a rough day

  1. Hi guys. Today sucked for lack of a better word. Mom was cofused today after 2 days of steady progress. Plus her breathing got a little bad during the night and they had to put an int in to give her meds for her lungs. I'm going to do something that I have been avioding. I'm going to ask Dr. Mahajan(mom's pcp)if this may be the beginning of Oh God help me Alzheimer's. Please no. Please not her. I'll do anything. You all know this disease is a death sentence and worse. I'm not going to be able to take it if it's true. It's something that's too horrible for me to think about. I don't want to think anymore. I don't want to feel anymore. It just hurts too damn much. Pray for her my friends. I don't know what to do anymore. God knows I've tried. Warrior Woman.
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  3. by   l.rae
    Theresa, keep hope, even small health setbacks cand cause confusion in the elderly....even uti's.....l can't tell you the number of elderly pt's that have come through the ER w//o mental staus changes that ended up being uti's, pneumonia....reversable conditions that once resolved the pt's mental status returned to normal....your mamma has been thruough the ringer......it may not be as bad as it seems...you have been through the ringer...it's hard to look at things objectivly...get some rest...l will say prayer for her and you...God is with you....LR....:kiss
    Last edit by l.rae on Jul 26, '02
  4. by   live4today
    ((((((((THERESA & MOM)))))))))) :kiss
    I will say a prayer for you both tonight, and I pray most of all that YOU get some much needed rest. I'll email you privately, too. Stay encouraged!
  5. by   Sleepyeyes
    Yep, LRae is right; the elderly get confused easily. Be patient, and gently accept her as she is now, it'll be comforting to her to see you there, accepting her as she is. ((((((Hugs))))))))
  6. by   Sleepyeyes
    I just read what I wrote....Sorry; i'm up waaaay past my bedtime on 2 hours of sleep...ho-hum, time to hit the hay!!
    nitenite, and take care...
  7. by   delirium
    Theresa:
    My prayers for you and your mother. Remember to be kind to yourself and try to get some rest.
    (((((((((((((((((Theresa & mom))))))))))))))))))))
  8. by   Love-A-Nurse
    (((((theresa)))))
  9. by   warrior woman
    Thank you for all of the prayers and support. You truly keep me going. I love you all so much. I talked to the nurse today. She said it's not med related,because the meds she's on now are not supposed to cause the beligerence,combativeness,and confusion she's been experiencing. She said and I quote "It's dementia, and it's irreversible." I'm going to talk to Dr. Mahajan tomorrow and ask for an MRI and a neuro consult. I have to hear it from him. I'm hoping against hope it isn't true,but I'm also running out of all hope. I feel like I'm drowning. Can't hardly breathe at times. It hurts that bad. This is too much. Too much. Right now I'm working on a bottle of Absolut vodka to try and deaden myself to the agony. Maybe if I get drunk enough I can at least sleep. Help me hold on. Warrior Woman.
  10. by   Love-A-Nurse
    originally posted by warrior woman
    thank you for all of the prayers and support. you truly keep me going. i love you all so much. i talked to the nurse today. she said it's not med related,because the meds she's on now are not supposed to cause the beligerence,combativeness,and confusion she's been experiencing. she said and i quote "it's dementia, and it's irreversible." i'm going to talk to dr. mahajan tomorrow and ask for an mri and a neuro consult. i have to hear it from him. i'm hoping against hope it isn't true,but i'm also running out of all hope. i feel like i'm drowning. can't hardly breathe at times. it hurts that bad. this is too much. too much. right now i'm working on a bottle of absolut vodka to try and deaden myself to the agony. maybe if i get drunk enough i can at least sleep. help me hold on. warrior woman.
    theresea, your mom is blessed to have a daughter such as yourself. god is our refuge and he is our strength. keep the faith!
  11. by   shygirl
    First place, I'm very sorry.
    Second place, a nurse can't and shouldn't dx. a patient's symptoms.
    How old is your mom?
  12. by   warrior woman
    She's 75 years old Shygirl. Born May 21,1927. The exact day Charles Lindburgh landed from his historic flight. Everyone says Well, she is a senior. I could just scream when I hear this lame excuse. Dementia is NOT I repeat NOT a normal part of aging. All the Geri books wil tell you that. Sorry for the rant Shy. I'm not mad at you believe me. I just want this nightmare to end. Warrior Woman.
  13. by   shygirl
    IF her MD dx. is dementia, ask him if she can be started on Aricept? I have seen many of the patient's symptoms lesson because of this med. Good Luck

    Did anyone do a depression scale on her? She could be angry because she is depressed too!
  14. by   l.rae
    Theresa, dementia can be reversable, that nurse who says different shouldn't be making these absolute statements.....not everybody has ''common'' side effects of medications...did that nurse ever hear of idiosyncratic reactions?....there are several possibilities besides non-reversable dementia...you are right to insist these other options be explored...l also have heard many good things about aricept.....please keep strong, your mom needs you and we are here for you........LR

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