Asking military spouses and S/Os: How do you handle their deployment?

  1. (and also family, and military personnel themselves)

    A guy i've recently started seeing is career Army, who will be deployed to Kuwait in July 04 (might wind up being sooner which is why i ask now). He's talked about retiring in 5 years, but hasn't made any definate decisions.

    And we had that "what is this relationship" talk, and (since we live 3 hours apart) he asked "Are you OK with long distance relationships? I am willing to do what it takes." And i replied with the same answer. Next question: "Do you think you can handle me being overseas?" Well there was a 5 second silence, and he said "yeah, that's a difficult question to answer right now". Which i replied "i don't know, this is a whole new thing for me. But i'm willing to try". And he understood what i meant when i said that.

    It would be a whole new thing for me. I think i can handle it, but how would i? I am more than willing to try, since he seems (i say 'seems' because my luck of the dating draw has sucked lately) like a really great guy, an absolute sweetheart.

    Hard to describe what i'm asking here, but mainly how do you handle them being away, knowing where they are, and what goes on, and NOT lose your marbles? How do you keep from going nuts from worrying? Anything said is appreciated, since, like i said, this would be a whole new thing for me.

    (I didn't mean any of this to seem so self-focused, if it came across that way)
    Last edit by Marie_LPN, RN on Apr 13, '04 : Reason: heaven help me to type ONE thing and spell it RIGHT
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  3. by   SmilingBluEyes
    see your PM. I have lots of experience with this.
  4. by   adidas99
    Quote from LPN2Be2004
    (and also family, and military personnel themselves)

    A guy i've recently started seeing is career Army, who will be deployed to Kuwait in July 04 (might wind up being sooner which is why i ask now). He's talked about retiring in 5 years, but hasn't made any definate decisions.

    And we had that "what is this relationship" talk, and (since we live 3 hours apart) he asked "Are you OK with long distance relationships? I am willing to do what it takes." And i replied with the same answer. Next question: "Do you think you can handle me being overseas?" Well there was a 5 second silence, and he said "yeah, that's a difficult question to answer right now". Which i replied "i don't know, this is a whole new thing for me. But i'm willing to try". And he understood what i meant when i said that.

    It would be a whole new thing for me. I think i can handle it, but how would i? I am more than willing to try, since he seems (i say 'seems' because my luck of the dating draw has sucked lately) like a really great guy, an absolute sweetheart.

    Hard to describe what i'm asking here, but mainly how do you handle them being away, knowing where they are, and what goes on, and NOT lose your marbles? How do you keep from going nuts from worrying? Anything said is appreciated, since, like i said, this would be a whole new thing for me.

    (I didn't mean any of this to seem so self-focused, if it came across that way)
    Dated several military men. if u need to talk...feel free to message me. good luck
    Last edit by adidas99 on Jan 30, '07

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