A wonderful man died, I will miss him

  1. Found out today that a guy I have known and worked with for 10 years was killed in a car accident Tuesday. Mike was a therapist who specialized in designing and making various braces and protestic devices. I have worked with him in the various places I have worked at over the years, as he would come in and take care of the special needs of MVA patients, the diabetic patient who had lost a leg etc... I never saw Mike angry or upset, always cheerful with a good word for all.
    Several months ago my dad lost the bottom half of his foot to diabetes, and there was one area that was not healing, I had been doing daily dressing changes for over 4 months. The problem was that the area was rubbing back and forth every time he would put a shoe on and walk. The insurance company would not pay for a device in the shoe to stop that from happening, and needless to say I was very angry. One day Mike was on the unit and I had told him about it. Told me to bring my dad over to the office and he would make something for him, as a "professional" courtesy. At first I told him I just didn't think I could do that, but his reponse was, how long have we known each other? So I brought my dad to the office, Mike fitted two of his shoes and within a month the area had healed. When Mike came up on the unit next time after that and I told him my dad was healed he grabbed me around the waist and spun me in a circle yelling hoorey! He was just like that, a fun loving guy.
    I had seen him Tuesday Afternoon, we stood around and yaked for about 20 minutes and now I'll never see him again. He was 48 years old. Red Hair, red beard, an Irish Catholic boy from New York City.
    This has hit me quite hard, it was about a year ago another good friend of mine died. He was also named Mike and the two of them always made me think of each other. This Mike also had red hair and beard, but he was from the south, with a wonderful drawl when he talked. He died last year the weekend before he was supposed to start working with me. Mike S. was a RN. He had juvenile onset of diabetes and had died of an MI at 38 years old.
    I have cried on and off today, have a nasty, nasty family that I am dealing with whose mother was supposed to be measured for a clamshell today. They came to the nursing station in the afternoon today to ***** because mom hadn't been measured yet. They were their normal nasty selves and it took everything I had not to scream at them, instead I simply explained that the man who was supposed to do the measuring had died in a car accident and therefore the measuring would be a bit late. I had to get up and leave the nursing station so I wouldn't be nasty and sarcastic with the God awful daughter. When I really wanted to scream, at least your mother is alive but my friend is dead! At least they didn't come back later and ask who would be in to do it and when.
    So here I sit with the blues wondering why God took two wonderful people in their prime while nasty old farts still hang around.
    I'm going to miss Mike.
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  2. 21 Comments

  3. by   hoolahan
    {{{{{{Rn country}}}}}}}
    I remember when you lost your other friend Mike. IT truly hurts to lose the good people we love, but I guess God must take the special people to be his angels.
  4. by   vashka25
    <<<<<< RN >>>>>>>
    I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your friend. My love and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
  5. by   l.rae
    RNcountry...so sad ...don't know what to say...very sorry to hear of this......LR
  6. by   Youda
    {{{{{RNCounty}}}}}}} Hugs to you.

    Many, many hugs to a dear lady.
  7. by   LasVegasRN
    What a loss. (((((((((((( RNcountry ))))))))))))
    I have no words, other than, Mike was so fortunate to have a friend in you. :angel2:
  8. by   baseline
    My thoughts are with you.
  9. by   tattooednursie
    ((((((rncountry)))))) I am sorry about your loss!! People shouldnt be so rude like those people were about getting their mom fitted. People like Mike are special people, or earth angels. Unfortunantly they are few and far between, and when one of the dies it is extreemely sad. Just look at it this way . . . He was an angel on earth, and he didnt have to transform much in heaven, and he probably was watching you write this post, and feels you are an angel for caring so much about him. I am sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel.
  10. by   dianah
    I, too, am so sorry to hear of your loss. He has so touched your life as to be a changing force in it, and thus is always a part of you. But then, you already knew you were blessed in knowing him. Thank you for sharing about him, wish I could have known him too. -- D
  11. by   maureeno
    so much hurt
    so many losses
    sometimes I crumple
    sometimes I scream

    sure I believe in God
    and Jesus too
    but sometimes I crumple
    sometimes I scream
    enough hurt, enough!
  12. by   Tweety
    I'm sorry about the loss of your friend.
  13. by   adrienurse
    [[[[[[[[[[[[[[[RNCountry]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]
    So sorry to hear about your friend.
  14. by   sunnygirl272
    so sorry!!!
    nothing else i can say....

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