shannon , you sure you dont work where I work?
I think I've seen you in the halls.........
werent you the one spreading the rumour that I'm the sexiest nurse around? hehe just kidding my friend, keep your chin up and heart pumping.
I am where you are right now and having been on vacation for the last 2 weeks I have put many things into perspective.
I am a lot like you , a chronic "try to please everyone" personality type, you have got to get out of that mode, seriously if you do not want to be taken advantage of left right and center and then criticized when you dont bend over backwards to please the masses then start making yourself a priority and not them.
this is easier said then done, I'm only in the baby steps of trying do do this, trying to do the best possible job I can while others seem to want to pass off mediocre nursing care.
about the whole no one to help turn patients , I keep on asking til someone relents and helps me, I dont care who I sound annoying or bothersome to, the job needs to be done and in the case I cant do it myself.
I just had an incident where someone I work with pulled me aside and said that one of our co workers told her that I called her a lazy B*tch and that I hated working with her.I took the time to simply say that a. I didnt and would never say that , especially not at work , especially not to a co worker and especially not at the nursing station which was where I supposedly said it, b.I'm a little to smart to badmouth people in general and specifically here on the unit because I've seen people have battle royales on the floor before and c.I'm not in highschool, havent been in highschool in years and dont particularly want to be back in higschool so unless you are providing me with the name of the tattle tale so that I can clarify this infront of you then I am uninterested and you will just have to believe what you want to since you've left me no way to clear things up.
that settled that very quickly and nothing else was said.
Sure we like to think we get along with our co workers, I always thought that I had a great relationship,but you have to keep in mind, if you hear them badmouthing others on a regular basis who do you think they badmouth when the ones they badmouth infront of you are not around?
fact is that nursing can be very catty and full of manipulative people who always want to feel that they have it worse of all - like they have the hardest patient assignment and they have the most responsibility yaddy yaddy.
nursing can also foster great working relationships , teamwork and friendships outside the working environment . Nursing like everything else in life is a gamble, you get some good you get some bad but hopefullly when the cards are on the table the good outnumber the bad.
plus you have all of us here rooting for you ,caring about you and just generally sending good thoughts your way.
so now as for what to do , just keep doing what youre doing, keep on providing the best care you can for your patients, keep management up to date on the UNSAFE work environment ,because it is unsafe to be understaffed- at work we fill out an unusual occurance form when short staffed (the irony of the title is not lost on me since we are almost always short staffed therefore not being an unusual occurance at all , but still) this gets filed and sent to upper management so at the very least there is annoying paperwork on their desks that they need to at least acknowledge....
try to seek out a co worker and buddy up if you can. Having worked with total lazya$$es on nights I took it upon myself to find one or two good hard working people and in the morning we turn/change all the patients that need to be turned on our 2 teams.
when the shift after yours is shortstaffed and they are absolutely brutally busy of course I suggest offering the help that you can and staying etc , however if you do this on a regular basis it will become expected, so you just have to decide for your own wellbeing what to do there.
most of all leave your job with your head held high and your concscience clear since you know that you havent done any of the things some of your catty miserable co workers suggest you have.
the moral highground feels so good to walk on let me tell you
and you can walk it gracefully too, like the nurse in the case with me , claimed she was such a good christian yet she was gossping and believing untruths and not giving her "fellow man" the benefit of the doubt, lil old me walked out of our meeting the far better person on that one, without having to yack about what a good christian or good soul I am
best of luck
we are here for ya!