birth control

  1. Hey everybody I'd just like your imput on a situation I'm in. My boyfriend and I have been in a committed relationship for two years now. I've been on birth control for a little over two years....the initial reason I went on it was to regulate my period, but then I just stayed on it for the whole birth control reason. Well lately my financial status hasnt been doing too well....gotta pay for my car inspection and other things....so I asked him to consider paying for half of my birth control($10/month or $20 everyother month). Just that little bit would help me out a lot and I've been doing a lot of thinking and I dont think its fair for me to have to pay for something we're both supposed to be responsible for. He then said he doesnt think it is his place to pay for my birth control...not even to pay for half. Now however I told him thats fine, I'm gonna go off of it and then he can be in charge of buying condoms all the time but then he said that wasnt fair! I couldnt believe how hypocritical he was being......we were on the phone for over an hour arguing about this. So I guess my question is do you think its fair I ask(expect) my boyfriend to pay for half??? Any input would be greatly appreciated.

    ~Kerry~
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  2. 81 Comments

  3. by   sunnygirl272
    i think it is fair.
    but good luck convincing him of it...point out that half of birth control cost is cheaper than child support....
  4. by   kcsunshyn8
    Oh trust me sunnygirl I did about 500 times.....I just dont understand why he's being so thick headed...its not like he's poor and doesnt waste $20 on alcohol on the weekends.....
  5. by   sunnygirl272
    perhaps this is an indication of how committed he is?
  6. by   Stargazer
    When he wants sex, start telling him you can't afford it this month.
  7. by   aimeee
    You might remind him that birth control pills are quite a bargain compared to child support...
  8. by   kcsunshyn8
    Any input from the guys?? I told him how my sister thinks its ridiculous he wont help pitch in but then he came back with "i dont know any guys who help their girlfriends pay for their birth control".....then again most of his friends dont have a girlfriend!!
  9. by   sunnygirl272
    Kerry, I PMed a coupla the menfolk and asked them to come post....
  10. by   kcsunshyn8
    Thank you! I meant to put that in my last reply....any guys input would be great!
  11. by   tiger
    kick him to the curb. you deserve better.
  12. by   Stargazer
    Originally posted by tiger
    kick him to the curb. you deserve better.
    Ditto that.
  13. by   TheBrainMusher
    IF I asked my bf I think he'd say yes, although I think he's in the minority with understanding men. If you are in a strong relationship, you have to explain to him that you are taking the resposibility for the sexual part of the relationship. Its not fair for him with the condoms as it is for you with the BC. I would think he would be more sensitive to you if he did really care about you and your wellbeing ... I'm guessing that he might be scared of the "nature" of the commitment? Long-term ... guy paying for BC, next you'll be asking for car pmt. LMAO! seriously ... its BC, tell him to buy the condoms or pay for sex ...

    Sidenote, One option for you otherwise... I mail away for mine ...$40 for 3 months worth .... its a steal
  14. by   Maerzie
    I agree with Tiger! Besides, the percentage of times condoms fail isn't worth the chance of having a baby with this loser! Guys like him are a dime a dozen. Find somebody who cares about YOU!!

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