Benefits of being over 40....

  1. Perhaps I am posting this as an antidote to the Plastic Surgery thread...

    But I am over 40 and I like it (though I agree with the person that said they'd like a flatter abd and thinner thighs...)

    Anyhow, 40 really does have some compensations and here they are for me....

    I think I am getting more patience. And that is not to say that I am never impatient, but I certainly have less impatience and I have more willingness to sit with things and realize that right now I cannot change them.

    I have more solid opinions and, yet, am less inclined to be opinionated. That is, I'm more sure than ever on where I stand on many issues and more tolerant of people who disagree with me. (My family would tell you I can still be pretty intolerant at times--ie of the messy room, etc. People who read my posts may get a big laugh out of this one).

    I am more likely to trust my own judgement than ever and to realize the need to forgive myself for errors in judgement.

    I think I have learned some things about gratitude that I didn't know at 25 or 30 or 35.

    I wouldn't go back. I always say that if I go to HE**, it would be a daily replay of being a 7th or 8th grader

    40+, with it's spots, sags, 42 "long" boobs, etc, has its' compensations.
  2. 17 Comments

  3. by   Zee_RN
    I'm with ya, MollyJ. Of course, I'm the one who wants those thinner thighs and the flat belly of my youth (and I'd have the age spots off my legs, too, please). But other than that, I have no problems being 40-ish. (OK, OK, 42 to be exact).

    I don't embarass and obsess over appearance as when I was younger. There were days (when I worked in an office) when I would want to call off work rather than go in with "bad hair" or a blemish. I try to always make a neat and presentable appearance but, hey, if I discover I've got my shirt on backwards (well, it happens), I'm not devastated. Heck, I could flip it around at the nursing station and not care.

    I'm more patient with some things and less patient with others. I don't feel the need to compete with everyone around me (as much, still pretty competitive by nature). Am very glad not to have to deal with dating! Got myself a good one and happy at home.

    As far as your definition of he**--right on! Would not be a teenager again for all the proverbial tea in China!
  4. by   BugRN
    Love this post!! I'm 47 last birthady and don't feel it all. It's strange that our mothers were so old at this age! I have a young hubby (40), and although I sag now in places I never did before, I feel better and healthier than I ever did. I'm happy, been there, done that, and am ok where I am in life. My daughter just turned 25 and is having a harder time of growing older than me. I am facing menopause and not looking forward to that! maybe another post topic???? Talk later, Bye!
  5. by   moonchild20002000
    I feel a lot more laid back the older I get. Things just don't seem to bother me as much as they did in my earlier years. I think I enjoy life a lot more.At 50,I feel like I have advanced as far as I'm going to in my job,the kids are nearly grown,it's time for me to have fun!! Also,when you reach my age,I can hug younger men and no one thinks I'm coming on to them!!!LOL
  6. by   Ted
    This is a good post. I've enjoyed reading the responses.

    I'm 41 years old and glad for all of the wonderful experiences in my life.

    The plus side: I think I'm more patient, more accepting of life's craziness, a little more self-confident, have more toys than I've ever dreamed of owning (electronic recording gear), an appreciative of a blessed 15 year marriage.

    The negative side: I'm over-weight, the thought of exercise scares me like crazy (yet I know that it feels so good to run 3 miles at a time . . . which I haven't done in years!), I'm a little bit more aware of how life short can be which sometimes scares me, an equally aware that there are still more toys that would be cool to own.

    All in all . . . I'm grateful to be 41.

    Ted Fiebke
  7. by   RNforLongTime
    Well, I am 11 years away from turning 40. My 29th birthday is the 22nd of this month and I have decided that there will be NO MORE BIRTHDAYS after that. Well, there will but I am not gonna admit to it!

  8. by   CEN35
  9. by   Rn2BinMaine
    Thank you ! Thank you! I will turn 40 in February and am really not looking forward to it. But after reading your posts, I feel a little differently about it. Your posts have made me feel much better. Thanx.

  10. by   CEN35
    originally posted by rn2binmaine
    thank you ! thank you! i will turn 40 in february and am really not looking forward to it. but after reading your posts, i feel a little differently about it. your posts have made me feel much better. thanx.

    not me 1 1/2 years away.......and not wanting it at all!
  11. by   st4304
    I turned 41 on Tuesday. I thought about getting something pierced or tattooed for my birthday, but I ended up buying a new table for my foyer. It's solid cherry, and the stain is a pretty. . .Oh My God. I'm getting excited about furniture. I really am in my 40's, aren't I! Mmmm.

    Seriously, I love being in my 40's. I still excite my husband (if you know what I mean) after 19 years, and even if everything isn't as high and tight as it was 20 years ago, that's okay, too. I even like the "laugh lines" on my face. (The gray hair I can do without, in fact I do every 5 weeks!)

    I have a daughter that just finished her junior high years, and I agree with the above posters, to return to that age would be pure h*ll for me also.

    Hey, Cen35 -- there's nothing you can do about the years approaching, so just sit back and enjoy the ride! Age is just a state of mind anyway, right?

    Your pal,


  12. by   mdslabod
    Drug lady, I liked your post.

    I am over 40, closer to 50. I work very hard to keep my "girlish" figure but it is an uphill battle.

    I like being the "seasoned" nurse on the unit. The mother figure. I get less flack from the Docs than the younger nurses.

    The young nurses hate my replys to their complaints, though. It is just that I don't get upset about things anymore. I deal with it.

  13. by   ComicRN
    I'm 46. Can't do a thing about it, so might as well enjoy it!

    My 30's were yucky. My husband left me when I was 32. I spent the next 8 years being a single mom. Right after I turned 40 I discovered the internet (my son and his friend introduced me to AOL!!). Several months later, while surfing the chat rooms, I found out about a party being held in my area of on-line "chatters" who wanted to get together and meet. Even though I had not been a regular in that chat room, I decided to go. I went, talked to a few people, stayed for a couple of hours and went home. There was another party 2 weeks later. I went, spent more time talking to more people, was asked out to dinner by a very nice guy....and the rest is history! We've been married for almost 4 years!

    The 40's have been berry berry good to me!!

    (P.S.....he's 11 years younger than me!!!)
  14. by   leesonlpn
    I'm 43 Most doctors are younger than I. The average age of a nurse is 40ish. That'll be one big retirement party, if I remember to go.I love being able to act ridiculous and not have any one tell me to quit acting so immature. I can talk just about anything at all without getting embarrassed - topics of penises, stress incontinence, flatulence of different pitches (I carry a hand held woopee cushion in my pocket sometimes-pts love it.) And the best thing about being 4o and up, is sex is wonderful. I have a wonderful man, who I became reunited with after 25 years. He was my "first". It is 100% better now. I am more/less tolerant with different things. Can't figure that one out. I embarrass my children when I point out change errors from a cashier, complain to the manager about a meal, return items that are substandard, and will compliment good, point out inferior service.I even returned hidden chicken fat that I thought was a little excessive in the package. I had it weighed and it was nearly 2 dollars in fat. The kids always say "I hate it when you do that" I just want what is fair, and will seek out the same.Yep, I am a contented old dog, but I am having fun!