Let's establish that things were great with my parents, stepgrandmother, and Aunt A and Uncle A.
Rest of the family was another story.
Starting with first thing Christmas Eve morning, stepgrandfather going out to get the newspaper. Comes back inside, leaves the front door WIDE open (like he always
does, and there's no screendoor there). It's 25 degrees outside, 6 inches of snow on the ground. And about an hour prior, he had been griping about how high the heat bill is. I went over and shut the door, saying that closed doors might help bring the bill down. Got YELLED at by him, saying that had nothing
to do with it. Ok...
Stepgrandmother ("Grandma" was Dad's mom) was to get a bath early in the morning (she had a stroke 3 years ago), i was to dry and fix her hair, and do her makeup. Uncle A and Uncle D (both her sons) were to do with. Uncle D was griping (whining) that it wasn't "his turn" to do with, griped before, during and after this bath. Aside from being annoying, i can only imagine how SG felt hearing this. I doubt she likes
having her kids to have to physically lift her and bathe her. Which i said this to Uncle D, out of the earshot of SG. Of course (i expected this) he says "well, what's your excuse? You're never here to even bathe her." Which i said "I live 4-5 hours away, while that's not an excuse for me not
to, i do what i can while i'm here, yet you're 2 miles down the road and gripe about coming here twice a month to do this, and might i add that's the ONLY time you come here is when you HAVE to, meanwhile I visit more than you do! And i'm not even her kid!" So Uncle D storms out, Uncle A says "well, if someone else didn't say it, i would have" (Uncle A helps out a LOT, but when he asks Uncle D for help, he gets excuses).
Anyway, i go back in the bathroom, blow dry and style SG's hair, applied face cream and body lotion, then me and stepmom put SG back in bed (a bath wears her out). SG private pay aide ("Karen") and her 13 year old daughter ("Heidi) stopped by to visit, or so i thought. Heidi proceeded to tell me and my stepmom that our clothes didn't match, and looked awful, did we even THINK about putting any makeup on or fixing our hair today, because y'all look awful?:angryfire Which i said "well let's see, we've been cleaning and all this other crap this morning, and we didn't have time to do either. But i think you're a little out of line with your opinion on our physical appearence, and i'd appreciate it if you kept it to yourself" and i went in the other room, to find Karen helping herself to one of SG's Christmas sweaters and Christmas earrings. I asked "Did she say this is OK with her?" Karen said "Yes, she said i can borrow stuff." Hmm, ok. They left right after that.
I took my shower and got cleaned up after that, then got SG up, fix her makeup, put on the day's outfit, and i asked her if she loans out her jewelry and clothes. She said "well, not really, Karen kinda helps herself to that stuff, as well as the tanning bed and lotion.":angryfire Well, the family meeting will be called then, cause since everyone contributes to the payment of this woman, i certainly don't want SG having someone to get paid to take someone for granted.
We then went in the kitchen to fix some of the food for that evening, and Uncle A and Aunt A (Uncle's A's Wife) show up with their food. They immediately start pitching in with anything that needed done. Uncle C and Aunt C show up with their kids, brining the SAME taco dip they make for every get-together for the past 17 years, and all of them sit in the living room and flip the TV on. They all stayed on the couch the whole evening, didn't help with preparing food, didn't even wash their own dishes, just left them on the end table for "someone" to pick up. Next time, that won't happen.:angel2:
Uncle D and "Aunt" D show up, take their seats on the loveseat. A little background on my practically non-extistant communication with Aunt D: she is Uncle D's second wife, as the result of an affair. It would typically be none of my business, but this happened while he was married to his first wife, even though they SWORE they were just friends, yet here that witch is, calling my then aunt at HOME and telling her things like "you might as well just leave him, he's going to leave you for me ANYWAY." Had i not been there in the house that day and heard her say it, i almost wouldn't have believed that someone would be that
tacky and disrespectful (which is the reason why i'll never respect her). But once i met that fleuz, it was easy to figure out. This woman barely got by working as a gas station cashier, barely lived, but once she married my uncle (who makes a great living), she was able to quit and stay at home, buying Agner purses, $300 shoes, $200 jeans, and drinking champagne everyday. Then decided as a "hobby" (her words) to become a CNA, and works PRN in Home Health.
Which brings me to the next incident lol. "Aunt" D was telling Aunt C about her job "as a nurse". I asked "oh when did you go to college." She says " I never did". I said "the nursing home trained you?". She said "Uh, yeah." I said "That makes you a CNA, not a NURSE. A nurse is an LPN or an RN, please don't continue to falsely represent youself to people. It IS against the law." She looked like she was ready to explode, told me she'd never speak to me again (oh DARN about that, ya tramp). I went back in the kitchen and helped to clean up, hugged and kissed parents and stepgrandparents, and went to bed.
Next year ought to be a peach!:spin: