Anyone know a good Millitary School?

  1. My 11 year old is about to drive me to drink (more).
    He argues with me, doesn't do his chores without being told, was suspended for a day for fighting ("I was defending myself you told me")
    Today he argued with the math teacher when she told him to stop talking and got written up.
    This morning he didn't do all his chores and his mom had to feed the horses and break the ice.
    This is driving me crazy. It's always "I forgot" or "I dont know".
    I printed up a brochure from some Millitary school and stuck it on the fridge but didn't say anything.
    Is this a 6th grade malfunction?
    For the past few months this kid has been brainless.
    He's going to be back on restriction and hard labor starting Saturday (again).
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  3. by   RNforLongTime
    How bout The Citadel in SC?
  4. by   NRSKarenRN
    Valley Forge Military Acadamy in Wayne PA has an excellent reputaion---not severly hard line and is in my backyard.

    Have 2 nephews that have put my brother thru the wringer.
    Sounds like he needs your consistent boundry's to bounce against-----he''ll appreciate it when he's 25. Consider too focus disorder ADD if he is extremely forgetful and always seems to be thinking and stairing in space. My youngest has it---not arrgumentative is the opposite so quiet you might forget him. Sounds like he is starting in early puberty too Rusty.

    Tell him if doesn't shape up , your sending him to NRSKaren to escort him to school there, LOL.
  5. by   shygirl
    How about taking a day just you and him and doing some fun things that maybe you don't have time to do anymore?

    You can ask him then when you are not angry.."What is going on"?
    "What would you do if you were me and your kid was acting like you have been"?

    Just some thoughts!
  6. by   adrienurse
    Two words, behavioral contract.

    If that doesn't work, shock the little bugger.
  7. by   ptnurse
    Rusty, I feel your pain. My 11 year old daughter and I just finished a round. I just don't understand. It is truly like she has lost her brain. Just can't remember to do anything. No problems at school, but just tries my patience at home. Told her 3 times in an hour tonight to finish her homework. Three times she "forgot". Finally she got grounded from one of her favorite things to do. She screamed and yelled and cried for 20 minutes. Like it was MY fault. My daughter is in the 6th grade too, I wonder if it is a 6th grade malfunction.
  8. by   Rustyhammer
    Hmmmm....good suggestions.
  9. by   NRSKarenRN
    Originally posted by shygirl
    How about taking a day just you and him and doing some fun things that maybe you don't have time to do anymore?

    You can ask him then when you are not angry.."What is going on"?
    "What would you do if you were me and your kid was acting like you have been"?

    Just some thoughts!
    Should have thought of adding that advice. My oldest opens up like a can of packed sardines when I take him for a 30min spin to the mall/food shoping. Usually include a bootle of favorite beverage: Stewarts root beer or Sobe which I rarely splurge on....even run for milkshake/Mc Donalds meal can uncork him.
  10. by   Rustyhammer
    When he was younger and was misbehaving it was a sure sign that I wasn't spending enough time with him.
    The last year has been rough on him now that we have adopted Dillon. He is no longer the youngest, is sharing his room now and there have been times when we have had to give Dillon (9) some extra attention.
    All in all he has handled it well and despite the roller coaster ride that comes from having a new family member our family dynamics is pretty stable.
    I think I'll take him up to the high country on Saturday morning.
    We can spend some time together.
    I have talked to other parents of 6th graders and this seems to be a common story.
    ps: I'm not really going to send him to Millitary school. But I fantasize about it sometimes.
  11. by   tonicareer
    Like Barney Fife always says " Just nip it, nip it in the bud". He is testing you wait till he is 16 it gets really rough. He sounds really smart and is reaching adolescence early (psychologically at least). Start surfing the net for parent tips. Loved the military school thing on the fridge, next time clip it to the potato chips. LOL Seriously though he does need to respect his teachers. Yeah most 6th graders start this stuff they are starting to think about other things outside the home now. Gee when they give you that cute little baby it looks so easy doesn't it but just wait 12 years and the job gets rough.
    Well, if you subscribe to the BedHead RedHead school of parenting, there should be an orifice we can plug to prevent this.

    (I'm sorry.... this is entirely too funny....)

    Seriously, I think this is probably all very normal for 6th grade. Acting out a little, testing his boundaries and limits. Looking for a little attention. You've gotten some great suggestions. I think you both need a little one-on-one time for him to feel like he is at the center of your attention to feel like he can open up about it more.

    But really I don't know. I'm the parent of an 8 year old, and our biggest struggle is getting all of the pee in the bowl.

    <reaches for another Clorox wipe>

    Good luck Rusty! Tell us younguns how it goes so we know when the time comes!

  13. by   CATHYW
    Russell, whatever you do, do NOT send your little guy to Riverside Military Academy in Gainesville, GA. It is not a good place.

    I'm with the Barney Fife train of thought-just hang tough, and make the little dude accountable. Don't let him try to get anything on you or his Mom. You all are the adults, not the boy-you have the advantage. Press it!
  14. by   maureeno
    maybe he has been 'saving up' some misbehavior until he thought the family could handle it. I know that sounds funny and I don't mean that he'd be doing it purposefully. But it's something like the way some people get sick when vacation finally comes.
    other thoughts include checking out any new or added changes or worries; is 6th grade middle school there? how are all the current world events looking to him [and you] ? scary world all right.
    maybe when you go up to the mountains you could take your last post about this with you and show him, see what he thinks. You sounded sweet.
    brain research is showing all kinds of wild things about teens [on PET scans for 15yr old boys the frontal lobes look 'dark' while the limbic system is rocking ] but he is young for these brain changes, but who knows?
    All I know for certain is raising children is hard work. For my kids' teen years, by the time I'd figure anything out it seemed they'd moved on ahead of me again.
    Good luck, hope the high country is beautiful Saturday.