All my computer geek friends,...HELP!!

  1. This has absolutely nothing to do with Nursing,.but you guys seem to know so much about so many things,....I need help,..if you don't agree w/what I'm doing just don't help,..heres the scoop, 12yr old has a yahoo account,.own email, and password,..I know there has to be a way to read her email,.even the deleted ones,..lots of drama going on at school right now,.some kids in trouble, a Mom I need to know what's going on,.anyone have any ideas?

    BTW I realize some of you might think I'm wrong to "invade her privacy",.she's my daughter, living in my house, using my computer, and I'm worried. It may end up being nothing,.but I need to know!
  2. 6 Comments

  3. by   1776patriot
    You can purchase a small program called a key logger. It stays hidden in the background and records all the keystrokes, emails, websites and whatnot. When she is not around you then can upload the information and see what she is up to.

    You can Google keylogger program and see a bunch of different ones. One places is widestep.

    I've never used any so I can't tell you much else. Good luck on being the FBI. Family bureau of investigation that is.... I hope everything turns out to be innocent kid's stuff...
  4. by   MedSurgeNewbie
    You can buy several different programs, one of the things you can do as well if you would like is set up parental controls - my kids email activity gets sent to me in a report form - email is not a "right" my kids know I have controls as well as key loggers (one great resource, if you dont want to try to set it your self is Geek Squad, they can come out and install software you buy) one of the things that opend my eyes was logging on yahoo chat as my daugher by accident one day - umm there are unsavory types out there - Just like e-mail at work my kids know no privacy implied.. You are being a great mom
  5. by   chris_at_lucas_RN
    It sounds like you have a pretty close relationship with your daughter, you are maybe a little afraid she'll freeze you out if you express too much concern.

    Have you talked to her about your worries, and how your feelings for her were affected by the recent developments?

    If she seems otherwise OK, I'd try to spend a little more time with her, etc., talk, do stuff together, etc.

    Hard to parent a teenager.

    And I would also buy that little gadget.

    Good luck to you both.
  6. by   DutchgirlRN
    I don't think it's an invasion of privacy at her age I consider it beng a good parent. You have to look out for your kids. Good Luck.
  7. by   BrnEyedGirl
    Thanks guys!! Was afraid I'd get the 3rd degree for wanting to "snoop". Am going to google keylogger now!! Never felt the need to do this with my older daughter,'s probably nothing,.but thanks so much for your support!!!
  8. by   TazziRN
    My older kids have their own accounts and we know the passwords. My oldest is left alone now since he's 19, but my middle one knows that we go in and monitor her mail sometimes. We also monitor her My Space page.

    I was reading To Catch A Predator last night and Chris Hansen listed two software programs that you can get that monitors. I will send you a PM.