A Guy Thing

  1. Okay, here is the story- warning, long post. It feels weird sharing it with you guys but I feel like I know you all even though we've never met!
    Okay, there is this guy at my church who I have had a crush on for almost a year. Just recently the past few weeks have I got up the courage to start talking with him, and he is really nice and actually seems to enjoy talking with me unlike guys in the past, and almost always smiles and gives me a big hello when he sees me on campus! My problem is, I am impatient to know if he is interested in me, too. To the point where I have started getting grouchy with other people as my mood swings from "yes, maybe he is!" to "no way, me??"! I know it is crazy to be that interested in someone. I am still living my life of course, but I think about him a lot. I am not bold to go up and say Hey, I like you, do you like me? I think it would scare him/freak him out. I guess I should be willing to wait a little while and let him get to know me better. I don't know. He is an awesome person, very gentle and caring and a great sense of humor, and incredibly intelligent. So- what is you all's take on this? Am I being overly silly over "just a guy?" Thanks for your advice!
  2. 20 Comments

  3. by   Flynurse
    I don't know...

    Life is too short, tell him you like him.

  4. by   Rustyhammer
    Why not ask him out on a date.
    Speaking as a guy, we are pretty much clueless (to everything).
    Ask him out, get to know him and let him get to know you.
    The rest will fall into place.
  5. by   Flynurse
    Out of the horse's mouth!

  6. by   ats
    What Fly and Rusty said

    We always assume that nobody feels the same way we do... and that's just not so. Shy people come in all shapes and sizes -- and genders -- and maybe he's waiting for YOU to show you're interested.

    I'd wait until the next big hello, talk a bit, then suggest coffee or lunch. What have you got to lose, except the doubt? I don't want to be looking back in a few years and wondering "what if?" about so many things. Do you? If not, then start now, it's not as hard as you think, and each time you do it, it's that much easier.

    Good luck!
  7. by   alwaysthere
    Trust me ...Just go for it...he's probably wondering the same thing.
  8. by   perfectbluebuildings
    Thanks for the encouragement and confidence-boosting everyone- especially the guy's perspective, Rusty! I will probably see him in the morning and will "gather up" my courage and say something to him... and see how it goes! I'm nervous though!! but you're right flynurse- life is too short!
  9. by   RRMLPN
    Rachel, take a chance!! sit down over coffee (or whatever) just be yourself. let us know how it goes.
  10. by   CountrifiedRN
    I agree with everyone, go for it! I think most guys are flattered when they are asked out. Good luck! Be sure and update us here!
  11. by   perfectbluebuildings
    Well, you guys will be disappointed in me I am warning you. Today I had to help with a health fair in the fellowship hall after church and had to leave the service early so didn't get to talk with him then, and he didn't come to the health fair. Then I saw him in the cafeteria at lunch but he was sitting at a table full of people I don't know and I was nervous to go up and say anything to him. I kept trying to catch his eye but I think I was too subtle, I don't think eye-catching works unless you are an expert . If anything happens at supper I will let you know... but I am warning you, with my shyness, you will get incredibly impatient if you follow this situation, so it may be days before anything more happens. It will be s-l-oo-w. I don't blame you either, my friends get impatient too. I am just too cautious; it's habit and it's nature and it's hard to change those! But I will try if I can catch him at supper tonight. I really want to get to know him, I just get so scared, but scared never got anyone anywhere so I will try to get over it.
  12. by   CountrifiedRN
    Awww, it's ok! Just keep workin' on it and soon the right time and place will come up!
  13. by   perfectbluebuildings
    ok, I was walking with my friends to supper tonight and one of them pokes me and is whispering "rachel, rachel, rachel!!" he and another guy are coming directly toward us, running (he is on the cross country team) with his shirt off. I literally started to sweat and go weak, that sounds cheesy, I know "oh pleeease!" but it's true! I waved, and he said, "hey, how are you?" I said "good how are you?" and he said "good!" but he kept on running of course, runners don't just stop running, I know I am one too (though not nearly as dedicated as he is). So I could not really say anything. Right now I am sitting here wanting to call him. Can't decide. Okay by the way, if you guys get sick of hearing this sickening lovey-dovey crush type stuff that sounds like I am still in junior high, please let me know and I will desist from my posts! I tend to get carried away...
  14. by   perfectbluebuildings
    Oh guess what!! I just called and we are walking to a local ice cream parlor tomorrow and he said yes!! I am so excited!!!