And Your Reaction To Your Daughter Would Be What?

  1. Let's say you're a male, 54 years old, and your wife is 46. Your daughter, age 28, informs you that she's seeing a guy that's 44 (no kids, been married twice).

    Now granted, she's living on her own, and she is an adult, but how would you HONESTLY feel about that?
  2. 81 Comments

  3. by   UM Review RN
    Besides wanting to strangle the guy for taking advantage of my lil girl?

    Nod, smile, say, "That's nice, dear" a lot, and pray for him to go away.
  4. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Ah, but what if she was the one that asked him out, though?
  5. by   UM Review RN
    Reaction would be the same. She's too young to really know what she's doing and he should have the brains to politely refuse.

    --Don't ask me to be impartial when it comes to my kids. :chuckle
  6. by   dphrn
    I would wonder why the first two marriages did not work. What were the details and his part in the failure of the marriages. Sometimes that can tell a lot about a person and their way of dealing with problems in a relationship. If he treats her well, and she is happy...I would have to accept it. After all, she is twenty eight and not a little girl any longer. She will always be your "little girl" but she is a grown woman.
  7. by   VivaLasViejas
    You just described my husband and me (54 and 46, respectively). If some 44 YO man started hanging around with our daughter, I'm afraid he might end up with a couple less cojones than he started with........of course, our eldest is 22, not 28, so maybe that skews my perspective a little.
  8. by   dphrn
    Quote from Angie O'Plasty, RN
    Reaction would be the same. She's too young to really know what she's doing and he should have the brains to politely refuse.

    --Don't ask me to be impartial when it comes to my kids. :chuckle
    Twenty eight is too young to know what she is doing? My goodness, if she doesn't know what she is doing by then...then when?
  9. by   Spidey's mom
    I think I would have to side with Angie and Marla here . ..

  10. by   dphrn
    I am glad that the question in the OP was how would we honestly "feel?". Because I feel safe to say that when children are twenty eight and out of the house living on their own, all we will have are our "feelings" about how they are living their lives.

    Hopefully, everything we have done to that point will give them the courage and sense to make wise decisions. We will be able to tell them how we "feel", but they will ultimately make their own choices when they are...

  11. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    I wouldn't say that i know everything, but i wouldn't consider myself too young to know what i'm doing. (I'm 28)

    I mean, AT what age is someone fully aware of what they're doing?
  12. by   fergus51
    I'm around that age too and my parents know better than to meddle in my personal life. I'm sure they'd be less than thrilled and discuss it amongst themselves, but fortunately they know that I am not a stupid child that needs their supervision and they keep their opinions to themselves unless I ask for them. It took us a LOOOOONNNNNGGG time to get here, but THANK GOD we are!!!
  13. by   leslie :-D
    personally i see absolutely nothing wrong with it whatsoever.

    a 28 yo woman is a full-fledged adult... i don't understand the prejudices in the age difference when they're both adults.

    and at 28, if she doesn't know better, then she never will.

    the only thing i would question is why he's been married twice.
    but then again, if dh and i split, that will have been my 2nd failed marriage.

    but back to the subject, it's not as if she's anna nicole marrying a 95 yo guy.

  14. by   DDRN4me
    I have to agree with Leslie. my main concern would be what happened to the first 2 marriages. (could even be a widow, how do we know?) My 22 year old dated a 30 year old and i loved him,much better person than the 21 year old she is seeing now!