Advice Needed

  1. Hey guys, I could really use some advice. Ok here goes....

    I have been working a full time job (around 103 or more hours a pay), and I have been going to school on my off time. I just found out today I am not going to be able to take night classes any more. Here is where I need the advice, in order for me to finish my education I have to have this schooling, but going to school during the day means that I will have to work nights. I have a two year old little girl that I will get to see next to never. I am sure that some of you guys have had to do this. How did it effect your kids. Does me doing this and not really being there for Sidney make me a bad mother? Grrrr!!! My hubby is being great about it all, he just keeps telling me to make the sacrifice and go for it. I am ok making the decision to sacrifice things for myself but I am hesitent to make that decision for Sidney. Any adivce out there??? I'd love to hear from someone who has been there and just anyone who has some advice. Thank you in advance.

  2. 4 Comments

  3. by   radnurse2001
    How much more schooling do you have? Does your husband make enough that you can work part time or weekend program (IF you hospital provides that). As far as you daughter is concerned, you are doing this for her. It's not quantity of time, it's quality of time. I currently have 3 children (12, 8, and 4) and am soing distance education for Legal Nurse Consulting. I work full time (my husband is a stay at home dad). I know people think that distance education is easy, but it's not. Especially when you are trying to really get something out of the program (sorry, off my soap box now) This will show your daughter that she, too, can achieve anything. Even at this young age. It's also shown that children who see their parents doing higher education, do better in school. They will mimic you. I would suggest maybe studying non-seriously when she is awake and share with her what you are doing. Two year olds can make great listeners.

    Hope this helps

  4. by   Jenzee
    I have (roughly) about a year to year and a half left. Depending on how many classes I am able to take with work. Ya he makes enough, but he brought a bunch of debt to our marriage so we are trying to dig out of that hole. Thank you so much for the advice. I admire you doing the distance education. It has got to be hard. I can't wait to get home to cuddle with my little one.
  5. by   radnurse2001
    Do you have your own home or can you do a debt consolidation loan? You can temporarly take a low monthly payment (usually over a long term or at a high % rate but I am assuming when you are done with school, you will be making more. At that time you can either pay extra or refinance again to a shorter term.Can you tell I have been doing this juggling for years? Actually each time I do it, the intrest rate gets better and the term gets shorter.

    Just something to look in to.

  6. by   Jenzee
    Not yet on the house thing. That is one reason that I have been working so many hours. Yes, I should be making a little more when I am done with school. RN's (from what the local paper advertises) make $17/per hour and up. I make $13 right now. So it would be a nice pay raise. We are going to do the debt consl. as soon as we buy a house, which we hope will be this summer.