~sigh~Daughter's being sent to Germany

  1. Dang.........just when I was getting into the holiday spirit and coming to terms with the fact that my seven-months-pregnant Army brat won't be home for Christmas, tonight I learned that she has received orders to go to Germany in March. For three years. Not only that, she wants to stay in the Army for another FIVE years, instead of getting out in 2010 as she'd planned.

    Now, I've long since understood, and accepted, that as a soldier she can be sent anywhere, at any time, for any length of time the Army decides. But since her MVA last year, and especially since she became pregnant and got married, I'd been hoping she'd get to remain Stateside, even if it was all the way across the country. No such luck. I know she wants to go, and I'm happy for her that she'll finally get to see something of the rest of the world; still, that's three long years that I won't get to see my little girl, let alone my grandson, so I'm feeling pretty blue right now.

    I know I should be thanking my lucky stars that she's not going to Iraq; of course, the injuries she sustained in the accident pretty much eliminated any chance of that, as she has severely limited ROM in her left hand. And I really am glad she'll get to experience some of the adventures for which she joined the military. She's been SO frustrated being stuck on a helicopter base in Alabama through her entire career thus far, and I'm even a little envious, for she will go places and do things I've never even dreamed of. But at the same time, I wish her adventures didn't have to take her so far away from home........from me.

    Well, them's the breaks, as they say. Sorry to be such a downer. I'll be OK---what choice do I have?---but this is sure a lousy time to find out that not only will my baby girl not be home, but half a world away NEXT Christmas.

    Why doesn't anyone ever tell mothers about the part of parenting when you have to let go?? Why doesn't anyone ever tell us how freaking HARD this is, how our hearts break again and again, no matter how many times we say good-bye to our children? WAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!
  2. 24 Comments

  3. by   prmenrs
    If you want I could send Juan up there to keep you busy for a little while. How long do you want him?
  4. by   dianah
    You may have my two teens as well . . .

    Big hugs, Marla . . I hurt for ya. I'm sure in spite of going to many new, exciting places, and being w/her husband and little one, she WILL miss her mom VERY much, and will be in touch as often as she can. No one can take your place.
  5. by   SmilingBluEyes
    one 14 year old boy, for rent cheap.

    hormones free.

    hang in there Marla. I am sorry I know you will miss her..and the babies.
  6. by   prmenrs
    Does she know where she's going in Germany? My sister worked for DoD as a school teacher in Vilseck, Germany. It was a small tank base. Also a small town. She met and married her husband there.
  7. by   NRSKarenRN
    Start stashing that cash for a VACATION in Germany......it's always been in the back of your mind to visit there....

    Don't forget to ask Santa for a computer camera so the 2 of you can stay in visual touch!
  8. by   Mimi2RN
    Sorry she's going, but MUCH better than it could be. Start thinking about a trip to Germany, it's a relatively small country, and so much to see.

    Watch Rick Steves on PBS, he does a wonderful travel show, has lots of good ideas. We stayed at some of the places he suggested on a trip a couple of years ago, and hope we can go again some time.
  9. by   jnette
    Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh......... GERMANY !!!

    ooops... I'm supposed to be empathizing here, sorry Marla ! :imbar

    I know it is hard on you, Marla.. the thoughts of her being so far away for so LONG, mostly. But she will get to fly home on occasion, and yes, you CAN start saving extra pennies and plan a trip over there. And she might even decide to fly home Christmas next year, who knows?

    Enjoy her this Christmas... love and dote on her all you can. It's great that she'll be with you this year.

    And yes.. Germany is awesome. Sadly, not as American friendly as when I lived there, but for the most part, they do still like Americans, just not its politics.

    Do find out just where she's being stationed, and I can tell you about the area.. what's to see and do. If she's going to southern Germany, she will love it... mountains, foothills, chalets, cowbells, Oktoberfest, greeeeeeeeeat German beer !

    Sis Pati used to conduct tours all over there and I know she'll be happy to give her some ideas of where to go, what to see, when, etc. And of course I'll be more than happy to give her tips as well.

    I do hope she takes advantage of getting out and seeing and experiencing all she can while she's there..Rhine River Cruise, slipping over to Austria to visit Mozart's Salzburg... of course Switzerland, France, Italy, Spain, Netherlands ... all within a couple hours drive. She may never have another opportunity, so now's the time!

    Take heart, dear Friend. I know it's not that you deny her the opportunities, but the simple fact that you're going to miss her so.

    And I fully understand.. believe me.

    Warmest (((hugs))) Marla. :icon_hug:
    Last edit by jnette on Nov 19, '06
  10. by   jnette

    overnight stays for a quick honeymoon refresher in one of these is a delight...

    she can learn to ski, of she doesn't already...

    a hotair balloon ride over the neuschwanstein castle, perhaps?

    above all, have her do her homework and find out what's available to see and do in her area...

    here's a good place to start:

    (and ummm.... you could always take me along to do all your translating for you !!! ) :d

    germany tourism - travel, holiday, vacation

    the castles of germany

    castles pictures rhine river castle germany medieval german picture hotels valley cruise cruises hotel medival map neuschwanstein middle ages black forest famous frankfurt romantic old rhein rooms european information houses mosel rivers towers fairy

    and a must see if she's anywhere near munich (pati gave tours here as well) dachau concentration camp

    lanacos: countries: germany

    of course if you choose, (and can work it out) you can plan on spending christmas with her there next year instead, and partake in their rich christmas customs:

    christmas customs in germany

    germany tourism - travel, holiday, vacation
    Last edit by jnette on Nov 19, '06
  11. by   Altra
    Hugs, mjlrn ... my sister, brother-in-law & my 9-month old nephew have been stationed in Germany for almost 2 months now, and they expect to be there for up to 2 years. Uncertain whether BIL will be sent to Iraq. I still can't quite get my head around the fact that they won't be here for the holidays.
  12. by   traumaRUs
    Now Marla - there are airplanes that go to Germany! Get on expedia and get your tickets booked!

    Good luck.
  13. by   NursesRmofun
    Quote from mjlrn97
    Dang.........just when I was getting into the holiday spirit and coming to terms with the fact that my seven-months-pregnant Army brat won't be home for Christmas, tonight I learned that she has received orders to go to Germany in March. For three years. Not only that, she wants to stay in the Army for another FIVE years, instead of getting out in 2010 as she'd planned.
    Sorry to hear that, for your sake! <sigh> I almost had an army brat. She went through basic and then got out....honorably with a medical thing. I was lucky in some way cause I don't have to miss her or worry as much, I feel. Hope the five years go fast and uneventful...safely for her.
  14. by   leslie :-D
    (((oh marla))),

    how thrilling for your dtr, even if mom is devastated.
    i too, would look at this as a unique opportunity in visiting germany.

    i'm sorry i'm not being more sympathetic.
    my dd is 17 and lately, i can't wait til she moves out. :chuckle