Anybody go through this before?

  1. OK well so far I have been told that my posts/threads have all been good. This could be the clincher that sucks though. here's the situation:

    I came to my ER almost 5 years ago. We all got along very well, and functioned as a team. It felt like more of a family. We were together for two years. the one person left, and then another, and then another. the shift(s) changed (except for day shift). Now two and a half years later, nights has turned over twice, evenings one and a half times, and a few spots on days. One of my best friends/co-workers left in November, which killed me. They were always saying, "Ricky it's just you an I now! We'll be here forever, and if we leave we'll go together!" Needless to say he was the second last to leave and it just busts me up inside
    Well, trying to find the bright side of things, I realized that my other best friend at work was still there as prn. The she left also.
    it seems as if I am pretty much the only one left, and now tonight one of the secretaries is leaving. She is awsome and an assett to the dept. The last of the original secretaries also.
    I don't feel the same family atmosphere, the same cohesiveness there once was there. I feel left behind or something? Not totally sure? It bums me out big time when I think about it

    So I guess the question I would pose is? has anybody else ever felt like this before? Does anybody think this is normal? Am I just being a weenie? it's nice to be looked up too, and be the one with all the answers and able to help people. It's just not the same anymore. Don't get me wrong I like my job, and the dept. I guess I just feel down about the changes and losses maybe?

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  3. by   codebluechic
    I have yet to see a night shift that doesn't go through this periodically. When I started in the CVICU I'm in now there was ONE night shift person!The rest were travelers and agency. We built up to 10 FT staffers. After this summer only 2 will be left. They are moving to day shift (me included), becoming travelers, or just burned out from working nights. It's definitely sad to build a team only to have it break up a year or two later.You really form a bond during those crazy nights!
  4. by   codebluechic
    By the way Rick, I grew up right next door in Lorain County.
  5. by   CEN35
    Thanks code blue. Why did ya move? Not enough snow? LOL

  6. by   codebluechic
    All the sun,sand,and palm trees make it hell, but I try to tough it out.
  7. by   kewlnurse
    I can relate to your situation somewhat, but from a different view. After 2 years i am going to another unit, I just made this decision today, and havn't told anybody yet. My manager will be crushed and I'm sure she'll take it personally, and 90% of the staffi work with on regular basis are wonderful, but for my own personal, and possibly selfish reason I feel i have to go to another unit, still in the same hospital, different shift, but i will still see the staff i work iwht now since the floor i'm leaving is short staffed to begin with i'll probably be floating there often. Anywho, people leave for different reason, and you need to respect that and not take it personally.
  8. by   CEN35
    Thanks Dan, but I don't take it personally. I just miss the people I was with, because I knew how close we were, and how well we got along, which makes the job so much better.

  9. by   kewlnurse
    I told everybody today that i am leaving, There kinda pissed at me, yet glad for me at the same time.
  10. by   CEN35
    I can relate Dan!

  11. by   katrina hays

    I feel your pain, its hard to lose your family and sounds like you have. But hang in there, now you have a new family if you decide to stay. Beginnings are always tough but you may find its worth the wait. There is alot of movement and traveling in nursing today but we are all family. Hang tough. Now you have new people to make fun of and old stories to tell to new people.

  12. by   CEN35
    wow! kat you must have scrolled a while to get to this one! yeah, I know what you mean, and actually have had some of the others leave recently also.

    Thanks me
  13. by   JennieBSN
    hmmm....well, since I'm one of those who will be leaving MY cohesive unit soon, I guess I can't really say...

    I always seem to START the mass exodus.

    I dunno what to tell ya, Rick. If it were me, I'd jump, too. But you're talking to a person who could change jobs faster than she changes underwear if it were up to her. I'm one of those can't-stand-routines kind of folks. Why don't you look at going somewhere new? God knows, a fresh start (or 'do-over,' as I like to call them... ) has helped me on more than one occasion and been a major blessing.

    It does suck, get to like the folks you work with. I've found that losing friends in the workplace is much easier by keeping up the long-term outside of work friendships I have already established.

    Hang in there, darlin'.
  14. by   CEN35
    Thanks K........

    I hate to leave the system, and not sure where else to go. I could go to where a few of the others went....back out of management also? Kinda tied between feeling like I need this for at least a year though...........and/or get out now! I am sounding confused I know?