I was on the dating rollercoaster in school. I was single when i started my first nursing job, then in dating hell. I could have said 'heck' for a nicer terminology, but that also would have been an understatement. Between blind dates, i-wanna-see-you-and-i-wanna-see-other-people BS, etc. Then there was Mr. It-took-me-5-months-to-realize-i'm-not-ready-for-a-relationship (that was his excuse to get out of the relationship). Ironically, i was heartbroken by that guy, but when i evaluated that relationship, it was very one-sided. And booooorrriiing. He was perfectly content to ONLY eat, sleep, _____, and watch TV. I had realized that i had stopped doing a lot of the things that i liked to do when i was with him.
So i set out to be me, if that makes any sense. I picked my needlecrafting again, and decided i didn't give a flying rat's rear if people think that yarnwork is an old lady habit. I spent time at bookstores, museums, church, watched Golden Girls all i wanted to, etc. etc. I finally decided that wouldn't settle for less than i deserved.
Ironically a MONTH after that is when i officially started dating my friend Matt, a couple of WEEKS later we got engaged (we'd actually known each other for 5 years or so by then), and 6 months later got married.
That was a year ago.
And he loves Golden Girls.
All the while, i kept my relationships out of work. I avoided blind date set-ups from co-workers, because i knew if i said yes that i'd get grilled. Plus i would have felt like i was mixing work and personal life.
But anyway, there's still the assumptive co-workers, which, honestly, i just wanna smack sometimes. :stones First they assumed that i'd want to work more because i was single. Well now it's assumed because i'm married with no kids. And i can almost guarentee that the next rationale would be "you have kids, you could probably use the extra money."
Alright, i think i've rambled enough here lol.