Anyone here miss the "good old days"?

  1. Whenever that was for you? I do, especially my high school days.

    By the time I was a high school upperclassman ('88-'90), I was on honor role, in the varsity choir, working at the library, and found some fellow nerds to hang out with.

    Politics wasn't as mean back then, the Cold War was winding down, and no one had even heard of bin Laden. What's more, people didn't seem as isolated by technology (do you know how much time these kids spend on video games and text-messaging?).

    Of course nostalgia can be distorting(but potentially lucrative, just ask Garrison Keillor ) and in various ways things today are better.

    But don't you get the feeling that we've lost some things too?
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  3. by   NurseyBaby'05
    Not me! I hated high school. I had a crazy mother, my father had passed away between 7th and 8th grade, almost no friends and no social life. The other kids were nasty. It was before Columbine, but man . . . I can see how bullying could easily get out of hand and turn out bad.

    As for technology, my typing class was on IBM Selectric typewriters with the erasers with the brush. Give me a computer anyday. As for texting, cell phones and the like. I use it for what it is . . . a tool. I call when I'm on the road or elsewhere with our son. I sure don't think small children need their own cell phones. I don't think people wind up isolated by technology, but just the opposite. With all the technology, the lines of personal time and space have almost disappeared. What if I don't feel like talking to someone. With all the technology, people (and employers) are getting more put out that you're not accessible 24/7.

    I sure miss having less responsibility, but that's about it. I actually really like being thirty. I'm comfortable in my own skin. I feel like I don't have anything to prove to people anymore. I'm mostly where I want to be in life. Are there things I want to achieve or wish that I have achieved already? You bet, but I'm sure as heck not beating myself up over them.
    Last edit by NurseyBaby'05 on Sep 22, '07
  4. by   jnette
    Yes... I miss them !

    But I also enjoy much of the new as well.

    I don't use a cell phone except when I turn it on... which would be in emergencies or if I absolutely MUST make a call from the road somewhere. Noone has my cell #. It's for MY personal use only.. to call OUT if I need to.

    Love computers, though. Can't see how I've lived without one all these years prior. So many good uses for it.. Allnurses being ONE of them !!!

    As for the more "mellow days"... ahhh, yes. Miss the days of grabbing a friend or two and spending a Saturday riding your bicycle through country paths, snitching apples off the trees on the way. Never a thought about "bad people" snatching your life away from you. Heck.. I used to walk all hours of the day or night. Ppl have changed in the past 30-40 years, let me assure you. So much now you wouldn't dream of doing, that were perfectly safe back then.

    No way would I want to raise a child nowadays. You could never, ever let them out of your sight for fear of somebody, somewhere trying to nab 'em ! :angryfire
  5. by   leslie :-D
    all days and memories are good for me.
    even the bad ones.

    i don't miss what i didn't know.
    being a loner all my life, i never joined the cliques in h.s.
    but i did befriend the kids who everyone else picked on.
    and i held my head back high then, as i do today.
    no regrets.
    some phenomenal memories.

    but...
    i've been having a recurrent dream these past 2 weeks.
    a guy i used to date in h.s., is getting in my head 30 yrs later.
    funny you should start this thread.

    david, go away...:chuckle

    leslie
  6. by   VivaLasViejas
    Yes, I miss the more innocent times of my youth, but for my money, what I'm living now ARE the "good old days": No more worries about what other people think of my looks, my hair, my clothes; no more periods; no more new-relationship jitters; no more nights of broken sleep and two AM feedings; no more "MO-OM, he's looking at me!" Instead, I have been blessed with work that fulfills me.........a home I love........hobbies that enable me to grow and develop my creative side........grown children I'd be proud of even if they weren't mine.........a spouse of 27 years who still adores me.........and grandchildren who have brought me the greatest joys I've ever known. What could be better?
  7. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from NurseyBaby'05
    Not me! I hated high school. I had a crazy mother, my father had passed away between 7th and 8th grade, almost no friends and no social life. The other kids were nasty. It was before Columbine, but man . . . I can see how bullying could easily get out of hand and turn out bad.
    Did you live my life? I hated high school too. My mother was crazy, my dad divorced us and moved away, my step-dad died of a brain aneuyrsm, my 10 year old sister's friend's older sister introduced them to pot, my mom met a crazy man . . . yikes, I'm not going back there.

    What would be MY good old days? I dunno . . . . .


    steph
  8. by   bethin
    I know I'm still young, but I wouldn't go back to the good old days for all the gold in Ft Knox. First, they weren't good for me. On the surface I was happy, popular, and well adjusted but underneath I had a bad secret I had to keep. No way could I ever go back to that. I do have fond memories of the parties I went to and the drinking contests I won but that's about it. I always hung around the guys more than the girls. There's a reason for that, girls are too catty. Some of my best friends are guys. You can trust them.

    I run when I see someone I went to school with. Probably the only running I do anymore.
  9. by   Joe NightingMale
    Interesting responses---looks the majority of you would agree with my grandmother, "The 'good old days' weren't so good." And I guess I'm more technophobic than the rest of you...as much as I like this place I have mixed feelings about these new technologies.

    Quote from NurseyBaby'05
    I sure miss having less responsibility, but that's about it. I actually really like being thirty. I'm comfortable in my own skin. I feel like I don't have anything to prove to people anymore. I'm mostly where I want to be in life. Are there things I want to achieve or wish that I have achieved already? You bet, but I'm sure as heck not beating myself up over them.
    I'm pretty much in agreement with you there.

    I was inspired to start this thread when I was watching my dad's house while he was away. It's the same one I grew up in and brought back many memories...
  10. by   NurseyBaby'05
    I'll bet it did. I was surprised that I cried like a baby (in private with dh, of course) when my mom sold the house we were raised in. I wanted my kids to be able to go where I grew up. I wanted people who knew me on a day to day basis to have a chance to know my children and vice-versa.
  11. by   UM Review RN
    Nope, I don't miss it a bit!

    The harsh realities are softened with time. Some things were better, but to me, most of the things were worse.

    But think about it. How great was it?

    1. No birth control.
    2. Women could only work in certain professions, and even then they had to put up with sexual harassment, date-rape, stalkers, and unfair treatment on the job.
    3. I actually had a high school Geometry teacher tell my class that he didn't tutor girls because they wouldn't need it, since they were only going to go to college to get married.
    4. No air conditioning in the nursing homes I worked in.
    5. I'll leave out the archaic medical tests, treatments, and procedures that patients were (and were not, because no surgeon would dare operate on anyone over 65) subjected to.
    6. Not to mention the insane rules and regulations that nurses and nursing students were subject to.
    7. Public transportation sucked. Oh wait, nothing's changed there.
  12. by   Kim O'Therapy
    Great topic. I graduated high school in 1984.

    Ten things I miss and don't miss about "the good old days"

    1 You played outside until the street light came on. Even then, your parents had to make you come in because you were having so much fun with your friends.
    Everyone seems to busy talking on their cell phones, playing video games, and running their kids to 100 different activities; therefore, families living on the same block hardly get to know each other any more.

    2. Saturday Night Live had John Belushi, Dan Akroyd, and Chevy Chase. Mr. Bill, Land Sharks and Gilda Radner were hysterical. It was actually funny. Don't care for the new seasons anymore.

    3. I was a wallflower in high school and had no self-esteem or confidence. I don't care very much what people think anymore and my confidence has risen to a level of self-preservation (I don't say "yes" so people will like me.)

    4. There was actually good customer service and courtesy. Nuff said.

    5. If one of us kids became ill after hours, my mom would call the doctor's answering service and he would meet us in his office no matter what time it was. If my brother was having an asthma attack, the doctor would meet my parents at the emergency room. Then, he would actually spend time with you and give you a full assessment. Now, all of the doctors I come across maybe get within 5 feet of you and spend 4.5 minutes with you before leaving the room. I won't even get started on the emergency room stuff.

    6. As a teenager, I was taught to earn and save my own money. I was taught to budget and appreciate a dollar. I was taught how to dress, act, and speak during a job interview. Respect your manager and be polite to the customers. Kids today have a major sense of entitlement.

    7. I worked at grocery store as a cashier during high school. When I first was hired...there were NO scanners, you had to manually enter everything. Nuff said

    8. If your bra straps or your underwear showed, you were considered "unkempt", and your reputation was questionable. Girls didn't wear make up, get artificial nails, or dye jobs until you were older. Now, I can't tell a 13 year old from a 20 year old anymore.

    9. We didn't have "lock down drills", just fire and tornado drills. Both of these are post-Columbine and 9/11. My kids actually have drills on what to do if someone starts shooting at school.

    10. People could smoke anywhere they wanted. There "smoking sections" on airplanes, ashtrays lined the grocery store aisles, and it was considered mature and glamorous. Thank God that has changed.
  13. by   clemmm78
    Nope, people who remember the good old days tend to forget the not-so-good parts like abuse that went "unseen," medical techniques that still needed much refining, unnecessary deaths because of lack of medical care, children dying in car accidents because of no car seats, the overt discrimination, washing clothes in antiquated machines, and so on.

    Yes, there are things I miss. I do miss that many parents today coddle their kids too much and don't allow them to be kids. It bothers the heck out of me the way I see some parents living through their kids, not letting them figure things out on their own sometimes.

    I miss the less stressed pace of society, but on the whole, give me today with all the perks we've discovered and earned along the way.
  14. by   agent66
    I will have to agree with Kim o therapy's reply. I do have a lot of fond memories also, but with them came a lot of heartaches too so I think I will just stay where I am for now and try to be content with that. The biggest thing I miss is more for my children and that is not to have ever met my mother who died when I was fifteen, not that she was particularily a great mother, but probably would have been a great grandmother to them. And just the fact that todays society is so crazy we can't let our kids play unsupervised without worrying about some freak in a car driving by and picking them up. I have actually had dreams about this, so that would also be a thing I miss from the good old days, is for them is to play outside without having me hovering over them all the time. Highschool and college were a lot of fun for me also, but to go back to it again, hmmm, I don't think so. I have a lot of fun now too, with kids, with friends and coworkers so life is good.


    an older and perhaps/perhaps not wiser agent 66

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