A promise to myself..... sadly

  1. hey guys, way back when I First started coming to this board I promised myself that I would leave and be scarce if my feelings ever got hurt by someone. Figuring that would never ever happen because you all had the amazing ability to post opinions without being hurtful, I started posting here like a wild woman. Offering my opinion, trying to be helpful when possible and wanting to reach out to you guys because I could see that I was dealing with an amazing astounding and wonderful bunch of people.
    I let you into my life, cried on your shoulders and turned to you for advice when no one else was listening or seemed to care. for that I am so grateful!
    the time has come though when assumptions have been made about what type of person I am based on one of my posts. Opinions are always welcome and I relish in the fact that we can all agree to disagree. But I have always tried not to judge someone else as a person based on what I see written in a post of theirs.
    I started the post "angry from a pt point of view" just to express my own feelings of being treated poorly by someone in the medical profession.
    It basically involved the fact that I cancelled an appointment. I know it wasnt the smart thing to proper thing to do, but I wasnt feeling well, and feeling overwhlemed in general and just couldnt bring myself to sit there, while feeling sick with a fever to hear all about how bad my latest bloodwwork is or how this beast called lupus is going to affect my life.
    so yes I know I wasnt wise to do that
    and perhaps its my fever induced haze speaking but my feelings were really hurt by something in that thread and I'm just not feeling too great about it all.I'm sorry I started the thread to begin with actually but who else do I turn to when I'm down? You are my shoulder of preference you really are.
    but when you start to feel badly when reading something you have to not subject yourself to it anymore.....
    there was a very good reason that I made the allnurses homepage my starting page, so that when I click on that little home icon on netscape it really does bring me home in a sense....
    but home should feel good , and this doesnt right now. I know I know too sensitive and shouldnt let someones perception of me guide my actions and behaviours.... youre right and I'm aware of that.
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  3. by   eltrip
    (((((((hapeewendy)))))))

    I am sorry that your feelings were hurt by that person. I've read that thread, so I know of whom you write. Ignore the poster. This person may not have meant ill will toward you, but appears to have a problem with therapeutic communication. Place this poster on your ignore list.

    Most of us can give opinions without being hurtful or abrasive.

    The rest of us are here for ya, babe.

    Regards,
    Joy
  4. by   Jenny P
    Wendy, please don't leave! I haven't read the other thread, but I want you to stay here! You are one of the shining lights of the young nurses here! I hope to meet you someday, don't make any rash decisions at this time.

    Jenny
  5. by   Love-A-Nurse
    (((((wendy)))))
  6. by   kelligrl
    Oh Wendy, don't be sad....You'll make Vegas hand her purse to me again, and that freakin' thing is heavy!!! (What you got in there Vegas???) I saw the posts, and I know who hurt your feelings. Said opinions were expressed by a poster who I at least have often disagreed with, to put it mildly. (I know there are others as well.) You need to use that famous "ignore" feature with her. You don't deserve to be made to feel like that. We know you are awesome....


    ((((Wendy))))
  7. by   LasVegasRN
    I certainly understand a need to have a respite every now and then. I respect your feelings, Wendy, and you know how I feel about this through PM. Know that YOU are family here, the other person is NOT. This is your home and you are always welcome.

    The place setting at your spot on the table will continue to be there. Your favorite drinks will always be in the fridge. Renee will leave the light on for you. Giuseppe will continue leave a chocolate under your pillow. Rusty will be more than happy to saddle up a horse for you. Me.. well, you know I have NO problem having someone hold my purse if NEED BE. JailRN has her fannypack at ALL times. Heather will have a phallic shaped cake ready for our consumption.

    You know you are loved... :kiss
    Last edit by LasVegasRN on Sep 6, '02
  8. by   Love-A-Nurse
    i read the other thread, wendy, please don't go.
  9. by   LasVegasRN
    Originally posted by kelligrl
    Oh Wendy, don't be sad....You'll make Vegas hand her purse to me again, and that freakin' thing is heavy!!! (What you got in there Vegas
    Never mind what's in my purse, just hold it! :chuckle
  10. by   JailRN
    I like the cake idea and fannypack is ready.
    (((HUGS))) wendy, please don't go. I've said before Opinions are like a$$holes, everybody has them, but at least ana$$hole has a purpose. I haven't read the other post, yet, but WTF if they can't take a joke. Son't go!!!
  11. by   kelligrl
    YES MA'AM!!!!


    (my momma taught me enough to know that I should respect the woman who's handing out the a$$ whuppins )
  12. by   Stargazer
    Wendy, sent you a PM. If you need to take a break from the board because you're sick and need to take care of yourself, that's one thing--but don't be chased off by the posts of one insensitive person.

    Hugs.
  13. by   kittyw
    ((((Wendy)))) Just read the thread you're referring to ... I hope you feel better soon!!! :kiss Get some sleep, rest!
  14. by   Lausana
    Wendy, I had no idea of your illness (((hugs to you))) hope the fevers down & you're resting comfortably now...

    You are too valuable of a sibling to lose...even if it was only temporary...check in as life permits...I'm sure that Vegas will continue to stroll the BB and make it a safe & brash-free place to post

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