Blind Date... already?

  1. Yes, it's not yet been a week since i became single.

    However, when i was talking to someone at work, she said "i'm not trying to overstep here, nor am i saying you're ready for this, but i know someone. He's a nice guy, who went through the same thing over a year ago, only his now ex-wife left for the South with his best friend. I'm not saying you two should go on a date, but i do think that you have some things in common, and maybe you two should talk. Maybe you could help each other, make a new friend, etc."

    I got what she was saying. And i certainly didn't feel she was pushing, either.

    I know what i'm ready for and what i'm not ready for. Definately not replacing the person i lost, but i'm definately not going to curl up in a corner and die over him either.

    But i'm also seeing this "date" for what it really is, two people getting out of the house for a nice well-deserved night out, and someone to talk to. I don't have a problem with that. It's not a push for anything else. And whatever happens happens. But i certainly have no expectations. Yes, i'll behave myself.

    So far, i'm looking forward to it. It's a step towards moving on that feels like the right thing to do.
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  2. 31 Comments

  3. by   Jessy_RN
    Marie, this sounds awesome. Like your mentality. You have nothing to lose, and possibly a wonderful friend (or more later on ) to gain.

    Best wishes to you from the bottom of my heart.
  4. by   arciedee
    Marie, you sound like you have a great head on your shoulders. You DO deserve a night out and if nothing else you can commiserate with someone. Let us know how it goes
  5. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    It's supposed to happen Friday, depending on how late i get home from work.

    I've talked to him on the phone twice.

    He said "Hey we'll set a tenetive time for Friday, and we'll talk that afternoon, and if you get off work and are too tired, then we'll go out Saturday. No big deal."

    Cool.
  6. by   psychonurse
    You go girl, have a great time and just let it go....just go out to dinner and something else that you want to do together and see how things go, you may enjoy it LOLOL Glad to hear you are getting back out there....let us know how it goes okay???????
  7. by   jnette
    Quote from Marie_LPN
    I know what i'm ready for and what i'm not ready for. It's a step towards moving on that feels like the right thing to do.
    I like the way you think.

    You know what you're ready for and what not.

    It feels like the right thing to do.


    Then by all means, go.

    You certainly have nothing to lose other than another lonely and depressing night at home brooding.

    Wish you a pleasant evening with pleasant conversation. :kiss
  8. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    You certainly have nothing to lose other than another lonely and depressing night at home brooding.
    That's the way i'm looking at it, although it seems a tad weird to do this in less than a week.
  9. by   jnette
    Quote from Marie_LPN
    That's the way i'm looking at it, although it seems a tad weird to do this in less than a week.
    Not really... it's not like you have a new romance planned out.

    Why would this be any different than meeting with a good female friend for a meal out and some good converstation? You're getting together with this person as an INDIVIDUAL, not as "loverboy".

    Enjoy yourself, Marie. Do NOT feel "wierd" or "guilty". You've got to have a life.
  10. by   GPatty
    Yea Marie!
    Go on...enjoy yourself....you know what you can and can't handle right now...

    Have a good time! You deserve it!
  11. by   elthia
    Enjoy yourself.
  12. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Well, he better be normal, i'm not in the mood for psychotic lol.
  13. by   nurse4theplanet
    Congrats! I don't know all the details about your previous relationship but I can say that life is too short to cry over spilled milk. You certainly have a great head on your shoulders and realistic expectations. As long as you feel comfortable with it, then go for it honey! Good luck and have fun!
  14. by   jnette
    Quote from Marie_LPN
    Well, he better be normal, i'm not in the mood for psychotic lol.
    :uhoh21:

    You're too funny. (((HUGS))) Marie.

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