Any homeschooling families on the boards?

  1. I was just wondering if there were any other homeschooling parents out there on the boards. My husband and I have just started our 3rd year of homeschooling our sons. It has been a wonderful experience. It has been really rewarding to watch the boys as the learn new things and grasp new concepts. If you homeschool, how do you work it in with being nurse? If you homeschool, what are your reason(s) for homeschooling? Our sons were adopted by us when they were 3, 5, and 6. They were so far behind in their schoolwork that each day was a real struggle. They couldn't keep up with their grade levels. Then we ran into a real witch of a teacher for our son who was in the 3rd grade and that was the straw that broke the camel's back for us. After this teacher told us to our face that she didn't have time to work with our son (he also has attention defecit problems), we decided that we better take the initiative if we wanted this kid to have any kind of education. I just started working 12 hour shifts, which really frees up days for our homeschooling. Plus, my husband is a farmer so in the winter time he can spend a lot of time with the boys. I was just curious if anyone else is homeschooling.
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  3. by   cargal
    My daughter homeschooled herself, yes , herself , for the last two years of highschool, left for college a year early, and is now in her 2nd yr at JHU, and doing very well. There are as many reasons for homeschooling as there are families. A great resourse is www.pahomeschoolers.com , whether you live in Pa or not. All of our curriculum came from the unhomeschoolerfriendly school district where we live, except for physics , which came from pahomeschoolers, would NOT recommend it. The online course offered at pahomeschoolers in Advanced Placement English was more that excellent! Anyone is welcome to email me with questions!
    Carrie
  4. by   justanurse
    Yes!!!

    We just started our first year this summer. It's a new experience, to say the least. There were several reasons why we chose to homeschool. I work 3 12's/week. My husband is disabled following an accident last year, so he does it on the days I work. I also switched to the float pool in our hospital in a "teacher's position" which only means that they deduct some money from my pay and I get to take 8 extra weeks off a year with a full pay-check (minus the deduction). It's not a bad deal, considering I make the same as I did a year ago (we got a great raise then) & get almost 4 months off a year with pay. We all like it, so far.

    I enjoy it, although my husband and I have frequent discussions about whether the girls are learning enough. They're in 1st and 4th grade and it's good to see them playing and relying on each other so much more than they ever did. I guess so far that is our biggest pay-off.

    Nice to talk with you!!!
  5. by   BrandyBSN
    Reading this thread was interesting, although I am somewhat against the practice of homeschooling children.

    It seems to be the "trendy" thing for parents to do here in this area of the country. Parents do it for several reasons, and some are valid, but most are not.

    Wouldnt you worry about your child not being able to relate to his peers? School is not just an academic environment, it is also where many children learn to cooperate, react to differences, network, and the necessity for structure and deadlines.

    Although I understand the need to keep children home if they are behind, I worry that we are sheltering them from aspects of the real world. A set schedule is harder to keep if it is not inforced consistently.

    How do those of you who homeschool deal with these outcomes? Do you have mandatory set times for your children to work on each subject, or are you flexible? Do parents who are flexible anticipate problematic outcomes when children realize that public school and the demand of the adult workforce are not nearly as flexible? Will they have difficulties adusting?

    Im not trying to step on toes, but I do have genuine concern for students how are not in the mainstream education system. I have worked with young students who have been homeschooled, and many have difficulties with authority, and lack of respect for schedules and structure. Do you foresee these as problems your children will be facing in the future?

    Thanks
    BrandyBSN
  6. by   justanurse
    Brandy,
  7. by   justanurse
    OOps!!!!!!

    No, we haven't studied typing yet. hahahaha

    Brandy,
    No, you aren't stepping on my toes. I didn't think I would ever homeschool before January this year, either. I looked forward to sending my kids to school and having a break every day. Then I began to wonder about how the teachers felt about my children, in addition to the other reasons why I homeschool. My oldest is a very bright, intelligent child who is very outgoing. She was getting in trouble every day because she could not shut up and sit down for the entire day. How cruel to do that to my child. That's what 3rd graders are supposed to do. Don't talk too loud (over a whisper) in the lunch room. Only get 20 minutes of recess. Get, I got 2 20 minute recesses when I was in 6th grade. The 6th graders are now in middle school. Terrible.

    Our children are both smart. Not behind, ahead. The youngest was in kindergarden last year, never got to see her older sister when she was in school, unless they met in the bathroom. They fought most of the time they were home. It is wonderful to see them play together now. Happy with each other and with themselves. This country was founded by people who worked together as a family unit. I do not want to send my children to public school anymore. God gave these children to me, not to their teachers. It is my God given right to raise them as I see fit, not how the government tells me to. I have rules I have to obey as teacher of a private school. My rules are met. I have seen children who were very disturbed in the public school. One of them repeatedly picked on my beautiful 6 year old little girl. Telling her she was stupid & ugly. She does not have to be subjected to that in my school. I do not have to worry about them being sexually abused in my school. I do not have to worry about another student shooting them in my school. Our local news carried a story the other day about a teacher who was convicted of abusing ~15 kids in an elementary school (within 100 miles of my home). Not in my school. I graduated from Heath High school where the little boy shot those girls. I happened to take care of one of them the afternoon after it happened. That won't happen in my school.

    You're not stepping on my toes. I just wish you would be open minded about it. There are many children who are homeschooled who are very smart. Go to vegsource.com and check out their homeschooling community. It's a great place. We do it because we love our children and want to teach them better. It wasn't until I started to read one of our history books that I learned that Christopher Columbus was such a religious man. I was never taught that in school, were you? The 10 commandments are not allowed in the schools. My girls have them prominently displayed in their bedrooms.

    Socialization isn't a real good argument either. Who do I want my children to be more influenced by: the children who behave horribly at school teaching them dirty language and sick jokes or their parents? Gee, I'd rather them be more influenced by me. More parents should wish the same, in my opinion.

    Don't misinterpret me, public schools are a good thing if you want a free baby-sitter for your children. Just thankfully, I don't need it anymore.

    God Bless America where we have the freedom to do what's best for our family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  8. by   debbyed
    I give you all credit for going an extra mile for your children. I would not have had the patience to home school mine but my children have also been out of school for quite a while. Schools at that time were not a dangerous as they appear to be today. If I had choldren today, I would certainally be looking a private well controlled schools with good circullum, I'd be afraid to put my child in a public school in this area in this day and age.

    That said, please make sure that you add areas of socialization to your childs schedule whether it be church activities, scouts, 4-H or what ever. Learning socialization skills away from their parents with their peers (in a controlled and safe environment is very important. You may also want to get together with other homescholling parents in your area to create social activies.

    In working with college students that have been home schooled this seems to be the only area that is sometimes negelected that may cause problems later in life. Especially if the child goes away to college.

    Keep up the good work.
  9. by   Lausana
    I was homeschooled for 1 yr during a move, where I would have switched schools ect. I was in 7th grade and basically worked on my own, with some help (got probably the best grades of any other yr). Did I want to continue-no, for me and at my age being in school up to that point I was ready to go back. But when I went back to school, I went to a private school, so I didn't have to deal with a lot of the public school pressures. I did both public and private-and I know that's a whole other topic, but it is nice being out of the public schools.
    The main thing about schooling, is every child is different and thrives in a different setting. My mother has homeschooled my younger sister, now 11, by my sister's choice. She had been going to private school, but just has a hard to staying with class and does excellent at home with someone there one on one to help her focus. They have set "school hours" and rules and even a recess break, but have a flexible day since she usually only needs 4-5 hrs including her break. As far as social activities, she is involved in church, softball and horseback riding lessons, etc to give her the interaction she needs. My youngest sister is the complete opposite-she is in preschool, and will be starting kindergarten next year and WILL be going to school, she is so outgoing and so smart for her age, she's like an animal in a cage just waiting to get out and start school! I think homeschooling is a wonderful choice, for the right parents and children-but its not for everyone. I will probably not homeschool my son when the time comes, unless I feel it would be helpful-I'll probably go the private school route-with only one I can afford it-yikes!!
  10. by   cargal
    As I stated before, there are as many reasons for children to be homeschooled as there are families. We did not homeschool for religious reasons. My daughter actually took more advanced placement classes than her HS offered!
    We get to skip homeroom with Channel One and its advertising, we skip the teacher with diarrhea of the mouth who told his ninth grade honors class that if his wife got pregnant, it would be a miracle because she had a tubal ligation, that his drug days were over, that Monday was gay and lesbian day and if you wore jeans you were gay, and that AC/DC was his favorite band and listen to this album, kids, and you will love them too! The school district, incidently, loved him. I did not. We get to skip pep assemblies for 11 idolized boys who run up and down a football field, and we get to skip the teacher who put a kid up against a locker- hard. We pass on the twenty minutes my elementary kids spent EVERY morning on the bus outside the school, not allowed to come in because the teachers did not have "contracted student time". This is one hour and forty minutes a week!
    I have two others in the public school system(it is their choice) and once in a while, usually on a beautiful spring day, I tell them to stay home and take a mental health day. We have a hard time living in the constrictions of an institution ALL the time. Still get almost all A's. I teach my children first comes the family , then school. I do emphasize the importance of education, but not to the minute-by minute of following the orders of people who make mistakes just like anyone. My one daughter is not allowed to wear shirts with hoods or long sweaters to school (principals orders). Fooey I say. This is America!
    Brandy, if homeschooling is so detrimental , why is my daughter thriving at Johns Hopkins? You didn't step on my toes, but there are two sides to this coin. They always did participate in sports- all three in a very high level of year round competitive swimming-not High School, and I feel this gave them so much poise and tenacity that no classroom with 35 kids and a tired teacher could.
    If time spent in the classroom on small talk, organization and such, a homeschooler can be finished with his or her work and work on an outside project, a sport, a computer project, a hobby or just play outsideor read. Our school district had gym only once a semester and only for twice a week. No wander our children are getting heavier and heavier. Then there are the untrained cafeteria monitors that continually tell them to be quiet and don't move..... oh , I wish my other two were homeschooled. I also wouldn't have to worry violence or about the rampant drug use that my kids have described as early as fifth grade.
    I assigned books for my highschooler to read that no highschooler had heard of. She has a vast knowlege of the world and a great vocabulary. Oh yes , and more time for reading!
    Sorry... I do go on.
    Carrie
  11. by   deespoohbear
    I am not worried about the socialization aspect either. My boys are active in our church, and in 4H. Plus, they have several cousins the same age that the see often. My in-laws even commented that the boys are better behaved since we started homeschooling 3 years ago. It is a short walk to the principal's office for the boys. My kids are not being influenced by ill behaved, foul mouthed, out of control children. My sons are so close in age, they are a peer group. The oldest child was 13 in October, the middle one will be 12 in January, and the youngest will be 11 in April. My boys know how to fix things around the house and help with the household chores. If one of the boys have a question about the way something works, we show them. The day of the terrorists attacks was especially an education day. We found NYC, DC, and PA on a map. We talked about the WTC and the Pentagon. We discussed the evil behind the attacks. Of course, we didn't discuss the goriest details of the attacks with the boys, but we did provide them with what we believed they needed to know at that time. The local schools around here banned the kids (even high schoolers!) from watching the breaking news coverage. I can see shielding the kids in the early elementary grades from that kind of hideous news, but high schoolers? The schools missed an excellent teaching moment (indeed, a terrible moment) that day. We have working with our boys now to instill a sense of patriotism in them. Some of the schools are banning their kids from displaying forms of patriotism in fear of stepping on someone's toes! For, pete's sake, THIS IS AMERICA. We are suppose to show patriotism for our country! My boys have learned more in homeschooling in 3 years, than the ever learned in the public schools. Their reading is improved, their math skills are improving and their confidence level. They are not being shuffled off to some other class room because they are "different", according to the schools. We can take all the time we need on a subject until our child has the concept down. That way, we know they have learned the concept before adding something else. They don't get discouraged because they know we will work with them and not just "pass" them to the next level before they are ready. Homeschooling is an excellent form of education if done right.
  12. by   RNKitty
    YES YES YES!

    We have two boys, 18mo and 4 yrs old. We have decided to take it year by year, but definitely homeschool for as long as it works for us and our boys. I am absolutely convinced this is the right decision for our family. For many of the reasons mentioned above, and more.
  13. by   NurseDennie
    Brandy -

    I had some of the same concerns about home schooling, and "special" schooling for bright kids in general. My father was one of those intellectually genius and socially/emotionally retarded people. I was horrified with the possibility of that happening to my daughters.

    And I gave that priority. I did put my kids in parochial school, where they were given material that was appropriate to their own level.

    But when my younger daughter tested as a University junior when she was in 7th grade and was given the option of leaving school and skipping stright to uni, I nixed it. No way.

    I didn't sign the form that would have labeled my older child as "handicapped" (in the short time I had her in metro school) and be shuffled into a higher grade (THAT was their idea of dealing with a gifted kid!!)

    So now I'm second-guessing myself in all that. Should I have let my daughter go off when she was so young, and miss the whole high school "experience?" I still don't know!!! I know that she doesn't think she's as smart as one of the kids she's graduating with (who skipped a couple of grades and will graduate at age 16). I was so concerned that she grow up "normal" that she thinks she IS normal!

    But I'm convinced that the socialization that kids get at a younger age in primary/elementary school, is easily achieved in other ways - like the Mum who are actually homeschooling said. I really don't think that the socialization they get in school is necessarily very civilized and beneficial!

    Love

    Dennie

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