep 3, '02
  6. by   LasVegasRN
    Originally posted by nightngale1998
    ...You know.. I know.. if you wanted a RICK you could have one... you have made better choices in being a great Mom and choosing a career helping others...

    Ahhh, my friends. Thanks for the support, as always!
    Okay, meeting guys. I said I was going to post one day about my internet dating attempt (which is how my best buddy met RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK, did I tell you about Rick? RICK). Here goes, in bulleted form:

    - Date #1: Said he was 5'10". Was actually 5'6". Had 5 gold teeth, one of which had diamond dice inlay. NOT.

    - Date #2: 44 years old. Said he was an extremely successful stock broker. But, since he agreed to pay for his now deceased girlfriends medical bills when she had cancer and had no insurance he has no money and works at Sears in the electronics dept but feels he has a lot of responsibility because his sister died of cancer also and he was trying to raise her kids but the father came back into the picture and they had this big argument and the rest of the family is mad at him because they didn't get along and he has his views and they have their views and his father was an extremely possessive man who was a minister who pilfered lots of money from the church and slept with many women and molested his sisters and he doesn't have any contact with him anymore because his mother didn't realize what was going on and he had to.......:zzzzz :zzzzz NOT.

    - Date #3: 41 year old. Worked for Sprint as a telephone repair guy. But he was also in the military and is a member of a unique squadron called "Night Flight" and he can be called to duty at any time and cannot disclose when he goes or where he goes for any extended amount of time and sometimes he has to go out to the Test Site in Nevada to repair phone lines and he cannot call anyone and even though he has a cell phone he cannot call out because it was disconnected when he forgot to pay his bill but that was before his truck was repossessed and he needs some time to get all that together - oh could I buy him a set of clippers to cut his hair? And he didn't call for a week because he was in training in Texas where he was in a horrible accident with 3 of his cousins who all died but thank goodness he survived but was found bleeding out of his ears and was semi-comatose in a secret military hospital where they can't release any information about him because he is in the "Night Flight" squadron. NOT.

    - Date #4: 37 year old, from San Diego. Can I pick him up, he doesn't have a car. Oh, and if I give you $80 in cash could you write a check and order some body building supplies online and when you get the order could you drop it off at my apartment? NOT.

    - Date #5: 39 year old, from NY. Morehouse graduate. Loan officer at bank (supposedly). First date stuck his tongue in my ear. I said, "not that kind of party, bro." Never heard from him again.

    I would go on, but it just gets even worse.
  7. by   LasVegasRN
    Originally posted by cheerfuldoer
    ...What's a woman to do when she reaches her mid-thirties, and still finds herself alone? Does she "settle"? No.....she keeps on living the life she is comfortable living, and any man who comes along and can relate to her in that life she is living MAY be the right one for the a husband to you, and as a stepfather for Emma. :kiss :kiss :kiss
    You are so very right! Thank you! I haven't lost faith (maybe). I think it's more disappointment that it's so HARD to meet "decent" people out there.
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  9. by   nightingale
    gold inlay dice tooth? OMG :roll :roll

    I am gonna wet me pants (who said that)...

    Honey.. you just stick to what you are doing...

    So did ya ever hear the story about how I met my guy (SO)? Via the Internet... tehehehe.. it is our joke to say(te hehe) it could happen. The truth be known I was NOT looking for a "boyfriend" but wanting to talk with someone in HealthCare while I studied for the NCLEX 4 years ago. They say it happens when you least expect it and it sure did for me.

    I hear ya Renee.... I watch him every now and again to make sure he is in check and he always is... but he suffers a bit because I suffered and was treated badly by other men.. ya know?

    ((((((LVG RN)))))))

  10. by   LasVegasRN
    LasVegasRN's Spectacular Online Dating experiences.. (cont'd as requested)

    Date #6: 30 year old. Has been out west for 6 weeks. Showed up an hour late. Could only be reached by cell phone and via work email. "I live with an old college buddy". "I'm a homebody, I don't go anywhere". Could never be reached except at work. NOT.

    Date #7: 27 year old. Drove brand new Lincoln Navigator, fully loaded. Worked as something he could never really quite put into words. Pager always going off. 3 gold teeth, 2 platinum teeth one with some type of blue jewelled lightning bolt inlay. NOT.

    Date #8: 37 year old. Worked part-time for city in Sanitation dept. When asked when he worked, said, "I don't know, during the day sometimes" (??). First question he asked during initial conversation: "What type of lingerie do you wear?" FAILED INITIAL SCREENING. NOT.

    Date #9: 40 year old. College graduate. Omega Psi Phi fraternity. Asked to come over to my house for the first date. I said, how about meeting at a coffee shop? Reply: Because you can't get comfortable, just answer the door in a robe, we'll listen to some great music and have some great sex because if I have to spend money on you I expect some booty in return. My reply: "HAHAHAH, you're a comedian! Whewww! You had me going there for a while."
    His reply: ** CLICK !! ** (dial tone followed).

    Okay, that's enough.
  11. by   ptnurse
    Wow!! Sounds like you should start counting your blessings. Maybe being single is not all that bad when you compare it to THOSE guys. Yuck.
  12. by   live4today
    :chuckle :chuckle :roll :roll :chuckle :chuckle

    I'm breathless from laughing so dang hard right now.....see ya next post.....
  13. by   NRSKarenRN
    NEED TO GET OUT OF VEGAS....try Henderson City, lol. Philly still has some decent guys per my nephews.
  14. by   oramar
    I read your post all the time and consider you a talented and productive person. Reach back and pat yourself on the back. If I was there I would do it.