A woman told me that she misses me. Is that love?

  1. I am a guy. I went to school last year. At school, I had a crush on this woman. I told her how I felt about her but she did not accept me. She has a boyfriend or it was something else. During are last days of school together she knew how I felt about her but she continued to talk with me. I told her that I will miss her and I will be saddened that I will not see her again because of graduation. She wrote me an email later on saying that she misses me. Is that love?
    Last edit by hopefully on Mar 25, '04
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  3. by   live4today
    I wouldn't take her statement to you to mean she is in love with you, or loves you.

    She may just miss the good times you shared as students in school, and may have fond memories of having known you, but you will never know unless you come right out and ask her if there is a chance the two of you can become closer than just former classmates.
  4. by   nekhismom
    Ditto what cheerful said! You never know if you don't ask!
  5. by   saphireRN
    :stone Uhhh, OK, not trying to be rude, but, is this for real? Or is this a joke??? It's just this sounds like a post from a 16yo, not a 36yo man! :imbar



    Quote from hopefully
    I am a guy. I went to school last year. At school, I had a crush on this woman. I told her how I felt about her but she did not accept me. She has a boyfriend or it was something else. During are last days of school together she knew how I felt about her but she continued to talk with me. I told her that I will miss her and I will be saddened that I will not see her again because of graduation. She wrote me an email later on saying that she misses me. Is that love?
  6. by   SmilingBluEyes
    at 36, you are more than old enough not to play guessing games...do what renee suggests and just ask! we don't know what is on her mind, but SHE does.
  7. by   Tweety
    Sounds more like manipulation, either conscious or subconcious, and no it is not love.
  8. by   Headhurt
    OR...maybe the thing with the boyfriend floundered...

    It's always nice to know you are someone's second choice...not.
  9. by   hopefully
    Quote from saphireRN
    :stone Uhhh, OK, not trying to be rude, but, is this for real? Or is this a joke??? It's just this sounds like a post from a 16yo, not a 36yo man! :imbar
    I know what a crush is. It is loving someone and that someone does not feel the same way. Anyway, I was reading some messages on this board on how people miss people. So that is why I brought it up! Anyway, it is really about how people miss people and why do they feel that way!! That should be the question. It is not about life experiences! :stone
  10. by   Tweety
    I've had crushes before, you can't help it. Sometimes when you're madly in a crush you might read something into a situation that wasn't really there. She perhaps is being sincere that she likes you as a person and will miss you as a friend. Nothing more. I think you might be reading more into it than is there. But the only way of knowing if she had a change of heart is to ask.
  11. by   saphireRN
    Sorry if I offended you, this truly did not seem "real", especially from a 36 yo man! I was thinking you were just trying to "yank some chains....":chuckle
    Anyway...I do not agree that a crush is "loving someone, who does not feel that way"....two people may have a "crush" on each other, and feel the exact same way...but it is a far cry from "loving" someone, IMO. A "crush" really, to me, is more of a "juvenile" way of saying you are attracted to someone, perhaps have developed feelings for someone....
    As for people missing each other, perhaps this woman was being nice to you, as she was aware of your feelings..... Who really know why people have the feelings they do....?


    Quote from hopefully
    I know what a crush is. It is loving someone and that someone does not feel the same way. Anyway, I was reading some messages on this board on how people miss people. So that is why I brought it up! Anyway, it is really about how people miss people and why do they feel that way!! That should be the question. It is not about life experiences! :stone
  12. by   Rustyhammer
    Love is going to see a movie you know you won't like, but you'll enjoy it because your partner is liking it.
    Love is getting up early when your partner gets up and bringing them a fresh cup of coffee when their still in the shower so they have it when they get out.
    Love is NOT something you fall in, it's something you GROW into together. It's caring enough about someone else that you are willing to sacrifice yourself for their pleasure.
    If you have to ask if it's love, then it's not.
    -Russell
  13. by   ferfer
    :chuckle I like this thread, it is amusing. I too, know how it feels to feel like this. Recently, in the midst of all my probs with significant other (or recent loss of) I hve been developing feelings for somebody that I should not, know probably could never reciprocate and it is just wrong. But sometimes you just cannot help how you feel.



    Best thing to do if you think you have a chance is to ask!! Nothing to lose but a little ego and even then it will just help you move on if she does not feel the same way
  14. by   LesJenRN
    I equate a crush with lust....just termed in a much more innocent way! Maybe in 5th grade it was a "crush".....but when I first had a crush on my hubby....well, ya'll get the picture..

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