A rant on *40*

  1. So I've turned 40 ... OK, I can deal.

    Just when I think I'm coping, someone has to point out that I'm 40. And that's what I'm having a hard time coping with. :trout:

    A recent eye exam: Just a routine yearly visit, no changes in my prescription. But I was assessed with an extra test, "just to make sure you're not having any problems focusing close up." :trout:

    Renewed my driver's license today: chatty DMV employee says, "so this was a big year for you, huh?" :trout:

    Made a comment to a co-worker that I heard The Clash on an "oldies" radio station and that I'm flipping to that station more often lately. Co-worker greets me the other day with, "so how's that oldies station?" :trout:

    My mother wished me a happy birthday and said, sincerely, "you don't look 40 at all." No one ever said to me "you don't look 39" ... :trout:

    And in the mail: a friendly letter from my health insurance company, urging me to schedule a mammogram. :trout:

    Ack.
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  2. 21 Comments

  3. by   Tweety
    Sorry that you're 40 how awful for you.







    Welcome to the club! Woot!
  4. by   Spidey's mom
    I remember that feeling . . . .what is so WEIRD about being in your 40's is that you were JUST in your 30's and you are looking at 50's.

    I just felt (feel) schizophrenic . . . .

    And my daughter and husband both say I look good for my age - if you look around at other 49 year old women, according to them, I look better.

    But does better mean . . . in my 30's????

    Happy Birthday - Welcome to life feeling like an oddball . ..

    steph
  5. by   TazziRN
    The day I turned 40 I started feeling my joints creak. I swear I never would have felt it if my loving (?) daughter (all of 12 years old) hadn't said "Wow, Mom, you're old now."

    She's lucky she lived to see 13..........
  6. by   llg
    Just wait until you get the invitation to join the AARP in the mail. That really makes you feel old.

    llg -- aged 52
  7. by   donsterRN
    Ain't that the truth!

    I received my first invitation to join AARP when I was 47. The letter kept saying "you are eligible..." I shredded it.

    I received my second one when I was 48. It, too, kept referring to my newfound eligibility. I shredded it, too.

    Now that I'm 49, I haven't received an invitation to join them. Of course, maybe I did and don't remember...

    We're planning a blow-out 50th party for me for the first week in October, if anyone's interested...
  8. by   VivaLasViejas
    Are you kidding? AARP's been working on me since I hit 45........

    Gotta admit, though, I've enjoyed my 40s, even though turning 40 was, as I recall, somewhat traumatic. It's true that life gets better and better, and I'm actually looking forward to my 50s and beyond.

    If only I could've kept the face I had at 30 and the figure I had at 20, combined with the smarts I'm developing as I approach 50, well.......there'd be no stopping me!
  9. by   TazziRN
    I kid you not, I received an invite to joing AARP when I was twenty-two!!!
  10. by   ertravelrn
    I loved turning 40....seemed like my life was finally coming together...lots of firsts for me and yes, I have creaks that I didn't have before, but thats okay. You gotta take the bad with the good and being in my 40's is good.
    Hope you start feeling better about it soon.
  11. by   leslie :-D
    hahahaha....i don't know why but i felt traumatized at turning 30- not 40.
    i was truly depressed: i thought i was doomed to flat shoes and elasticized waists.
    and interestingly enough, i did end up wearing flats, but no elastics....yet.
    turning 40 however, i felt on top of the world and it's only gotten better.
    granted, i come from good, hearty stock and everyone in my family has aged quite well.
    but even the newfound lines don't bother me a bit.
    i have a streak of gray on my hairline that i refuse to touch.
    and all is well in the world.

    our society is soooooo youth-obsessed.
    take it for what it's worth.
    and congratulations!

    leslie
  12. by   donsterRN
    Quote from mjlrn97
    Are you kidding? AARP's been working on me since I hit 45........
    Quote from TazziRN
    I kid you not, I received an invite to joing AARP when I was twenty-two!!!
    22 and 45??? Thank God. I thought my 47 was overkill!

    Quote from earle58
    hahahaha....i don't know why but i felt traumatized at turning 30- not 40.
    i was truly depressed: i thought i was doomed to flat shoes and elasticized waists.
    and interestingly enough, i did end up wearing flats, but no elastics....yet.
    turning 40 however, i felt on top of the world and it's only gotten better.
    granted, i come from good, hearty stock and everyone in my family has aged quite well.
    but even the newfound lines don't bother me a bit.
    i have a streak of gray on my hairline that i refuse to touch.
    and all is well in the world.

    our society is soooooo youth-obsessed.
    take it for what it's worth.
    and congratulations!

    leslie
    And I haven't seen YOU in ages; how are you???
  13. by   DutchgirlRN
    30 hit me really hard, the worst birthday ever. 40 was a breeze for me. 50 was humbling. I realized that I was truly in mid-life. When I was a little girl my uncle turned 50 and I remember thinking he was soooo old. I must have been about 12. OMG that kept running through my mind. Kids think I'm old.
    Oh well, you're really only as old as you feel. There are pluses to getting older like Grandchildren!!!!
  14. by   NurseyPoo
    I feel your pain sister! Been there done that! It is a very weird feeling. My husband is only 5 months younger than me but he reminds me all of the time that I am older. So, when he said something the other night....I asked him how many sit ups he has been doing in the morning...He asked me why...I said you should probably add about 50 because when you reach 40 it will become more difficult for you. He just stared at me and said you are so obnoxious...I said kind of like when you mention my age...He said Oh...Okay then....truce! I can't wait for his birthday! It is fast approaching!

    Enjoy life and don't worry about it! It is just a number.

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