Almost out of nice

  1. Ever had one of those nights/days at work were you feel like you are just about out of nice. Why is it that there are people that are just generally nice and considerate or at leaste try there best to be. Then there are those that just say and do whatever they please and dont really give a hang how it effects anyone else. Why is it that is the nice ones that always get misunderstood, confronted and just basically over run by the others? Please excuse my lack of making sense I guess I am just really really frustrated. Am I just a lame brain or has anyone else ever felt this way?
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  2. 22 Comments

  3. by   karenG
    I am 'out of nice' on a regular basis!!! The docs I work with ask 'not feeling touchy feelly today!?'..............they then offer to look for bodies!!!! Patients.......who needs 'em? (we do!!)

    Karen
  4. by   soltera
    i was reprimanded for being nice to the patients!! was told that it just spoils them and they'd expect it all the time. i don't get it, the meanie nurses and rude nurses were looked at with high respect by the top big shots but pathetic nice little me got in trouble for being nice.
  5. by   Dave ARNP
    I totally know what you're saying.
    ((((((ANGEL)))))))

    Take care, OK?

    -Dave
  6. by   Tweety
    Don't you ever change. :kiss
  7. by   Noney
    You know it's hard work being nice at times. But it's worth it.


    Noney
  8. by   angelbear
    I am beginning to wonder but I am glad to know I am not alone.
  9. by   Cindy_A
    I think I am a pretty nice person, probably too nice at times. But, I would rather be too nice and get **** on once in a while than be a ***** all the time. I agree with Noney, it's worth being nice in the long run.
  10. by   mattsmom81
    Wow your post hit home with me. Because we are nice we can be targets for bullies.
    Being too nice isn't good for us...unless we temper it with boundaries and can draw the line.So...I am nice but I DO set limits. Hurts when niceness alone doesn't beget niceness in return...my dear Mother thought it would but I have learned differently. Sad but true.

    Nurses who are too nice and 'take it' is a major reason nursing has become soooo frustrating, IMHO.
  11. by   MryRose
    I agree MattsMom. You do need to set boundaries. I am one of those people that is just generally in a great mood at most times. I wake up happy..... I know, I know... I try to keep it to myself for the non-morning people...lol The great thing about it is it's kind of contagious.... and time flys by when you are in a good mood.

    People will try to take advantage of that, but they learn real quick that I am nice, but not stupid! So Stay nice, but be wise, give the grouchies a little space when they need it.

    Hugs!
    MaryRose
  12. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Try being NICE

    but FIRM.

    yes there is a difference.

    it will be the difference between your sanity or insanity.
  13. by   Dave ARNP
    Smiling,
    Can you teach a class on that? Sometimes I'm a bit of a pushover. I think I make myself a little too availble to my patients, and sometimes I think I let them be a little to demanding. Don't get me wrong, I never do anything I don't 100% agree with... still. When they have your home number and wake you up all hours of the night, come to the house at 3:00AM, and have even met you in the church parking lot...... well. You get my drift.

    Angel,
    I gotta see you get testy with someone. I'd pay $$$ to see it. You're just too nice for me to imagine you angry.

    -Dave
  14. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I don't teach classes but I DO READ BOOKS on ASSERTIVENESS.....

    it's critical to all of us in "customer-service" oriented fields. I have a couple names I can recommend. Also, there are workshops dedicated to teaching professionals how to be assertive w/o being aggressive.

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