Baby Shower ettiquette

  1. My good friend and co-worker is expecting her 2nd baby. Her first baby was a boy and they had a huge shower for her at work. She is now having a girl, and what do you all think about another shower? I say no, some say yes. What is the right thing to do?
  2. 10 Comments

  3. by   Averykat
    I'm not sure what the proper ettiquette is, but maybe you could all make a donation towards a gift or a gift certificate instead of doing a shower. She most likely has a lot of the baby stuff already and could use a gift cert. to fill in for whatever she needs.

  4. by   Katnip
    Technically, according to all the books, you aren't supposed to do showers for babies after the first. But, what the heck, if people want a reason to party, then party.
  5. by   boggle
    Before my second baby was born, my friends took a slightly different approach to a baby shower. They threw a "freezer meal" shower for me. Each prepared or bought a dinner to put in my freezer for after the baby was born. They knew there would be days whern I wouldn't have time or energy to do anything but turn on the oven. Some even taped the reciepe onto the dish for me to keep.

    That shower was about the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me.
  6. by   dianah
    I told everyone at work I didn't WANT a second shower, that (same reasoning as above) I already had all the baby things, clothes, etc. My second was a boy too, so the clothes were even the "right" colors <g>. But, they chipped in and got me a double stroller, which turned out to be a great gift, as I used it a lot!
    Getting little-girl things for people is fun too. Let's face it, boy clothes are not as pretty!! She might appreciate a little start on outfits, some diapers that will fit (the new baby, not her), or, as has been mentioned, a gift certificate. Maybe some company has come out with a "new and improved" version of something she would really like, but didn't have for the first baby. And it's nice to get the older child something too, so he doesn't feel left-out.
    The "freezer meal" shower sounds like a great idea too! Very thoughtful. (she WILL be tired. I always maintain, after having the second child your life is NOT twice as busy; it's TEN TIMES as busy as it was!!!) Congrats to her and you'll decide what's right.
  7. by   Ortho_RN
    Some people get a little weird acting when someone has a second shower. But having a girl is different from a boy, she probably has most of the big stuff.

    What they did for a girl at our work was had a "diaper" shower. The only gift requested was diapers in varying sizes. That went great. They didn't make a big deal out of it... Had a girly cake, punch... and that was it.
  8. by   rpbear
    I also think the diaper shower is a great idea. My sis-in-law had one when she was pregnant with her twins (she already had one girl) She said she didn't have to buy diapers for 6 months!!! Now that is something every parent could use!
  9. by   nurseygrrl
    I have never seen anything wrong with multiple baby showers. I feel a baby shower is a celebration for the new baby (why should the new baby have to wear and/or use all hand-me-downs?) and also a well wishing for the expectant mom.
  10. by   tylerlvn
    I think that having a shower for the second baby is fine. You should not feel obilgated though. I would just give a small token gift or go in with someone else for a gift.
  11. by   SnowymtnRN
    I wouldn't feel obligated to throw one etiquette wise, BUT every baby is cause for a celebration. I always hated that the "oldest" would get showered with gifts, etc...but there's not much in the way of celebration for the babies after that. So i say, throw a party! But that's just me, i know everyone feels differently.
  12. by   Shed13911
    I think that it should also be taken into consideration on how far apart the babies were. My children were almost 10 years apart so that I did not have anything left for the second child. My unit gave me a shower as if it were my first baby. That was a great help as we needed everything. All new mothers- to-be enjoy the party and the attention paid to the newest member of the family. I say "Lets party!!" :hatparty: :chuckle