Annoying or Great Neighbors

  1. OK I have to vent this somewhere... I have a neighbor who's lived in the next apartment probably almost a month now, who plays basketball almost every morning between 1 and 2 a.m. Is doing it right now in fact which spurred this thread. And at about 3 in the afternoon (usually the days I'm trying to sleep before work). By himself, complete with running commentary and the ball bouncing off my bedroom wall. I'm not really sure what to do. Suggestions?

    On the other hand, growing up I had a neighbor, an elderly man who liked to come to the fence and talk to us for a long time and see how we were doing, would give us little gifts (like a strawberry begonia) and a couple of times money (my mom made us give it back), and I almost forgot- kept popsicles for us in the summer time- the best was when you got a fudge one. Was so very kind to everyone in our family and one of the most amazing people I'll ever know.

    Any neighbor stories or suggestions?
  2. 5 Comments

  3. by   bethin
    He needs to be more considerate. Odds are, he's annoying other people too. Talk to other people on the floor or even people below him to see if he is bugging them too. Get together and talk to the manager. Everyone is on different schedules but he can take his game outside. Or you could start having really loud raunchy sex against the wall. Maybe that will stop the bouncing as he's pondering what position you are in.

    I'm soon moving into an apartment for the first time and I'm seriously worried that I'm going to be bugging my neighbors because I listen to music and watch tv late at night. I'm hoping to be considerate and I'm hoping they'll be considerate back.

    When I went to college and rented a house with 2 other roommates, which one messed with a ouija board (bad idea), had guys coming and going like it was one of *those* houses, and the neighbors next door dealed cocaine and heroin. Oh, and my roommates so called friends (they're boys, but can you have 10 boyfriends?) hit on me repeatedly and I would wake up with them in my room hovering over me. She lasted 2 weeks before me and my other roommate kicked her out.
  4. by   perfectbluebuildings
    Wow... at least this is just a neighbor and I don't actually have to see him. That is a HORRIBLE roommate!! I've tried knocking on the wall a few times but hasn't made any difference. I think it may be about time for a complaint. I'm not sure if maybe he drinks or something that convinces him this is a good idea. LOL on the "sex" idea... actually the neighbor(s) before HIM used to do that. (Is it time for me to move?!?! To a place where the bedrooms don't ajoin?) Don't think that's a possibility for me though

    Music and TV watching will probably be OK... as long as it's not too loud or you don't have really sensitive neighbors (here's hoping!!)
  5. by   bethin
    I would definitely complain. Since it's a repetitive thing, he's going to keep doing it until someone stops him.

    I don't know, would you talk to your neighbor directly or talk to the apt manager?
  6. by   RGN1
    If possible I'd talk to him first but not if I felt I would be in danger if I did! Only you can judge that, he may not even realise that he is waking you up! People can be really thick!

    If you really don't think you can talk to him then you'll have to go to the manager of the block, preferably with other neighbours who feel the same.

    Good luck - we once had to live over the neighbours from hell & it took over 6 months to get them out, I was heavily pregnant & working rotating shifts at the time (3 weeks days, one week nights per month).....not fun! We eventually got their landlord to move them out under breech of lease but that was after several complaints to the Environmental Health Department (the local authority nuisance noise/smell etc department) about them.

    I hope you manage an amicable sloution to this problem.
  7. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Well if I were you, I would take the reasonable and low-key route and talk to him first---if it is safe to do so. Believe it or not, many people really are that clueless. I would go over there, and politely ask him to curtail the ball-bouncing on the wall, at the very least, explaining how disturbing it is for your sleep. I know just how you feel; I had noisy neighbors above and below me in my apt some years ago. I learned to sleep with a box fan on for white noise that drowned out a lot of neighbor noise. It worked well; you might try that.

    I never liked living in apartments for the very reasons you mention. Too many people in too close spaces and many are just plain ignorant or inconsiderate. I am sorry this is happening to you. If your talking to this neighbor nets no result, you should report it to your manager. I hope you can get things changed for sanity's sake. Good luck.
    Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Nov 23, '06